I think my best guy friend is in love with me?

[Bgurl2_0]

I think my best guy friend is secretly in love with me. When I started dating my boyfriend, he tried everything to break him and I up. He tried to say that my boyfriend is a liar and that I’m blinded by love. He then tried to get my boyfriend to prove to him that my boyfriend loves me. Then he said long distance relationships don’t work out because people can act different in person (which I guess is understandable, but none of his business). He then asked me out on April Fools Day and I of course said no and he got butt hurt. And just now he tried to prove to my boyfriend that he knows more about me than my boyfriend. And he’s tried to protect me from getting hurt. Aren’t those the actions of someone who’s in love with me? Please tell me cause I need answers.

Yes, he’s in love with you

He’s just jealous that you’re in a relationship

He’s just probably wants to have a one night stand with you.

[BadApple69]

So here is my opinion. I too had a friend for 10 years and we just started dating. I know what its like caring for someone and watching her date others.
Your friend is right about many things:



Your boyfriend is probably lying to you... Us stupid men do that. Maybe small lies but lies.


You probably are blinded by love. We all are when we first date.


Your friend does probably know more about you then the boyfriend does.


And I’m sure the friend does love you. Us guys don’t hang around girls we don’t care about.


I doubt this is any help because you already know all this. You know it deep down it’s all true.

[Twalli]

Before you were dating he was probably the number 1 man in your life. He might have been just a friend then and didn't know or realize that he had romantic feelings, because he never has to compete, so the feelings were buried. Now he does and realizes that he wants to be your number 1 guy and actually loves you. The other possibility is that he was only being your friend to eventually date you and is pissed that he didn't get to ask you out.

[Bgurl2_0]

Thing is he did and I said no because I’m with someone I love.

[Twalli]

Do you love him (your friend)? Plus he asked you on Alril Fools Day which can be taken as a joke. My guess is that he didn't realize that his love for you was romantic until it was no longer given to him, or he missed the chance to ask you out when that was his plan all along. If it's the former, this ended to happen for him to realize, but he will want to date you after this relationship ends. If it's the latter, you need to find out if he actually enjoys the things you do, or if he just pretended to so he'd eventually get you to date him.

[Bgurl2_0]

I don’t wanna say the answer because I know I’m gonna sound like a b*ch. So I’ll say this. I love my boyfriend more. He’s been there for me more and knows what goes on behind closed doors. My best guy friend May know me, but he don’t know my life fully.

[Twalli]

I don't mean are you in love with your friend. Do you love him? I love plenty of people, but I am only in love with my girlfriend.

[Bgurl2_0]

Yeah, I do. But…no. I shouldn’t say.

[WhitneySnow]

He really liked you. I don't know about love. Do you like him that way?

[Bgurl2_0]

To be honest with you. I still kinda do. It’s not something I wanna talk about. I’m deeply in love with my boyfriend and I believe that he wants to take it to the next level (my boyfriend). But I don’t wanna lose my best guy friend. We had a fight once and we didn’t talk for a year. I hated every moment. When he had his girlfriend at the time over at his place, he never came in camera, so I couldn’t apologize. It felt like he died. It was heart breaking.

[WhitneySnow]

You need to talk to him about this

[Kelly6]

he's a guy, most guys even fall in love with female friend

[Bgurl2_0]

I 100% believe this too. But he had his chance with me and didn’t get it and he probably now regrets it.

[Kelly6]

totally agree,
why don't you accept him?

[Bgurl2_0]

What do you mean why don’t I accept him?

[coachTanthony]

Most guys who are friends with women want to secretly smash and are just waiting for that crack so they can slide into that can. Love has nothing to do with it lol

[OlderAndWiser]

And how do you feel about your male friend?

[Bgurl2_0]

I think I’m always gonna have feelings for him, but I have a boyfriend now and I’m in love with my boyfriend. My boyfriend’s the one I wanna marry and have kids with.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. You don't need to discuss this openly and reject your friend. Just find a way to tell him that you love your boyfriend, you are expecting to receive a marriage proposal, and your answer will be "yes!". That will tell him all he needs to know.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would say there's one more option. He may simply feel as though he's losing a best friend and being replaced by your boyfriend.

If you are someone he confides in, he may not be in love with you or jealous, he just sees it potentially being the beginning of the end. Of course he's gonna be saddened by that.

As far as trying to protect you from your boyfriend, it's what any friend would do to make sure he doesn't hurt you and you are making the right decision. I don't doubt he's doing it to protect his own interests too, but it may not be for the reason you think.

[midnightmoon05]

Exactly why I always said there is no such thing as good/best friends with the opposite gender.
just friends yes. It’s none of his business…. he is not your best friend. He wants to be with you.

what are you planning to do about this “best friend”. ?
be mature and be kind…tell him, he is a good guy and deserves to be happy. Tell him to go find a woman…then tell him you will disconnect with him. Until the day…he had a wedding set to invite you and your hubby.
I hope you are not selfish to keep him around to waste his time.

[spartan55]

Okay, this is all great, but what are you doing keeping SS (super simp) around? I will guess it is for free ego stroke and validation. You should really end the friendship. What you are doing is pretty shitty.

[Bgurl2_0]

How am I the shitty one? He’s manipulating the situation for his own benefit. You don’t know HALF the shit he’s done. And I also used to like him. But he never gave me a chance then.

[boggboss]

Why are u still friends with him if he is so clearly not got your best interests at heart or do u love the attention

[Bgurl2_0]

I stay because I consider him my best friend. We’ve been friends for seven years. That’s not easy to let go of. Him and I both tried, but we just couldn’t do it.

[boggboss]

Wo instead u will keep someone in your life that u know wants the downfall for your relationship how is this a serious relationship when you are actively keeping friends that want to be with u and want this to fail do u not see how disrespectful that is to the relationship

[Billlewis]

There are a lot of things you can call this, but, 'It's Not Love'

https://www.youtube.com/embed/KXc7IAtALP8

[jeffend888]

You're getting to an age where it's time to cut off male friends. You should be discussing nuclear family plans by now and getting ready to get married. Friends of the opposite sex only cause drama - case in point.

[Bgurl2_0]

I don't know if my boyfriend is ready for that yet. He did ask me a question about if we had a son, would I put him in football. Granted, he was at his little brother’s football game, but it makes it sound like he’s ready.

[jeffend888]

Ok, there you go. Time to start cutting off male friends. They serve no purpose in your life going forward.

[balyai]

He's jealous of you and wants you to be his.

You should stop talking to your friend before he creates problems in your relationship

[MJtheCoach]

If the girls have male best, friends or close friends, they have deep, psychological issues. If they can’t get along with their own genders, that means they’re the problem. 100% percent of females aren’t the issue..

[djmzes]

Simple

Go and ask him

[Staximus]

I don't see why you are not in a relationship with this guy who is always there instead of some long distance fake relationship

[Bgurl2_0]

Umm…. he’s far away too.

[Still-alive]

I know this may not be what you want to hear but just reading your second sentence and i can already tell you need to drop this 'friend' of yours. This is pretty toxic behavior on his part.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him explicit details of fucking your boyfriend and how much you love his cock. Do that a couple of times and he'll STFU. You may find it works after one go.

[Anonymous]

Boys n girls can never be a friend without personal self interest

[Bgurl2_0]

That’s true cause I used to like him. And now I’m pretty sure he likes me. He seems to be a protector of me a lot and he would probably defend me if someone tried some stupid shit with me. Plus not only that, we bicker a lot which can show frustration about something on his part. You know?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I feel you...
I can relate myself to your story
And now we became best fuck buddies...

I have 90% similar to your situation

[Anonymous]

Why are you still friends with him? Are you stupid? He seems like a terrible friend.

[noohair]

No doubt, he loves you.

[Sabretooth]

bound to happen.

[Anonymous]

he's a manipulator

[Bgurl2_0]

My best guy friend? Yeah, he probably is. And it’s probably toxic for me and my boyfriend to hang around him.

[Anonymous]

Jealous