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Told my GF I'd dump her if she got fat. Am I wrong? (Page 2)
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I wouldn't end a relationship because of weight gain. That's easily 'fixed'. We'll just work out together ;)
Gaining a little is okay, but a gross amount, no. It's unhealthy and unattractive
Exactly. Obesity in a man is gross to me too.
Why is this so difficult for people to accept
And i mean if it's due to poor choices, not a medical issue. That's different.
I just wouldn't appreciate it, because it says lazy. And that he doesn't wanna try for me.
Yeah you dummy. Never call a girl fat, even if you're joking. She'll probably remember it for the rest of her life
Did you read what I said? Where in that did I call her fat?
The title...
The title reads "i told my gf i would dump her if she got fat" not "i told my gf she is currently fat"
No I won't do that. Because when he become my partner I would have seen his positive side and which is the reason why I wanted to be with him. I always go for yoga I can get him to join me to keep fit ;)
Your basically telling her that her looks are the only thing keeping u guys together.
No I am not, she may interpret it that way from her ridiculous "test." But that's not what I am saying at all.
Do you date homeless people? Probably not I am guessing. So are you only interested in guys who can afford not to be homeless aka have some money/job?
It can't be painted that black and white. If a person just decides to let themselves go and be a fat slob then there is more depth to it than that.
Maybe you should just tell her that then
I think instead i am just going to say I need a couple weeks or so of time to myself to think things over. And then use that time to put on as much weight as humanly possible and tell her that I decided I definitely want to be with her.
What you think she'd say then?
It depends on where you draw the line. Shit happens in life, so some flexibility is required.
Only a fool would believe that significant weight gain won't hurt the relationship, though.
Yes you are right, it depends on where you draw the line and flexibility depending on the situation is definitely important.
And only a fool would believe that significant weight gain would not hurt a relationship. Good to know at least someone is here on planet earth with me.
Would you take your girlfriend back if she met a kind angel who could help her revert back to her normal weight 3 days after you have dumped her?
Yeah but only if the kind angel was willing to do more miraculous deeds and we could share them
If 2 of u get married and have children she will be fat. U not going to leave her for that right? O. o
No that is completely different.
If she got pregnant I would be gone long before marriage..
Kidding, weight gaining due to something like that is a whole different story
It's perfectly understandable if you don't wanna be in a relationship with a fat girl. I wouldn't tell her though, I can imagine she'd get quite pissed XD
I don't know if I would or not but my fiancé doesn't want me to get fat. Actually it's more like he wants me to be healthy, whatever weight that is. If I'm healthy though then I won't be fat.
Totally true, I'd want to aspire to make my girl the best she could possibly be. As people should aim to inspire the best in each other. That behavior would indicate she has lost respect for her body which blatantly I'm just not OK with.
Your girlfriend should gain weight and then as soon as you dump her she'll be fit and smoking hot again. If you ask for another chance she would never take you back. That's what your girlfriend should do. Lol
so if it was the other way around then? or if you had a small penis, she should leave you? cause ew, small penises
It's too late, once the pants come off it's game time.
you are really cocky aren't you. I am sure your sex game ain't that great.. I guess the answer is no then..
I think that is a very interesting statement to make to a complete stranger seeing as you have absolutely no sort of evidence whatsoever that indicates my sex game is "not so great."
Thanks for reaching for it though, I find it flattering.
Weight shouldn't matter. If you like someone, then you like them no matter their weight.
I do not directly link someone's worth to how much force the earth's gravity exerts on them.
haha thats hilarious contributing obesity to gravity and blaming fatness on the earth.. If only heart attacks and high cholesterol thought the same way...
I made no such claims.
Nah, I wouldn't dump them based on their weight gain, and yup, I'd still date them if they were overweight in the first place. (:
I've course the other side to this is that let's say she works out more and undergoes some brilliant makeover and looks twice as hot, she'll remember this and will drop your ass. ;)
Which would make her nothing but a hypocrite so who gives a shit
;) ;)
Not exactly, if you dump her just cause she got fat, that's cos you're a little shallow.
If she dumps you because of what you said, it'll be cos you're a little shallow and she'd rather not bother with it.
If she were to dump you cos she thinks you're a little shallow AND she winds up being more attractive than before, it'll be hilariously ironic.
;)
Ok so now we just have someone who is not only spiteful, but pathetic for going through all the trouble and time to look good again just to try and get me back. Which I would just find flattering.
And also dumb as hell on her part.
And to make me give even two fucks less, chances are she would just get fat and comfortable with the next guy so I would actually be thankful that she saved me the trouble.
So once again, who gives a fuck.
;) ;) ;)
You and I appear to view relationships VERY differently. Oh well, I'll leave you to the few dozen girls calling you a jerk or asshole.
All I can say is.. you have not experienced genuine love yet.
I would definitely leave them.
Them? Just how many husbands do you currently have?
You polygamous bastard
her* my bad
Absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. It's just a natural preference that nearly all men have.
And no, "curvy" does not mean "fat".
Anyone who says otherwise is just bitter.
I guess its your choice, and you are right, you don't love her that much. love is beyond beauty nd personality and if you truly feel that kind of feelings, then maybe you can still accept her even she is fat.
Did she cry when you told her this? If so, I think she posted a question on here about you saying that.
Lol, no she didn't cry. I highly hiiiighly doubt she would post anything on here.. Although I would be very curious to see this post
Yeah. I'll look for it.
I dont think she did, but here u go, i guess thats what u were talking about
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1203667-my-boyfriend-said-look-you-are-starting-to-get-fat-it-needs-to-stop
Thanks for finding that! Yeah, thats what I was thinking of. But it is different now that I see it again. This one reminded me of it tho. @queen-b
There's this guy, that I may or may not be close to falling in love with (I don't know if it exists, but I'm hoping) and he's chubby, but you know what? Chubby people give better hugs.
I think we should have a hug-off I give fantastic hugs
I'd rather not. Only good guys deserve hugs.
But maybe us "bad boys" need a hug the most... (sad face)
I'm not one for bad boys. I like sweet, funny, nerdy guys ten times more. especially ones with stormy eyes, a big smile, an excellent taste in clothes, and the nerdiest tshirts under button up shirts.
That was a lot of information
Yeah, sorry about that. I just got carried away.
Well, if more girls were like her I would not be single
"I am sure I will get quite a few comments like - then you're shallow, you must not like her that much etc..." you guessed right.
Um if I was her I would have dumped your ass as soon as you said that. Too much negativity to deal with.
Soooo getting fat for no reason is not negative, but giving an honest answer to the question is..
Interesting...
The fact that you couldn't look past her weight or maybe even help her become a healthier person is the negativity I'm talking about.
If the question was "would you still date me if i got fat and wanted you to support me to get healthy again" then my answer would have been yes, I would stay with you.
You are delving into hypothetical scenarios and making up circumstances within them, and then drawing conclusions from that.
Which is apparently just what you females seem to do on a day to basis, instead of being forward and direct as well as asking questions that you can't handle the damn answer to.
I shared my opinion, that's how I feel. Imagine this, what if, hypothetically speaking, you had a daughter and her boyfriend told her what you told your girlfriend? What would you say to her?
Let me dumb down what i just said so you can understand - Your opinion is based on shit you made up, which makes it invalid and stupid.
If my daughter told me that? I would tell her she is beautiful to me no matter what. But that she should always make an effort to keep her health in tact. And as my daughter I would expect that she would never even come home having this issue because she would have been raised good enough to take responsibility for her life and her actions as well as always keep her health and body in check.
Wooowwwwww. "Dumb it down" " your opinion is based on shit which makes it stupid" my oh my you are a very mature man! I no longer care about your opinion, but I don't tolerate being disrespected.
I'm sorry, let me make this up to you.
I'll take you to dinner and we can talk about how we can grow fat and old together, I'll buy..
Sounds like a plan
Actually on second thought, I think I'd rather just split it. I don't want to set the precedence that i will be supporting your future eating habits.
That cool with you?
I was just going for the free food so no.
I suppose I should have seen that one coming since you are a future fatty..
I found a groupon for an all you can eat buffet for two for the price of one, sound good?
How about I go and have a good time while you sit home and count calories. :)
I have never counted a calorie a day in my life.
Is this our first fight?
Uh oh! The first fight? I'm sure you'll survive.
Yeah you are right, I'll be fine. I'll just wait for you to come crawling back.
Extremely unlikely
I bet you would if I left a trail of lucky charms leading back to me
I hate Lucky Charms and I'm not a big fan of you so no. :)
I can use fruity pebbles then.
I think that if you weren't a shallow person, then you would give me a second chance.
I can change, I swear.
Now I'm shallow? That's funny. I dont give second chances... You're out of luck.
So here you sit and say that I should look past her weight and help her which would be giving a second chance.
But yet you sit here and say you would not give a second chance yourself.. Interesting...
It's because it's a total different situation. I don't even know you, I have no personal connection to you. You and your girlfriend are in a relationship. That's a stupid comparison.
Wait so are you breaking up with me?
...
It's over
Take me back.
Look who's crawling back now.
So you admit we had something then
That's not what I said.
But you said "look who came crawling back" which clearly and undoubtedly implies that I am crawling back to something.
I knew you liked me.
Why would I like someone who insulted me repeatedly?
Well why don't you tell me. You are still talking to me aren't you?
Ok this conversation is over.
I figured you would say something like that after I said that. Funny you waited for me to state the obvious and then say that because there is nothing really else you could do. Except admit the real reason why you are still talking to me of course...
And who says "this conversation is over" when they want to stop talking anyways...
God you're so freaking annoying. How can one person be so conceited? Are you like this with everyone?
So here we could have this conversation go one way and I could again ask the obvious question which wold be - If I am "so freaking annoying" then why again are you still talking to me?
Which would result in you either A. Saying something along the lines of ok im really done talking to you or B. you would just stop responding altogether in a last ditch effort to exit this conversation with some sort of pride.
Or, we could go with C and you could come clean and confess you have a crush on me.
Actually, I only replied because I like to defend myself.
That doesn't even make any sense. You say that this conversation is over, but then you keep talking. And you say that you only keep talking because you like to defend yourself. So you are going to defend the fact that you said this conversation is over but yet are still talking?
Looks like we will be here for a looooooong time...
Thats okay though, Im here for you. Im here for the long term baby. No more shallow Steve, Im a changed man since I met you..
Man, I just can't believe how much we have been through together already.
I'm going to defend myself when you accuse me of things.
This is such a joke, it's like I'm dealing with a five year old.
Ok. So i am going to accuse you of something then so you can defend yourself.
I hereby accuse you of saying this conversation was over and still continuing it.
You just like playing mind games, and I'm not going to give in.
I really think that you should just ask me out and just let it out already
LOL I laughed my eyes out
My frustration is now comedy. Great :p
You wouldn't be so frustrated if you didn't keep your feelings for me all caged up inside.
It's not your fault you are attracted to me, and it's not like I mind you are very pretty.
First of all, I'm frustrated because you are irritating, not because I'm attracted to you.
Second of all, how did you even get a girlfriend, you're so damn annoying and you act like you're still in highschool.
How do I get girls? Hmm good question.. I don't know
But they all can't seem to help but come back for more just like you.
PS I love you
How many times do I have to say this... I do not like you in any way, shape, or form.
I can't dumb it down anymore.
So why do you keep talking to me again?
Because you keep saying stuff that pushes me to reply. It's a constant cycle... Stop being annoying and I'll leave you alone for good.
So basically you are "attracted" to reply here. Which means that you are in some sorts attracted to me. Glad you finally admit it
Ok that's doesn't even make sense. Are you that desperate, that you are pretty much forcing an unreal scenario to take place. God, you have a girlfriend and you're like this?
I'm the desperate one? You are the one that can't seem to walk away from the conversation even though you want to.
You sit here and say how annoying/frustrating this convo is, but yet here you are. So you must like being annoyed/frustrated then?
Arguing with you, is like arguing with a wall; you just can't win. Have fun being obnoxious for the rest of your life. Goodnight.
At least you admitted defeat. Looks like I win.
Night night
U weren't wrong 4 saying that. She shudn't hv asked if she wasn't prepared 4 the truth. I'd tell my fiancé the same! If only 2 put him off piling on any pounds because, tbh I cudn't answer the question til it happened :/ ad rather not find out lol
Damn.. first of all i would tell you is that you made a big mistake by telling her that.. it probably hurt her feelings and well she will probably start thinking that you're dating her for her body.. not for herself... you should apologize... :)
you must be the biggest shallow POS on the planet. What is your issue? it's jagoffs like you that give nice guys and guys in general a bad name.
No you are mistaken. It is not guys like me who give "nice guys" like you a bad name. It is "nice guys" like you that lack boundaries and expectations from women, and look at other men who do and view them as "assholes" and then wonder why such a "nice guy" like you can't get any women since you are so "nice."
Don't blame us.
you want to dump her because she's fat. As for lacking boundaries, I know what expectations are, so before you get on your high horse, remember, Im 10 years older to you
No she is not fat. And I do not want to dump her. But if she got fat for no reason other than just being a lazy sloth and didn't care to do anything about it, then it would be a serious problem. As it would for a lot of people..
And yeah you are ten years older than me, congratulations. Maybe older people have to settle for less, like fat girls. Good for you chubby chaser.
i am not dating my bf because he got ab's i date him because love him and he love me and we care for each other honestly if i was her i will break up with u since obviously u love her body more than her
I agree with that. Even then she might not make it long term. If she gets fat, she's fucking retarded.
And some people start out that way...
@BelleGirl21 true that
wow... and people say crap media is not doing any harm at all?
what is happening to some guys? o. O
What the hell does media have to do with this?
you wouldn't understand
Right.
Voted B), you're a horrible person.
its kind of mean you may have hurt her the most important should be the wieght,
No if she gets fat dump the fatty if she not going to work it off some way
Your telling her that looks is what keeps you two together, hombre please
And what about if you got fat through genes or something? ur shallow
honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.
How long was your longest relationship?
Seems irrelevant although I am thinking you are trying to gather facts to try and confirm that I am a shallow asshole.
Just over 3 years.
Looooool u may be right.
Why do u enter a relationship with someone?
For multiple reasons.
1. My brain is egging me on to have sex with them, which means I am physically attracted to them.
2. I enjoy their company for extended periods of time.
3. They accept who I am but still inspire me to be a better person.
Those are just a few that pop into my head in no particular order.
so u will drop her if she had 2 and 3 on lock but she got a little chubby?
Physical attraction is an very important part of a relationship, and this is more-so in the early stages. Like as in before you have kids. My brain simply would not want to impregnate someone who gave up on life and just got fat as hell with no regard for their health.. After kids, and after a loong time of marriage, I think maybe a little more leeway can come into play..
Til then physical attraction is just a key factor for me.
And I am not talking about just a few pounds, I am talking about like holy shit you put on some weight.
I understand but woudnt u want them to get back in shape rather than dump theM? (oO)
Yeah of course I would. And quite a few people are drawing the conclusion that I wouldn't. But I would try my best to be supportive and work through it.
alrite cool beans. I am outty.
No offense but you're a freaking jerk.
Waaaa you're a jerk for telling the truth
Cold X__X
Honest X__X
Whatever. You're incredibly very immature. Yeah this attitude might work now while you're young but if you keep pulling this off when you get older the only thing you'll get back is dying alone and old with no one to care about you. You seriously need an attitude change.
Thanks mom.
Wow -__-
Don't breed with the fat gene.
Fat gene? It's not a gene.
I wouldn't dump her just cause she's getting fat, just workout with her!
You are an asshole thought if you do that -_-
Honestly ever guy I've ever dated told me that.
I hope she dumped you for saying that.
Well hope you didn't give your hopes up already
you're just an ass person , that all i can say lol
If my gf got fat id dump her without a fuck given
Cos I like rail thin women
I wouldn't dump him.
What do you mean IF?
Your a loser!!!
Right. I'l just start dating fatties and get ahead of the game, thanks for that.
Fat is relative...