Polls: Relationships

I have a very big bill of 30k. I recently quit the school so I can get a full time job, but it takes to long. I want to attend school in September again. Till then I want to pay my bills because it makes me depressed. Working full time isn't enough. I can pay the half of my bills in 1 Year of working full time.

The only solution would be tantra massaging I know a place we're I made 30k in 6 months and is still good. I don't had sex with anyone.

The clue is that my boyfriend knows about my bill and he supports me mentally to get through this and even pay the vet bills. I'm very thankful because my pets are not at fault for my bills. He will get it back.

I'm very stressed out knowing that 10hours of work don't add up to the full amount and time I need to pay off the bills.

He told me he is okay with the massage but deep down I'm afraid he won't be able to comprehend it and eventually leave.

So what should I do..

Would you be okay with her carrying a baby, or multiple babies, for someone else for 9 months and giving it up?

Love or commitment?

For me it's commitment. Your commitment shows you love them and want to make it work. Commitment is something you do because you love them. It's a way to support your partner. You are COMMITED to making it work, to being with them through good and bad, etc. It's not always easy to commit to someone, especially if you can be free and selfish, etc. Also how can you say you love someone but not be committed to them? Our TIME and our ENGERY and AFFECTION is one of our most valuable resources and you should only give that to people you care about.

Some of the true crime fans have to be absolute experts at murder, crime scene clean up, and hiding bodies by now. At what point do we as their partners start running? 🤔😅

So for example if you’re talking to someone in conversation and they use “like I said..” would that be rude or annoying to you?

At what point should couples bring others in to help resolve problems? Whether that help be friends, family, marriage counselors, etc.

I've read this infidelity story before. I'll refer the names as Jane and Tom.

Jane was 19 and Tom was 20 at the time. They've been dating for 8 months or so when she got caught cheating. She cheated with Tom's good friend. Both got caught falling alseep in Tom's house, on his couch in a compromised position with the TV still running, an empty bottle of rum and empty snack bags. They had already finished the deed when Tom arrived. His friend was only in boxers and she dressed up with jeans but only had bra. Alcohol was involved and the cheating went on for nearly 3 months.

Tom somehow forgives that, reconciles and still marries her 5 years later. Jane changed for the better though, by her own admission never cheated again. Then 15 years into their marriage (and 20 years since her cheating took place) and with 3 kids, Tom begins coming home drunk and cheats for other reasons; midlife crisis. Tom briefly fell in love with the other woman, stole some of his wife's money to spend it on his affair, secretly gave his wife's meals to the other woman and was thinking about setting up a trip to France just to be with her for a bit, away from responsiblities, away from the kids, out of reality. Their ages by then are 39 and 40.

When is a relationship serious for you?