I think I like my best guy friend more than my boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

I met both my boyfriend and best guy friend on the same day at the same time about 8 or 9 years ago and I have had feelings for both of them. 3 years ago I started dating one of them who is my current boyfriend and sometime early in our relationship my best friend declared his love for me and at the time I told him that I can’t just get rid of my boyfriend because my best friend decided to announce his love. As time has gone on I have started to notice all these little things about my boyfriend that I don't like and all the things about my best friend that he’s always done for me to make me happy. I talk to my best friend about everything and anything personal more so than I do with my boyfriend because he never knows how to answer me or what to say to anything that I tell him. I love my boyfriend a whole lot and I really love my best friend in a sense of friends because I have never dated him before but sometimes I feel that I made the wrong decision with my current boyfriend. My best friend has always been there to help me anyway he can and he tries to flirt with me from time to time and tells me he always worries about my happiness but I’m just not sure about my situation right now. When I have tried to talk to my boyfriend about our relationship and things he does that really bother me, but every time I do he gets upset and depressed and we don’t go anywhere with our talks and I just don’t want to hurt him.

[babygirltiffie]

hmm. this is definitely tough. in my opinion I see it as you love your boyfriend but your best friend too. who do you love more? do they love you back just as much? I see it as if you love someone else more and they feel the same explain to your boyfriend you don't think its fair to him to be with you when you love another guy more. if the other guy didn't then I would say take the one who does love you back, being your boyfriend. on another note, if your boyfriend gets upset and depressed when you NEED to talk to him about something important, like the relationship, then I don't think its a very good relationship to be in. you can't walk on eggshells or hide your feelings or worries or anything like that just so he won't get upset. I was kinda in the same situation, ill explain and maybe it might help a little. I've been in love with a guy for a long time, I've had a crush on him since probably 4th or 5th grade(iim a sophomore now) and my feelings only got stronger. I'm still in love with him to this very day(but I won't go into that). I was dating a guy and I started to feel kind of like the exact same as you, I couldn't talk to him as much as I could talk to my friend who I'm in love with, there's a lot of flaws I really didn't like. my friend had a lot of qualities my boyfriend didn't. I ended up telling him I didn't think it was fair to him for me to date him and be in love with another guy, so we broke up. I've had to turn down some nice guys since, I just can't date anyone else even though me and my friend are having issues right now(I posted a Q all about it recently) because it isn't fair or right...they should be able to have all my love. if there's someone that makes you more happy or you love more and you have a chance with them for sure, id go for it. if not, and your boyfriend is the next in line that you love alot, then stay with him if your heart tells you to. I hope I helped a little.

[sedwar3]

In general, I would be inclined to say, work things out with your boyfriend. A lot of girls (and guys) get the feeling that the grass is greener on the other side. That's because your real boyfriend who has real flaws has to compete with your friend who doesn't have to do any work in the relationship and hasn't shown you his extensive list of flaws yet.

But I'm not going to suggest that you stay with your boyfriend in this case.

It sounds like you genuinely have a deeper connection with your friend. Your communication and respect for each other is invaluable. And you also sound like you trust him quite a bit. And trust is the most important thing for a woman to have if she wants a good relationship.

You have known your boyfriend for long enough to know what he has to offer. You have also known your best friend for long enough to know what he has to offer. So I don't think it's a matter of being blinded by a few good moments here and there.

What's more than that, you best friend sounds like he genuinely cares about you with or without sex being on the table. It sounds like he really respects you and wants what's best for you... not what's best for him. This kind of love does not come along everyday.

Either way, I wish you all the best!

[brookeyyy]

I had the same problem. I tried to break up with my boyfriend to see what happened with my best friend and I. But my boyfriend couldn't deal with the break up and was depressed and all types of messed up which I guess made me feel guilty and my best friend I guess noticed how the guilt of the break up was eating at me and he took that as a sign that I wasn't over my boyfriend. So he dumped me before we even had a chance and I went back to my boyfriend. Now he's dating some girl and part of me feels guilty and regrets it. I mean my relationship now is fine but I still have those small feelings for my best friend that'll never go away and part of me feels trapped.

My suggestion is go for it. Go for your best friend. If you love him more than you should be with him. It's possible to love two people at one time but if you really loved the boyfriend more than you wouldn't of fallen for your best friend.

[MacTyson]

You should go out with your besty, I wish my best gal friend liked me like this ^ chances are he likes you too but A: you have a boyfriend B: can't tell because friendship is like a curtin hiding the true feelings and C: he doesn't want to ruin your friendship if you don't feel the exact same way... that's how it is with me any way

[jacki2424]

this stage of your relationship, you have to talk about it and resolve it with your boyfriend. you need to figure out how to communicate better and determine how serious things will get in the future. and you need to determine if you want a future together or if you want someone else.

[celenaelmirah]

whether you end up hurting him or not, yer involved in the outcome of yer decision too. don't forget that. in any relationship yer gonna eventually find things about yer partner that tick you off more than anything, and that's part of the endurance you need to stay in a relationship. if you break things off with yer boyfriend and date yer best friend, I think you'll be a lot happier. but don't do it if the two guys are friends! thatd be horrible D: but either way, I think you should end the relationship yer in now. its not a healthy thing to put yerself in, whether you love each other or not. there are problems and he's refusing to work them out with you. the relationship is doomed because there isn't any partnership

[pixeigirl3329]

ok the same thing was happening to me and I didn't no what to do. then I talk to my best guy friend about it and he said that he doesn't care just aslong as I'm happy. then I tryed to talk about it with my boyfriend and he didn't listen so then I asked my best girl friend and she said that I should go with the one that's always been there for me and will never hurt me. and the one that I can still me close to even if we broke up. that was o tough desision to make and it took me 2 weeks to deside and then finally I said that I'm gonna go with my best guy friend and now my and my ex boyfriend never to anymore so that's how I new my best guyfriend was the right one. you sould just go with the one you trush the most and remember to listen to your heart and never give up till you made the right choose and you are happy.

[sigsauer45]

Witch one of this guy so you have more filling for you now boyfriend or you,r best guy friend and if you,r best friend love you and he has told you how he fills tell him what you think about all that and just be up open with him but you don,t what to heart him so just tell what you are thing about him and stop biting around the bush with you,r best friend and you,r now boyfriend if you don,t deal with this you may just lose them both

[lericah]

Well your decision is pretty clear you need to calmly drop your boyfriend and start dating your friend, I know contradictory word but try not to drop the booyfriend hard and try not to charge the guyfriend with emotions

[--phil--]

well than if your boyfriend does not now how to answer to your problems and if he has things you don't like about him than I suggest you tell him but you can message me if you want and ill help you out

[birrju]

100% he will use urs and will good bye to say

I mean just try to spy him that is the best way to know him quite well, and after that you will realize what he thought about yourself

then you decide

[Anonymous]

ok my best friend is going through the same exact thing but she hasn't known the guys as long be with the one your most comfortable with the one you can share your feelings with better the one when you hug them you feel the more passion be there stand for the one you love more think the one you can live with more happy

[Anonymous]

It's the age old battle between what you want and what you need. From what I can tell, trust me when I say you will soon start wanting what you need.

[Anonymous]

lol, that's not good at all.

[Anonymous]

Then go out with him.