Polls: Relationships

My fiancée is from China and Mandarin is her native language. Her English vocabulary is very good although her pronunciation of American English follows Mandarin rules rather than American English rules.

She has taught me a few expressions in Mandarin: hello, I love you, have you lost your mind? But she acts as if I am incapable of learning her language and she is not interested in teaching me. Every evening, she speaks on the phone - in Mandarin - with family and friends. Maybe she doesn't want me to understand what they are saying, but I think she may just be insecure about her ability to teach me Mandarin.

I may purchase language CD's and listen to them every weekday when I am going to and coming from work. The language thing is frustrating, but. . . she is the kindest, most gentle soul I have ever known, I love her, and she loves me.

What is your experience dating someone whose native language is not YOUR native language?

I literally have multiple people telling me very private things such as how they were raped, I have confidential financial information and so on. No, you can't go through my phone, EVER! It's like my diary, my mailbox, my checkbook and library research history all wrapped into one plus more. Would you want to date some psycho girl who wants to look at what books you checked out of a library at all times?

"But you don't trust her!"

It doesn't matter how much you trust someone, boundaries are a thing and personal privacy is a thing🤦 Trust doesn't mean you get to examine every little detail of my life with a microscope, that actually means you don't trust me at all. It amazes me how many of you have no concept of boundaries or privacy.

I am nearing 29, and I never had a real girlfriend. I don't have regular friends to hang out with on a Friday night or weekend. I just ate at a crowded restaurant all by myself. I feel so unwanted and feel like people view me as a creep or a misfit because I am that socially awkward loner.