A girl who thinks the Notebook is the most romantic movie a redflag?

[Drewtate]

Let me give you a recap. The chicken meets Ryan Gosling & falls in love but her family doesn't think he good enough so she moves away and meets and falls in love with a 2nd guy who becomes her fiancee but then Ryan Gosling comes to town and she starts banging him and then tells her fiancee that she loves him but is going off with Alpha male Ryan Gosling. So many women's favourite romantic movie is really a movie about a cheating whore. How many other Romance movies are about cheating?

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[DextroShade]

It a classic tale of an alpha widow, but I would say a much bigger red flag is Titanic: a story about a woman who cheats on her fiance with a homeless man who draws nudes of her, leaves him to die, steals a priceless diamond, ghosts her fiance, and later on lies her way onboard an expedition to the ship to find the diamond, and instead to giving it to the men who were nice enough to recover her nude drawings from the bottom of the sea or leave it for her family she drops it in the ocean. Easily the worst movie I have ever seen.

[IceCreamSandwich]

Both sides are very toxic. Anyone who thinks that movie is a great romance is a red flag, man or woman. It's an interesting story, but it's not healthy. Many parts of it shouldn't be romanticized.

[DaisyM23]

i think people generally like the 'growing old and literally dying together' trope more than the actual breakup, family drama, love triangle etc but i guess it can also be about overcoming those odds to be together? it's cute sure but i personally don't find it the most romantic

[Apple1996]

I'm just gonna be honest here. I've never watched that movie so no idea

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My favorite love movie was “A Walk To Remember” when I was younger.

[Mansearching]

Its an ok movie. I didn't realize until the end that she developed alzhimers and he was reading her journal to her. It was sad that she couldn't remember any of it.

I say good for him.

[Anonymous]

Well, I didn't watch the film but what if she was coerced into the marriage? We have arranged marriages in my country and many a times it has come to attention 1 or the other ends up cheating because they are not attracted to their spouse but can't divorce due to family pressure.

I would give those cheaters some leeway at least

[Drewtate]

Sorry but coerced unless she had a gun to her head. Time we all started treating women as adults.

[Opinion Owner]

I said both ways not just woman. It's not just the woman and it's a lot to do with familial pressure. Oh what will your family think if I cheated on her and oh what a sham he is a divorced man etc. Not everyone is nice to divorced men either. It's a divorced people's problem not a divorced woman problem.
So, it's a problem for both genders and not just one

[inhua]

leave it up to feminists to romanticize cheating and "toxic" relationships with hot bad boys

don't forget Forrest Gump, Survival Island, Twilight, After and 50 Shades of Grey

[thegreenyogi]

It could be a red flag or could it just be she's extremely romantic and loves the idea of experiencing an incredibly passionate and intense love story?

[Drewtate]

It's romantic to be cheating and banging two guys?

[thegreenyogi]

I would urge you to look at the bigger picture. It's not about the woman sleeping with two men that makes women love that film. It's about the love story as whole and the fact that she ends up with the love of her life which is Ryan Gosling...

[Drewtate]

The bigger picture is that the female character lacks morality.

[thegreenyogi]

You seem to have made up your mind.

[Drewtate]

Cheating is cheating. If in real life I was the Ryan Gosling character I wouldn't want to be in a serious relationship with after I wasn't good enough before, she went off with another guy and cheated on that guy with me, I could never be sure of her loyalty. The old saying goes if she cheat she belongs to the Streets.

[Catarine]

She's a romantic, how would that be a red flag, she just told you that she would like a romantic guy at "worst" and that she just likes that movie at "best"

[Inevitable-outcome]

I think the bigger question is if she thinks it's real life advice.

You can separate fiction from real life. If I were to stop liking every film because it was toxic I would hardly be left with any films. There is definitely a deficit of 'healthy dynamic' romantic films, I can barely think of one. For that matter a lot of genres are messed up when you dig deep.

[DarkLegacy]

Yes it is a red flag, she clearly relates to this film.

[Anonymous]

I haven't seen the movie so I don't know what it's about, but why would someone favorite movie be a red flag?

[DarkLegacy]

Films can tell a story of how certain people can be, if she likes this film so much perhaps it is because she relates to it

[Opinion Owner]

@DarkLegacy nonsense.

[Drewtate]

Absolutely if she identifies with a female character who cheats its an indication as to wh she really is

[Opinion Owner]

You two are overthinking, you should get out of your mother's basement sometime.

[Drewtate]

Lol I wish I was living in my mother's basement, cheaper rent and more space than my current apartment. Home cooked meals too.

[RavVid]

How can it not be if she is romanticizing cheating?

[RealMarek]

Not as big of a red flag as Sex and the City.

[Exterminatore]

Excellent point.

[HappyWoman34]

I think it’s an annoying movie.

[Exterminatore]

Yeah. Good point bro!

[_no_one_]

Its literally me

[Anonymous]

Maybe try watching the movie next time.

[Christoff92]

Don't know.