Should a stay at home spouse have dinner ready and do the dishes when the other person works 12+ hour days?

[Charliefretz329]

Yes

No

[matchrestore]

Generally yes, but that's all dependent on what their other tasks for the day are as well. If he/she has been shuttling the kids around all day, doing deep cleaning, filing the years taxes, and/or at the vet with the cats, etc then he/she's been working all day as well and you should definitely help prepare the meal.

[Charliefretz329]

Definitely agree

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm not even stay at home, but I get off at 3:30 every day, and when I wasn't single, every day at 6-630 dinner was ready, consisting of 2-5 courses, usually of healthy delicious food. One night a week we'd have junk food night and I'd make hotdogs or something, but even those would be finished with truffle oil, or tempura battered and air fried with homemade kimchi. I ask only that you load the dishwasher and empty it in return.

[Midnight_Kiss]

It depends on the circumstances, if the stay at home spouse is raising young children during the day or caring for a vulnerable family member then no because you're both working just as hard as the other and house work including meals should be split, however if they are just staying home and lazing around then they should do all the house work including cooking meals.

[Apple1996]

Not if they are busy doing other things. Most of the time dinner is the most crazy time of the day for stay at home parents. That's cry o'clock at my house so very hard to cook or clean during that time when everyone is crying 😭

[Charliefretz329]

It is understandable with your babies Ms Apple. You are very busy.

[BlackJeep]

A stay at home spouse would only be someone who enjoys cooking and cleaning. Nobody wants a lazy spouse. Cooking is my stress release so I want to cook most days

[Charliefretz329]

I also love cooking. But there is little time when I get home at 630 and bedtime is 9pm. I cook large meals and we eat leftovers often.

[Anonymous]

A stay at home parent/spouse have the same working hours as you. They work when you work and when you’re off work they’re off work too and you share whatever household chores or childrearing there is to do in that time equally. So yeah, having dinner ready for the spouse when they come home is to expected but not to do the dishes as you’re not at work, and neither are they, after you finished the meal. So you do it every other day or divide it some other way so it’s equal.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

12+ must be a hard job, so having the food and dishes ready is only fair. Or maybe having raw fruits as supper is also ideal. Fruits needn’t to be cooked. The stay-at-home spouse can just wash them and peel them.

[Nigjt]

I mean it like this it all depends on the couples himself me and my girls I don't do the cooking for I have enough females to wear there's always a few around so they are always cooking and cleaning I guess I just been lucky that way because I just added one yesterday thank you watching me off today so now I have nine living with me.
God Bless

[Jazzy54]

There was a study done recently that stated that being a stay at home spouse/parent is equivalent to having two and a half jobs. Therefore, it’s more than just preparing dinner and doing the dishes.

[Charliefretz329]

Of course it is more than that.

[exitseven]

I don't get home until almoat 6PM. If I had to start cooking dinner than we would not be eating until almost bed time.

[Charliefretz329]

That’s my scenario.

[qwert1234]

Yes with exceptions.

Like for example, I would understand if there 3 or more kids but having 1-2 children should be manageable.

[Mansearching]

I wouldn't know. 2 incomes are better than one.

[Anonymous]

That’s for each couple to work out and decide, not for “society” to dictate.

[Dkc123]

If she's not doing that.. kick her out.

[boobliker]

I may be a good way to keep each other.