Explain the way u think finding a partner and dating should work and be as specific as possible please and thanks?

[Gangactivities911]

Like I have tried for years to understand your behavior and no matter how hard I try I just can’t make sense of it. Part of me thinks there is actually just no logic too it but part of me thinks that I’m just missing something. Do you think you should date one person at a time until u find one that you like and keep them? Do u think u should make a bunch of friends first and then slowly figure out one to date? Why is it that every girl I’ve ever shown interest in in my whole life Acted like I was being ridiculous for it? Yet only girls I’ve not shown interest in have wanted to date me. And it doesn’t matter how attractive or unattractive they are. Why is that when women are dating a guy they are generally always still looking at other guys? Is a relationship to you guys like a test run for serious commitment and not an actual commitment I don’t understand? What’s the point of a relationship to you? And why do u guys always want to rush into marriage? What’s the point of rushing into marriage? Etc

[LazerBean]

I just talked to guys for a while. We always made it clear what we were looking for in a relationship. We would talk about all the important aspects of our lives and beliefs. If something wasn't compatible, we moved on. Once I found a guy who was on the same page as me on everything he started hanging out with my family to see how well he integrated. Once we saw that everything was smooth and how we wanted, we got married. That's it.

[Gangactivities911]

How quickly into meeting a guy is it acceptable for him to ask for a date? Can he just walk up to u have a quick convo with u get ur number and then ask to hang out soon afterwards?

[LazerBean]

Yeah, I never minded guys asking right off the bat. I always let them know pretty immediately that I was only interested in getting to know guys for the purpose of marriage, not casual dating, but that was never a problem for them.

[Gangactivities911]

Why is it that if I approach 100 random women and this isn’t just my experience I’ve never heard a guy who’s done this say otherwise. If I approach 100 random women I see anywhere at school at a bar wherever and I have a conversation with them and get their number when I try to ask them to hangout a few days later 95-99% will not be interested. Why is that?

[LazerBean]

I only associate with certain types of people. All but one of the guys who have approached me have been good, conservative Christian guys. Our whole dating system is different. It's a lot more traditional, so girls are more open to being approached because they already know the guys that approach them are less likely to be scumbags. If we do turn someone down, it's bc we are already in a relationship or something about they guy gives us scumbag vibes.

[Gangactivities911]

How do I not come off as a scumbag then cuz like i am legitimately looking for a relationship it’s it’s the right girl. Im not a Christian I am conservative tho but almost all the girls I’d normally go for are liberal. Like I do have a scary goth look most of the time. But im bubbly and friendly and I like to wear feminine looking makeup so I can’t be that scary seeming can I?

[Gangactivities911]

Is it moreso what the guy says or how the guy looks that gives that vibe or both?

[LazerBean]

Both, but looking/acting feminine is usually an immediate no for the majority of conservative women. And if you're going for liberal I do t really know what to tell you. Like I said, I only associate with certain types of people.