Told my GF I'd dump her if she got fat. Am I wrong?

Question

The other day my GF jokingly said would I still be with her if she got fat. Needless to say my answer was probably not.

I am sure I will get quite a few comments like - then you're shallow, you must not like her that much etc...

But I feel as though there is an unwritten rule that is engaged when two relatively fit and healthy people start dating. And that is that you do not put on a significant amount of weight. I think this rule maybe can be at least be somewhat softened as the relationship carries on into longer periods of time and youth starts to fade but thats really it.

And here is another piece of my mind for the ladies. If you can't handle the truthful answer to a question, then don't ask it. Or ask it and just make sure you don't turn into a cow in the near future and we have no problem.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

I love my boyfriend for who he is as a person, not what he looks like. Looks don't last. I'm probably not going to be as thin as I am for the rest of forever and my boyfriend is not going to be as thin as he is for the rest of forever either. But we're in it for the long haul. In sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for thinner or for thicker, till death do us part.

I'm not going to sit here and tell you that his fitness level means nothing to me in terms of attraction - it does. And I'm sure my fitness level is a big plus for him in terms of him finding me attractive, but there's an entire person in that body you find so attractive.

When you told your girlfriend what you did you basically just said that who she is as a person is no where near as important to you as the package she comes in. That can be devastating for a girl especially.

And as for your update... when I met my boyfriend he was 5'6 and pudgy like a dough boy with buck teeth and chubby cheeks and all covered with his baby fat. And I was head over heels for him. Immediately.

I love him then and I love him as the 6'5 nationally ranked swimmer bodied man he grew into and I'll love him if ever he turns back into the dough boy I met in the beginning.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Even if you would no longer be physically attracted to her, that is a pretty rude thing to say. You would just dump her, no questions asked? That completely disregards you entire relationship and emotional connection.
First of all, how would she get that fat? If you are both as fit as you claim to be, then I think you would start to notice if she started eating junk food and stopped going to the gym. I'm assuming at that point, before she even gains weight, you would either help her to get back into the fit lifestyle, or dump her then because your life-style habits are no longer compatible. But I"m assuming that if you really loved her then you would try to make a relationship work.
I love my boyfriend, so I would try to make it work. I can't imagine him gaining so much weight, but if he had a disease that caused him to gain a ton of weight then I would at least try to work through it. If I'm no longer attracted to him and we're no longer sexually compatible then I'd have to end things, but because I care about him I would at least try to stay with him.
So when you say you would automatically dump her if she gained weight, you are essentially saying all that matters is her appearance and her personality and love is not worth it.

AshleyMD · Accepted Answer

If you mean she put on a couple of pounds and it was noticeable and you would break up with her then yes that is shallow, but if you mean she gained a significant amount of weight and it wasn't due to a pregnancy or illness than you're being perfectly reasonable, I would probably do the same.

CuiqueSuum · Accepted Answer

Part of me goes "Yeah I definitely would because I would lose all physical attraction at that point", but then I also know that if I truly fell for a woman, I probably wouldn't and would still find her attractive. Since I've fallen for women once or twice before, I can tell you that it is almost shocking how somebody you aren't really physically attracted to can start to seem physically attractive when you start to fall for them.

It's as though you actually associate the features they possess physically with what is now attractive because your feelings for them are that strong. So while I sit here now single, not possessing any such feelings for any such person, my mind tells me "Yeah man you'd leave don't lie!" the truth is when the situation actually came up, with those feelings involved, I'm not so sure that she wouldn't become my definition of physically appealing, added weight or not.

That being said, if it gets to the point of unhealthy, I would ceaselessly prompt her to get it together because that type of morbid weight gain kills in the long run, no two ways about it.

DodgersGM · Accepted Answer

I think that honesty is never really the worst thing you can give someone, but you could have worded it with a little more consideration.

Most people can understand someone leaving their marriage or their relationship if their partner made a major, destructive change in their lives. That's totally understandable. At the same time, we all have low moments and periods where we struggle with things, and I think most women (and men) just want to know that they can be human; they can have these struggles, and their partners will stick by their side and support them.

Basically, a lot of people will hear this and think that you're the type to cut ties and bail at the first sign of trouble; naturally a lot of people wouldn't care for that attitude.

Whether that's you or not I have no idea, all I'm saying is that a lot of people will infer this.

Clovergirl-Lily · Answer

my first boyfriend was chubby/fat, or right in between. he is not attractive to anyone, and he had a lot of acne. but i thought he was a nice guy. until he turned out to be a pervert. fast forward to a couple of years later. i met a nerd who clearly doesn't have anything that resembles a six-pack. wears glasses, is way beyond blunt at times, has acne all over his forehead and the sides of his face. yet his intelligence mesmerized me, and his behaviour of a gentleman was something rare that i hadn't seen in forever. he still fascinates me. and now this year. this guy is a nerdy geek. really smart, kind of quiet and shy. looks quite scrawny on the outside. isn't exactly a mr. tall dark and handsome. but is sweet and gentle and intelligent. still crushing on him. and lastly, ever since i was 9, i loved an autistic girl two years younger than me. she is much shorter than me, because she doesn't have the opportunity to grow much, and as i got taller each year, she seemed even shorter. she is chubby. she puts her hands in her mouth and will grasp your hands the next second covering them in saliva. she has the mentality of a newborn. she shrieks in a way that will burst your ear drums. she digs her nails into your skin. when she sneezes, she doesn't realize it, and hugs you regardless, wiping her snot and saliva on you. she grabs my hair with her saliva-covered hands, and i care about my hair more than anything else on my body. and after all this, she is the one person i love as much as i love my family members. because she is my pillar of strength, my sunshine on every cloudy day, my saviour who gave me hope when i felt like my life had no purpose, my guardian angel, my best friend. and even to this day, i love her. she still recognizes me no matter how much i've changed or how long it's been since i last saw her. so how much does appearance matter? when the person may really be unable to keep themselves healthy?

Anonymous · Answer

I'll be honest, I'm athletic and kick boxing, dance and yoga are part of my daily practice. I've been in relationships where my boyfriend has been lazy and hasn't enjoyed exercising. I loved them so much, but I would get frustrated, being athletic is part of who I am, it's how I stay calm and collected. I love being healthy, but I couldn't be with someone who didn't feel the same way.

I fell for their personalities, but I believe in having the freedom to be yourself in a relationship. I didn't feel I could when I couldn't express myself through dancing, I couldn't handle bailing out on my kick boxing classes. If there was a condition that made it hard for a man to loose weight, or made them gain weight, yet they were still trying to stay healthy, I wouldn't leave them. I would stand by them and support them to being healthy again.

BUT, if they were just lazy and they gained weight, I couldn't handle it, it would work well with my active lifestyle. The best date I've been on was when we ran the bay together, it was raw, we were happy, and we felt amazing.

It all depends on the circumstances, I won't judge you, but I can empathies.

Yeahhbro · Answer

Lol i know i wouldn't either, mainly because yes i do care for myself (i jog, i do a lot of body weight exercises and i play a lot of soccer) and well if i do care for myself, i expect the other person to do that as well, it is just common sense. I guess if the other person doesn't do it, then i would understand why they would give you crap for that. Either way, humans always look for somebody at par or better then themselves anyways, So you can't expect somebody that looks like a model to date somebody like the walmart girl with the spongebob dress (its am internet meme). We humans do not like to to "settle for less" when getting stuff or partners for that matter.

It is actually a great idea to show expectations of what you expect from her. Obviously not nothing extraordinary, but something more withing the limits of rationality. Its like when you buy a car, you won't buy any tin can that the sales man tells you to buy, you always buy what you buy the most convenient within your expectations.

So i guess if you do show that you have that much value, you can expect nothing else from other women, plain and simple.

lananoel · Answer

I'm not going to bullshit you. I have a problem with obesity.. Chubby is perfectly fine, but a person should stay within reasonable weight gain. I'm chubby now and I'm either going to stay where I'm at or lose weight! I was a cute petite woman before I had two kids and I should still maintain my physical appeal to my husband. I can't gain another 30 lbs and then get mad when he looks at smaller women! That makes no sense. I have no medical condition so I have no excuse. We have both talked about weight gain and he says chubby is okay and I agreed chubby was okay too. I like a soft man. lol, but muscles and slim builds are alight too. Standards don't make you shallow. Everyone has them.

TheYellowBear · Answer

I don't think you are wrong to feel this way because I feel exactly the same way as you do.

If a man or woman balloons out while they are in a relationship I see it as a sign of them being far too comfortable in the relationship. They have decided to settle in life, accept their lot and complacency sets in.

I view it as a sign of disrespect too. I watch what I eat and I try and get regular exercise just by walking to work and I expect my partner to do the same.

Being overweight is also problematic for a person's health. Overweight people increase their risk of developing cancer and type two diabetes as well as increasing their risk of suffering from heart attacks and strokes.

It's vitally important to a person's mental and physical well being to remain a healthy weight.

snowangle · Answer

My boyfriend probably will get fat in the future! He doesn't take care of himself but his metabolism is keeping him thin for now. It won't last forever, though. Probably won't hit until his 30s or 40s, but I am planning on marrying him and being there for that.

Anyway, I hope she didn't get mad at your response. My general rule is "never ask a question unless you're prepared for the answer."

skullly · Answer

Well, that's completely reasonable, but also if you start to get bald, you shouldn't take offense either if she decided to leave you for this.. and yes you might argue that, "balding" is inevitable, as oppose to being fat, but they are BOTH part of the aesthetic appeal, and if you are not longer appealing, just the same as you'd no longer be attracted to her cause she's fat, someone could no longer be attracted to you just cause you can't grow any head hair.

My point is, it's not wrong in either way, sure it's vain, but we are not blind... and if the love is not strong enough, all the outer beauty counts more than the inner love. and if she does get fat, and if you do leave her solely due to this, then your inner love for her is not as strong as your outer lover for her (if that makes any sense), irrelevant to what you say. It is as it is.

Having said that, if my boyfriend got fat and bald, I'd still love him, but I will not encourage it D:

lumos · Answer

Nah. I mean sure, I'd be less attracted to him, but at that point I would love him for everything he is. I wouldn't just wake up one day and be like "ew you're fat bye" because that's really unnecessary. If you truly love someone, you'll be able to see past that. And if it really bothers you, you should bring it up and talk about it. If I thought he had gotten too big, I'd encourage him to eat healthier and to exercise more. It's not the most important thing in a relationship. Dumping someone over something like that without even trying to work it out at first is so stupid. This is why relationships don't last anymore. People break up over the most stupid things without trying to work it out first. It's some instant gratification bullshit.

Mikaychay95 · Answer

Ok in all honesty she really should not have asked that question and get all butt hurt when she got the answer she wasn't expecting to receive. Also by fat do you mean a little pudge or morbidly obese? If you meant obese then yes I wouldn't want to be with her anymore. It's extremely unhealthy and she obviously doesn't care for herself if she were to let that happen therefore if she can't respect herself anymore why should she expect you too?

Kyndra · Answer

''Step yourself off your high horse for a second, and ponder the scenario where you are now with this person who has since become overweight. Do you think you would have given them the chance for a relationship had they been fat when you first met?''

My boyfriend is overweight. He was overweight when we met. Yet I asked him out. Because I care about him more than his weight and he always finds a way to make me happy. So I think I do have the right to say that you're probably not that into her.

justbanANNAz · Answer

yes u r wrong, glad we figured that out.

i mean dont u sit there telling me ur gonna b this hunk all ur life, because ill give u a piece of my mind, we're all gonna get old [if we live that long], get ugly and die. u won't have abs, ur skin won't b tight, u won't have as much hair... ok? its inevitable. even if ur still fit as an old man, do u really think it will make up for much?

and if u think calling a woman a cow makes u look good then ur an asshole. a woman has NO obligation to become ur constantly sexy woman. if she wants to go out with her hair not done, in sweats and her hair up, she will. u can't stop her. if she wants a cheeseburger and doesn't wanna work out after it, then fuck u she will do it.

if u can't see past all that and accept her for who she is rather than the aesthetics then u dont deserve a woman.

yes, women can give a piece of their mind too. eat it.

staciebee · Answer

You can dump anyone at any time for any reason. Relationships aren't obligatory or contractual.
Personally, if my boyfriend said he would dump me if I ever got fat, I would save him the trouble and end it right then and there, because who wants to be with someone who clearly doesn't love them?

Kshppatel · Answer

I think you were being honest with yourself in what you want out of a relationship. Let's be real women and men have or are thinking about exiting a relationship because the other person isn't attractive to them anymore. If you want a girl to remain fit and healthy that's your right and by no means should you have to defend yourself. Sure you could have worded it a little more considerately. As a fat guy if a girl said this to me I would be hurt but I would understand because unfortunately for fat people that's how the world works.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

I would not dump them I would love them enough to encourage a healthy lifestyle. Eat healthy together, do fun physical activities together, workout together, let her know you still love her.
Are you dedicated or not? What if a girl left you because you lost a little muscle mass or she decided she liked a guy with more muscles. I'm all for honesty but where is your loyalty?

Vennie · Answer

To be honest, if my bf gained massive weight to the point it's filthy, did absolutely nothing to care take of himself and is endangering his health but he didn't care at all then yes I would break up since this isn't something that can't be fixed.

If it was a medical issue causing him to gain weight but he was desperate to fix this problem and is taking care of himself, then nope I wouldn't break up.

What I really can't stand is those people that complained about being fat and yet, I see them laying down and eating junk food as well as not even exercising. I think that would be a turn off for most people; lack of drive to self-improvement.

Theguyoverthere · Answer

It does depend on your definition of fat and if they were doing something about it or not. But if I was dating someone and they got fat, yes I'd dump them. This is also a "damned if you do, damned if you don't question." One girl wants the bullshit "No honey of course not..." answer while the next girl's gonna be thinking "What a bullshit liar."

Like if she put on a little bit overtime I wouldn't go nuts. Plus she could workout with me and we'd be doing something together and it'd be fun. But if she just got lazy and stopped caring and settled in, I'd dump her for sure. Not just for health reasons but because I don't find overweight women attractive. I have a right to my own preferences just like she does. Being overly sensitive about such an issue is why society's so damn sensitive all the time.

aamy811 · Answer

To be honest that is kind of shallow. Life takes over things happen you get fat. And if you wouldn't even try to get her back on track, or even try to continue loving her; then you never love her in the fort place. When your in love they could be 300lbs but something about them doesn't make you care. And if your physical attraction is all that really ties you then there's a problem. I've dated bigger people and trust me things are harder (even talking to them and hearing some of their life stories makes me sad), but they're great wonderful people. So yeah, relationships have layers

wishfire10 · Answer

First off, if you arn't with your girlfriend expecting it to even last for a long time, then why bother getting into a relationship with her? You obviously arn't going for the right type of girl. So, your gf should be offended if you won't stay with her if she gains weight, in your eyes you don't see it as a long term thing, so why bother wasting her time? Things happen, she could break her leg and gain weight while recovering, what kind of man would you be? A relative could die and she could be depressed for a while.. how would you like it if something bad happened in your life and you put on a couple and she just drops you? What's the point in a relationship if you can't even count on a person.. im sorry.. but you suck.. I wouldn't want you as my bf.. im a good size (not big. . Im fit) but if something were to happen to me.. and it has before.. im really glad you weren't by my side

Anonymous · Answer

I was actually super skinny when I started dating my overly fit marine boyfriend (now ex) I gained over 100lbs right around our four month mark. And to be honest he straight up told me he would be there for me until I got back into shape. Working with him I lost my weight in 6 months and we still dated for a year after that. He was never deployed and he was still with me everyday so it's not like "he didn't have to see you" type of thing. He even took me to the marine ball when I was 50lbs over weight. If you can't see past her looks.. if I was her.. I'd dump your ass in a heart beat.

Anonymous · Answer

Would you stick around if you found out her weight gain was due to cancer? Granted MOST cancers cause a person to lose weight when they're not trying, my sister was trying to lose, but kept gaining, the only symptom she had was fatigue. She was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. Thankfully her husband (who thought a lot like you do) decided SHE was more important than her weight, and has stuck around. (her ex, who thinks similarly to you as well would have left the moment she started gaining weight.)

Starfishlover · Answer

Nothing wrong with that. IT is better to be honest and if you are no longer attracted to someone and are shallow enough not to love them for their personality, then why not. Better to do this then lead her on and cheat on her. If YOU were my boyfriend, I would dump you because you are damn ugly. Ew. Fat can lose weight, ugly is forever :P

Cheekkky · Answer

If he puts on enough weight and I suddenly am not attracted to him then yes, I would dump him. I wouldn't dump him right away I would say, hey you have put some weight on etc. and see how he reacts. Will he change or just continue with the bad habits? If he continues then I would dump him.

Anonymous · Answer

If I were to judge girls based on how they've judged me, then I'd break up with a woman if she gained 50 pounds.

I think that two people should make an effort to look good for each other (for themselves, too).

Most of my family is grossly overweight. Like a majority of them are 400+ pounds. I have family who can't properly wash themselves because they can't reach all the "folds." They smell. I have family that can not get into our house because we have steps, and they are too heavy to get up those two tiny steps. They can't fit through a door. And most of their pain is because of weight issues, which we don't dare bring up.

So weight is a weird topic. I'm used to being around heavy people. But there is a point where we shouldn't be ok with this. Leaving someone for 50 pounds seems a bit shallow. Leaving someone you date because they quickly gained 200 pounds by eating junk food might not be so shallow.

Anonymous · Answer

It would depend on why. If say had a medical condition or an injury or something then I wouldn't dump them. Sometimes people also go through depression as well, and they might not take care of themselves as well. So I'd do what I could to help him. If he just decides on day to be lazy and let himself go without any reason at all, then eventually I probably would. It all really depends on the reason though. I would expect a guy would dump me too if I just stopped taking care of myself and letting myself get fat without a good reason for it. I'm very active so I take care of myself, so I think he'd be suspicious about why.

Anonymous · Answer

I would never date a fat person because I just find it disgusting how some people let themselves get that way and they don't control it.
I'm using my ex girlfriend as an example here and imagining me and her are still together..
I love her a lot and she's a size 6/8 (UK size), if she somehow went up to a size 14/16 (UK size) I wouldn't dump her for it. If you love someone it's suppose to be 'unconditional'. To dump someone for becoming fat is pretty shallow especially if you claim to love them.
For the record though... If your girlfriend is becoming fat you're clearly not giving her the correct exercise she requires, try fucking her properly and she'd probably not put weight on (Y)

purplishone · Answer

Hey we are, women.. When we ask you a dangerous question, you should understand and compliment us =) This is a big rule for understanding women!! If your girlfriend asks you '' will you love me even i get fat?'', she wants to hear '' i will love you in every situation'' . Take my advises and be careful in dangerous questions if you don't want to lose a girl who you love.. Don't forget these are small tests haha =))

Brattany_07 · Answer

I think being with a girl should not be about her apearance. Date a person for who they are inside, not on the outside. By saying you will leave a girl because they gain weight means that you don't care enough about what her personality is like and means that you should not be with her. It's wrong, and disgusting that you have to even ask this question.

Prof_Don · Answer

Your word choice was unnecessary sharp and not palatable to most ppl's ears... but I do agree with u on the overall idea.

Both people in the relationship should take care of each other's health, nutrition, and overall attraction the best they can to "keep the fire going" in the relationship.

TonyRyan · Answer

I don't know cause physical attraction is important when you meet someone. If that attraction fades, all you have left is someone you think is cool to talk to. I do a lot to maintain being healthy, I would think they should too, at least for health reasons.

I'm not saying I'd dump them but I'd suggest that they do SOMETHING to help keep that attraction alive, ya know?

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Women get with guys, hoping he'll change. Guys get with women hoping she'll never change.

bubble_tea · Answer

I think it depends on WHY he got fat. If he got sick and had to take meds that made him balloon, I wouldn't. If he just stuffed himself with chips and coke day and night and didn't want to change, I may do it.

Also, HOW MUCH fatter are we talking about? My overweight/slightly obese uncles still look cuddly IMO.

Sexydncr · Answer

I kind of agree with you but it still sounds harsh. Two people who are really into fitness should be keeping fit for themselves, so why would one of them let him/herself "go" and get fat? Sometimes relationships form because of the attraction to someone who also cares about their body and likes going to the gym. My body and health are important to me, so I like dating guys who feel the same about themselves. If they suddenly got fat, I'd think they were kind of lazy and not caring anymore.

been_waiting · Answer

I just think it's HILARIOUS that guys on here say girls are SO shallow yet 42 girls say no and and 22 guys say yes, only 11 saying no.

Personally, if they ended up morbidly obese and didn't want to change, maybe. If they got a bit chubby and were willing to diet and exercise then no, of course not.

soriana1022 · Answer

This may sound crazy but I agree. The reason is because whether male or female when they decide to date or be with someone you decided to be with what they looked at, at that point and somewhere along the lines if they change your feeling will change too. So its better to be truthful than a liar.

HeatherJaney · Answer

I wouldn't kick his ass to the curb but I would kick it to the gym.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh my god, my friends boyfriend did the same thing to her she spoke to me the day after crying that he basically isn't attracted to her any more, me and my other friends where fuming because the idiot only went and got her a bike, we bought her chocolates she say on the bike eating them lol. But. Y point being you could have been a. Bit subtle about it you don't have to be so blunt most women are really sensitive to weight topics

MargaritaPeach · Answer

People change! If you don't like the changes they are making, move on. However, I feel this only applies to dating. Once you get married, you have invested in the person and perhaps you should work at motivating them to get healthy again. But kudos to you for being honest and upfront with her! Wish more guys spoke up about how they really feel.

chocalou · Answer

My boyfriend has said this to me before. Personally I don't agree with the whole dumping over getting fat, but if you feel that the attraction wouldn't be there then I can understand, but hopefully its not just the attraction that is keeping you two together and there is more to it.
You never know until it happens, but maybe now you have said it she won't ever get fat.

agirlcalledreal · Answer

Lol U shouldn't had made that joke to her cuz a lot of girls get sensitive about that shit and make it into a big deal when u maybe joking. If I were u yeah I probably would say that cuz idgaf but u have to think as if u were her and see how u would feel

VulcanHades · Answer

I would not even give her a chance to get fat lol. I would keep her fit and active via constant daily sex. :p

More serious answer: I would not dump her if she got "chubby" or a little thick. But if she became really fat like almost obese than yeah probably because I wouldn't be as attracted to her anymore.

lolimluz · Answer

honestly i would like to say that i would like stay with my boyfriend but i don't think i would be able to handle it like shit i don't only look at a boy's body when dating but its like a big part i mean i guess it depends on how fat like if he gains a little bit of weight its fine but if he's like obese then fuck no I'm sorry but you shouldn't straight up tell her ill dump you if you gain weight thats fucked up. smh

Anonymous · Answer

That might have come off a little harsh because some people I know get fat due to thyroid problems or genetics and can't control it. It's not like they're actively wanting to be fat.

What I don't like is when girls on dating sites who are fat, use old photos or pictures at angles and you find out they're fat in person. Before anyone accuses me of being shallow, I've dates fat/chubby girls from those sites. The difference was they didn't hide it on their profiles.

Anonymous · Answer

Well i dont know if your actually worried about her health or if you just want a sexy girlfriend to show off... But if were to concern health then you should talk to her albut if you want a hot girlfriend then to be honest your just an ass cause love doesn't run with how you look or are physically... You must really not love her like u claim... How about you think that question for yourself... What would your girl do if u went fat? You obviously wouldn't like her to dump you! Just think about it and arrange your thoughts a bit

R3d_Anonymous · Answer

I selected A, but what I am trying to say here is if you're just going to be a homebody and as a result put on a massive amount of weight, that's a problem. But even then, it's probably questionable that I'd dump her [a hypothetical girlfriend] over it, and actually now that I think about it, I probably wouldn't.

ZOMBIE3273 · Answer

Sexual attraction has a lot to do in a relationship for most people. I would dump her if she would refuse to work out. I currently work out with my girlfriend to make sure that doesn't happen lol its kinda harsh for most girls to here a guy say that you would be gone if she got fat but like u said she asked.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say you are a horrible bf. If you are only in it for her body you don't really care about her. I guess she knows you are not marriage material. If I were your gf, I'd dump you for being lame. Weight can be lost. Douchiness is a little more difficult.

love4427 · Answer

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU. THATS JUST BEING SELFISH. YOU WOULD RATHRR BREAK UP WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND CAUSE SHE IS "FAT" THEN STAY WITH A smart, beautiful women that probably hates your for saying you will dump her for getting fat.

Anonymous · Answer

Gaining weight is a deal-breaker.

Getting fat is immoral. You are a lazy, gluttonous person. You have severe flaws as a person. You'll probably fuck up any kids we have.

Getting fat for medical reasons? You have bad genes, why should I want to fuck you? You probably didn't care for yourself in other ways.

Getting fat kills my attraction for you. It makes you ugly.

Fat is hideous.

fun-weird-guy · Answer

You are shallow. My girlfriend is a bbw and has been since before I asked her out. We have been together for a little over a year. She means a lot to me. We love and care about each other. A lot of the best times of my life have been with her.

Anonymous · Answer

What would be "fat" to you?

As long as you're okay with her dumping you, if you got fat or started losing your hair etc.
I think that if you would dump someone, because of changes in their body, you don't really love them. I wan't a guy who actually loves me, and not just some douche, who wants something pretty to show off. But hey, thats just my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks won't last the personality is important.
but still nothing wrong with telling a person not to get unhealthy by getting fat or overweight by threatening..
oh well i am joking.. you are of course such a superficial person with no personality. i hope she'll dump you soon cuz of what u said.

tayah · Answer

You can't ever tell a girl something like that. It doesn't matter if you are joking or not saying anything about a girls weight to her is the worst thing to do. Every girl worries about her weight if she is to skinny or to fat.

Wood-Carver777 · Answer

Dude i won't say shallow, how about being one-dimensional rather? The best approach if you see yourself with her in the future is to just ease it into the relationship and into her mind too that you value your health and hers very much. Quite frankly i'm a fitness guy so i'd date women who are out-going or are into fitness stuff... that's called: Thinking ahead.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. She needs to be put on notice. You were honest and direct which is all one can hope for.

MissFoxx · Answer

I'm pretty fit and if I had a bf and he gained a lot of weight I'd be in the same boat as you. I want someone to keep up with me and not someone who sits on the couch all day. I don't think your shallow, I think your realistic. Most people probably feel the same way we do but are to afraid to say it.

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

I wouldn't because I'm not a jerk. If you would leave her because of that then you must not really care for her. It's just looks that matter to you. I would be disappointed sure but I wouldn't leave them, I would try to get them to start working out and be healthy. We could even exercise together but it's mean to just leave them.

Gemstone2411 · Answer

I wouldn't leave my boyfriend just because he's put on some weight. Needless to say, you are a shallow asshole.

Fleur-Rose · Answer

Hmm what do you mean like if she got fat due to eating a lot or failing. to lose weight after having a baby. Looks will change so no good being shallow

Azara · Answer

i wouldn't leave he was planning on losing weight but id stop hashing sex until that happened.. i can't handle fart. its disgusting. some people like it. its cuddly. I'm not that person but he'd know that getting into the relationship.

X56XX · Answer

Well, I mean you obviously have a preference which isn't a bad thing... but I mean what is fat to you? As in eating a few doughnuts putting on a bit or what lol.

As long as it's nothing drastic then you're not wrong.

Told my GF I'd dump her if she got fat. Am I wrong?

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What would you do if your girlfriend was fat?

Told my GF I'd dump her if she got fat. Am I wrong?

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