Is adoption or a surrogate mother my only options?

[LonelyAndBig]

I really, really want to be a father. I want to be the best dad ever. The problem I am having is that I never had a real girlfriend and I am approaching my 30s. I only want a woman without a romantic past, meaning no previous first love or boyfriend. It is heartbreaking because I almost had that, but the woman I wanted to be with dumped me on the first date. Now, I feel like I will never find my future wife.

Yes

No

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[OlderAndWiser]

1. You have absolutely unrealistic expectations for a partner. This leads me to suspect that you really don't want a partner but will never admit that, so you establish an insurmountable obstacle for any woman who might be a candidate. Now you can blame the failure of women rather tha accepting responsibility for this situation.

2. Your question talks about what YOU want but not what you have to give to a child. That is not how a good parent thinks.

3. Believe it or not, a single parent cannot adequately do the job of a good mother and a good father. You are choosing to deprive your child of having a mother in his or her life. Have you considered whether that would be in the best interest of your child?

[worldscolide]

Absolutely correct in all regards. Though i believe the user is trolling. If you read his responses and the responses from the women.

[LonelyAndBig]

@worldscolide

No, I seek a woman without a romantic past for reasons I have evaluated for years. First loves are special and hold a special place in one's heart. Maybe it is because it was the first, or maybe because that person shared their youth with someone else. Also, there is the hypothetical situation that exists to where a woman can reunite with someone from her youth and it be a sweeter, more desirable outcome, even if she chooses to remain with me.

[Guy13]

You are dreaming or very bored. Have you considered going to a counselor?

[wittymilf]

Your standards will ensure you misery 🤷‍♀️ L. Don’t become a dad, you might have a daughter and she might make choices that you don’t like and then you won’t be able to love her anymore.

[LonelyAndBig]

What do you mean?

[wittymilf]

You can’t love a woman who has made her own choices in life?

[LonelyAndBig]

I cannot love a woman who has already had her first love, especially from her youth.

[wittymilf]

Right, become a oedophile then

[wittymilf]

Better still adopt the perfect girl. Grow her into exactly what you want.

[LonelyAndBig]

Why? I should be able to find a nice girl 18+ that has never had a boyfriend or a romantic connection with a guy before. Right?

[wittymilf]

No. You will never. You will miss out on millions of nice girls. Because you think your better than everyone

[wittymilf]

Anyway. I’m bout to block you now. This shit bored me. All the best with your adoption

[NathanDavis]

@LonelyAndBig

aren't you the same guy who has made multiple accounts on this site... and already has a restriction order for sexually harassing and stalking a minor in person?

because with that kind of record, they should not let you adopt... ever

[La_isla_bonita23]

My aunt's husband became a father at the age of 62... I mean you are still very young and there is nothing to worry about!

[Anonymous]

Considering your responses to the ladies, and you block/delete people who tell you the truth. im not going to leave a useful comment. Instead i will suggest you grow up, and stop acting like a child.

[LonelyAndBig]

Who did I block? I only blocked one person on here because she was being insulting to me.

[Opinion Owner]

A friend of mine commented that it would be near impossible to find considering that women our age typically have dozens or more sex partners, and usually within a year of graduating high school. or sometimes before.

[LonelyAndBig]

There has to be a way, because I really want to be a father. I always wanted a girlfriend, ever since I was a kid. Sadly, that never became a reality.

[Opinion Owner]

i dont disagree with that. The first love part, the never had a sex partner part is going to be the impossible ask. Thats like asking a woman to ignore men and be celibate until she's nearly thirty. Most women just won't do that unless she's like Amish or SUPER religious.

[LonelyAndBig]

I like younger women too. She can be 18, 19, or even in her early 20s.

[Opinion Owner]

yet again i mention this. Even as young as 18 she's very unlikely to be a virgin. Very unlikely. The stats on it are literally 1 in 1000, or 0.1% chance.

[LonelyAndBig]

Where did you get those statistics? Plus, it has more so to do with whom she LOVED more than it does her virginity.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah im not going to do your home work for you. if you want to know, google is your friend. Its also very dependent on your country. with women love and sex go hand in hand, unless she was raped or into casual sex, which statistically women dont do well, they almost always get feelings for the person she is with.

[Anonymous]

Give it a rest.

[LonelyAndBig]

It is heartbreaking to me, especially as I get older