Polls: Relationships

Okay, so I was doing the usual single thing, getting to know people, going on a date here and there, etc.

There was one guy I had the hots for - I'm very attracted to him (he's the guy of my dreams looks wise but a bit of a dick) and we have the same interests. He was like a better version of my ex boyfriend. But it became clear that he was just looking for sex, and I was looking for more. We have never had sex or kissed or anything.

Anyway. We hadn't spoken for some time, and then I send him a message which said "hey how are you? Xx" simply because it occurred to me at work one day we hadn't spoken in a few weeks. After he didn't reply, I curiously went on his Facebook and discovered he had deleted me. A couple of days later, he sent me a message "Fancy a shag tonight? Xx" and I ignored it. I had made my feelings of being just sex clear. The next day I had a message which said "Oioi". And again, I ignored it. This was last month.

Since then, I have recently started seeing someone. We are in a relationship together. And I was with him last night and I get a message from the old guy - "Fancy a shag? Xx" and I didn't want to tell my boyfriend about it but he said "it's upsetting you, please tell me" and I did. I asked him not to message the guy, I would deal with it.

So. Do I:

A. Completely ignore it and hope he gets the message; after all he deleted me off Facebook, he'll forget me eventually?
B. Send him a message along the lines of "I'm confused why you're messaging me. You deleted me off Facebook which says to me either I did something wrong, or you're ashamed of me. But I think you should know, I'm seeing someone else. I want to be friends, we have a lot in common but I understand if you don't feel the same."
Or C. something completely different.

**Side note, the old guy is a musician and music producer and I'm a musician, so I have a bit of an interest from a work point of few to remain friends. But I'm 21 and he's 20; if that effects it**

Hey guys.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months now.

We lived together the whole of last year which was from March to December.

In January this year he had to move because he found work in another city which is 17hours away.

We miss each other and we fight a lot more than we did last year. He recently asked if I could send him pics of myself everyday; meaning I would have to snap pics of myself everyday.

I hate taking pictures so much, I never take pics unless I take them with him or my family, feels less painful that way. So I told him I can't do it and he got mad and couldn't understand why I couldn't do such a 'simple' thing. He told me that it would make him really happy to be able to see me everyday; but I told him I just can't cause I absolutely hate it.

I even asked my sis about this and she also knows I hate taking pics; but she said 'you should do it for him'. I still can't do it.

We talked about it over the phone tonight and 'resolved' it but he is not understanding that I can't do it.

Am I a selfish and stubborn girlfriend?
Is he not understanding and stubborn?

I said I would send him pics when I feel like it.
He said he wouldn't ask anything else from me. Which sounds childish to me.
LDRs are hard! But I will also be working in the same city as him next year, so there is a plan.

After I fall asleep, it's like I lose body heat regulation. I sleep under 3 blankets during fall, winter and spring.
And I live in a pretty average climate of Central Europe .

I've never lived with a guy so I was just wondering what were the chances of finding one who would be willing to let me curl up against him and mooch off his body heat at night. :3

Of course, girls are welcome to reply and vote as well. ^.^

I'm 24 and in a relationship of over a year. I have a Facebook, my 24 year old boyfriend has a Facebook. We're out of college so we don't use it much, but we both still have them.

I want to be Facebook official. I know it doesn't really matter, but a lot of my friends don't live in town and I am proud of my relationship and want everyone to know about it. I also like the security that comes with everyone knowing. It's not like we hide. Everyone we know in town pretty much knows we're together, but I don't really see the problem with it.

FYI, he has been "FB official" with all of his exes (college-high school etc) including shared Facebook pictures etc. I know we're out of college so Facebook isn't as big of a deal, but I still want us to be together online in addition to in real life.

Some of this is me being territorial since I live in his city with all of his friends, exes, and ex fuck buddies. Some of them give me the stink eye when we see them and go "oh! I didn't know you had a girlfriend" or "What? since when?" when he introduces me in bars etc.

He says that he never uses it so he might just delete it, but it's also how he stays in touch with college friends so I know he won't actually delete it. To me, it just seems like an excuse and like he really doesn't want us to be publicly together online or something. I don't think he's looking for women on Facebook or anything, so I'm not really sure why.

Thoughts? Do you think he's trying to hide? why wouldn't he want us to post on there? People say the privacy thing, but why would you want to keep the girl you're in love with private? It feels like he's hiding me.

So I pretty much want to speak with my boyfriend every single day. He's not just my boyfriend, but one of my best friends. I like to know what's going on and I honestly get irritated when he goes all day without saying anything to me.

Am I clingy for this mentality? Would it be in the best interest of my relationship to change my thinking?

It's the opposite of what most people would tell you which is "Everyone is meant to find love". Do you believe in this or that? And why?

When I say love, I mean being loved dearly by someone whether it's a friend or a lover. (Not speaking of parent love though).

Hey people, I'd really appreciate your help about something. My boyfriend doesn't allow me to eat raw bacon. I love the taste of bacon and I love eating it raw, but he says I shouldn't eat it raw. I've never forbidden him anything. He eats his stupid raw eggs with his stupid raw pork meatballs and I NEVER make him feel bad about it. What should I do?How can I make him understand that he is not being nice and that he has no right to tell me what I should or shouldn't eat? by the way I don't want to dump my boyfriend, so please don't advice me to do that. I just want to make him understand that what he's doing is not right and it hurts me a lot... So what should I do?

So I finally figured out that the guy I've been seeing for 8 months is a commitment-phobe.

Long story short, we met in January and started dating on February 1st. We were seeing each other every week, multiple times. Twice I tried to have the "relationship" talk with him, once at 3 months in and once at 6 months, but he was pretty clear both times that he didn't want an official label. I did but I was enjoying his company and decided to let it slide.

In mid-August we were invited by some friends of mine to go whitewater rafting, and had a fantastic day together. I even told my friend that for the first time I felt like we were a real "couple" because of the way he was acting with me.

Right after that, he went incommunicado on me. He would answer the phone when I called, but didn't initiate any contact. I gave him several chances to walk away, asking him if this was one of those things where "it's been good but not really into it anymore" and he declined to take advantage of the "out" each time, saying that yes, he really had just been super-busy lately.

I saw him a couple of weeks ago briefly, and just before he left, he hugged me tightly and kissed me, which was uncharacteristic for him because he's not very affectionate. He also texted me the other day and wished me a happy birthday.

Puzzled by why, after 7 months of weekly dates he suddenly kind of vanished on me, I did some research online and realized that he is a commitment-phobe. Since then I've been reassessing the situation and wondering if it's a dead-end. It's obvious that he cares about me deeply but at the same time, those feelings obviously frighten him on some level.

I've not yet decided what to do but I would greatly appreciate opinions on whether or not someone like him can ever change, or if this is just the way he is going to be for the rest of his life.

Thank you in advance. :)

Ok so a lot of fat girls are like

"I love the way I look"

"I'm a real woman"

"More cushin for the pushin"

"Men want real women not girls who look like 12 year old boys"

And that's cool I guess But if they so proud of their body state (Fat-The condition of weighing more than the medically prescribed average for a specific height and age range. )

Then why do they get offended if they are called fat. And why is fat an offensive word anyways. Like if they were proud of being fat they would be like yeah I'm fat and proud I look great. Or be like you think I'm fat tnx. And why do they call themselves curvy I don't get it I mean curvy is a totally different body state!

FAT: link

CURVY: link

SKINNY: link

ANOREXIC: link

Oh and pool question do you think the word fat is offensive