Polls: Relationships

Also if he has some interesting hobbies that matches yours, for example if both of you are musicians. Would you ever consider marrying such a man regardless of his height and build? By short I mean he is shorter than other males but of a similar height as you or taller than you.

On the weekends, my girlfriend sometimes sits with me while I'm taking my morning dump. We literally, just talk and drink our coffee. Some of our friends think this is weird, but her and I are just very comfortable around each other and we really don't think anything of it.

Is it really that strange, or is it normal to do things like this when you are in a relationship with someone?

My girlfriend is an alcoholic, I have been with her for 5 years and living together for a year.

Her problems worsened around the time of the pandemic and her depression has worsened since then and she has become dependent on alcohol.

She will be fine when I leave for work in the morning but when I come home in the evening she will be semi conscious on the floor and there will be 2-3 empty bottles in the recycling.

Way back (approx 10-12 years ago?) her father cheated on her mother and broke up the family unit. Years later her mother is now back living with the father though they are NOT in a relationship.

We have had numerous interactions with medical professionals and one issue that keeps coming up is the break up of the family caused by her father's infidelity and lying she says "he broke my heart".

I have tried to involve her parents in her recovery by keeping them informed and have asked the father to engage in counselling with my girlfriend to try and get her past this. She had had counselling for this issue for the past decade but he never engaged with her on it and no-one in the family is allowed to talk about it.

Her father has now taken a very aggressive stance towards me since I raised the subject. He has asked me to leave his daughter and suggested she break up with me as I am a 'Toxic' person. My question is do I stay and fight it out to get her the closure I really believe she needs or do I leave which will mean at 35 she goes back to living with her mother and father? I'm at a loss to know as I love her but not the person the alcohol is making her become.

Nobody wants to be a door mat or a victim. But forgiveness isn’t necessarily about letting someone off the hook or just forgetting what happened. Its about letting go a past transgressions.

There are also spiritual reasons for this. I know I’ve harmed people in the past (most unintentionally but not always). But I can’t expect to be forgiven if I don’t forgive others.

I think a lot people on GAG including myself have big hang ups about being harmed by others in the past. It might be good to ventilate about it but to dwell on it forever isn’t helpful.

Pretty sure this a universal truth.

All my former friends are married, just about all with kids, some multiple. I am turning 29 this weekend and never even had a girlfriend. I am really bummed about it.

I am really not interested in women with kids or divorced women. I am really wanting a woman where we can be each other's first real relationship. I feel I am just about out of time. I feel before long, I will be lucky to find a woman without kids, and of course, women who are in their early 20s will see me as "old".

Whether this is texting, or meeting up with your partner, what frequency is expected for you?