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The only reason why I ask this question because I'm tired of being used
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3.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. You are getting used because you are chasing men above your league, and those men don't take you seriously as a relationship partner. Many of them will give you attention, and often a taste of their lifestyle, in trade for casual sex, but you'll never get a relationship commitment that way.
You can only be used if you allow yourself to be used. This is kind of the female equivalent of a male simp (a guy who gives attention, praise, favors, and money to hot women who he has no chance of ever getting, in the hopes that maybe he will).
If you don't mind this, then you don't need to change anything. If you want to be single, then just stay away from men altogether. But if you want a REAL relationship, then you need to RAISE you standards in the areas of morals, values, and life-goals, and LOWER your standards in the areas of looks, status, and money with regard to your perspective partners.
Nearly every girl in her 20s wants a top 5% man but even most top 5% women don't lock down one of those guys, because those guys have no end of women who will give them casual sex. And a woman cannot get ANY attention from one of those guys unless she's a top 1%er OR unless she willingly gives those guys casual sex. Women hate to hear that, but it's the truth, and your own experience bears that out.
I'm not suggesting that you date a bum who is living under a bridge somewhere - in other words, not chasing top 10% men doesn't mean going for the bottom 5% - it means go for the guys who are 7s and 8s out of 10 instead of the 9.8s. They won't have as much money, or as much status, but they are FAR more likely to be good boyfriends, who will take you seriously and who are willing to commit to a relationship. That is a strategy for SUCCESS. Your own post tells you that what you've been doing has not been successful.
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They don't ONLY care about sex and money, but those are two of the things that are on the top priority list of what they care about. The sex is on the priority list because nature programmed them to be sex initiators. It's a survival priority for the species because without sex there are no humans. So someone has to prioritize it and in the case of humans it is the males. They were programmed to have the higher sex drive and be the sexual aggressors.
As to money, that can also be answered by nature. Men are programmed to be the providers in the family. They were the ones who brought home the Woolly Mammoths to feed the family. They were made big and strong to hunt, provide and protect so again it is their natural instinct and role to provide.
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Anonymous(25-29)Pretty much. It’s all I hear them talk about.
😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒 men are the most narcissistic creatures walking the earth. And trust me , I have multiple uncles and cousins and bros. I’m too old and grown to not believe this. And yes my Father was in my life, I still live with him.It doesn’t matter if they’re hot or ugly or old. They’re the most selfish, unforgiving beings on earth. It’s why hookers make so much money from giving them ass. Cause they feel ENTITLED to sex. Its why pornography make billions.
Of course they’re obsessed with money. Cause money gets them access to sex.
Sex shouldn’t even be for them. Sex is a reward to the top % of males in health and looks. Not for just any scumbag, simpleton.They should be obsessing with their looks, with the fucking mirror, with the gym, with the ability to fight another male.
BUT NO, INSTEAD THEY WANT EASY ACCESS TO SEX AND INSTANT GRATIFICATION.
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The man who said that good men want sex and money too, but they want all of you, your friendship, support and love and company, someone to experience the ups and downs of life with, maybe raise kids and grow old with; is right. He’s also right about avoiding the really handsome men when looking for a life partner. Picking a cute one with really good morals is best. Handsome men often can’t cope with their beauty and romantic success like beautiful women usually can. Avoid the guys who don’t respect boundaries. That’s a red flag. Generally meeting guys on dating sites, at social groups, through friends and at religious groups is the way to go. I advise you to befriend them first. Getting to know them really well, then you know if you have sex with them, that they truly love you for yourself.
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2.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No , unless he is a player , but a mature man that wants love and a family wants peace and happiness , he wants a girl that stays loyal and respectful to him , that has his back the same way he has hers , Yes he wants sex , but he wants sex with a girl that wants him the same , yes he wants money , to provide and support his family so they can live a content peaceful life , Most men want a girl that is a partner to him , that stays loyal and loving to him that stands by his side through the good times and the bad , He doesn’t want a girl that is selfish that only thinks about herself
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Some people - of both sexes - have a few bad experiences with dating and they overgeneralize that ALL men are _____ or ALL women are _____ . Such gross overgeneralizations are inaccurate and harmful.
If you consistently have experiences in which guys only want sex, then you are picking the wrong guys for dating. You need to look inward if you want to solve this problem.
452 opinions shared on Relationships topic. come on now that is so shallow care about food and dirt bikes I mean there's more twists than just two things come on now LOL
okay look if you don't want to be used don't be you're the one in control whether you know it or not don't look at the outside of a person and hear his mouth moving when he's talking to you look into his eyes feel his heartbeat I understand what he's saying listen the way he talks to his friends and other people he will tell you everything he's going to do to you how long it's going to take within 20 minutes of talking with him of meeting him but you have to listen sometimes don't listen to the things that he's saying listen to the things he's not saying don't just jump in the bed with a guy because you think you like him make him prove himself to you you got all the time in the world for him to make decisions let him prove himself to you before you do anything- 1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
What about big powerful trucks and fast cars?
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No, they also care about food
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Sone guys. Definitely not all. Do all women? No. But some
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I'm sorry you've been used in the past. As a complete stranger, my instinct is to suspect that you're not good at choosing guys to date--probably because the qualities you seek out in men are going to attract you to dickheads.
For me, Intelligence in a woman is a huge turn-on. I like women who have interesting things going on in their lives. The woman I ended up marrying was a former farrier, rode horses, loves animals and is smarter than me (sometimes) and we laugh a lot together. You can't have sex all day long every day. You've got to hang out, talk and do stuff with this person for the rest of your life, so as thrilling as having a sex-slave that pays you may sound to some guys, it's not a good foundation to build a life upon.
I'd encourage you to look for guys in different places than you're currently finding them. Maybe do a little volunteer work or join a group in your town that does something you like? Art? Hiking? Coed book club? etc. Best of luck finding a good guy. They're out there, I promise.
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First of all, guys don't care about a woman's money or career. In fact, it can be a negative in some ways.
And no, we don't care only about sex. I mean we do care about sex, a lot, but those of us looking for a bride or a serious partner... and there are a lot of us like that despite the stereotype... care about a lot more.
The thing is, a lot of women don't try to bring those other things to the table anymore. It seems most women today see their value in two categories: 1) their sexuality, and 2) the same things they value in men, i. e., education, career, status and income. Those are NOT the things a good man finds desireable in a woman he sees as wife material. Women who buy into that mindset don't realize they are bringing no value with category #2, so the only value they end up offering is category #1. They themselves have reduced their value to just sex. Consequently, the only attention they get from men is sexual, so they assume it's all men care about. But they don't see the cause and effect.
Look at the world around you... How do you image all of that got built and all those inventions came into existence if men only care about sex and money? Do you think women built and created everything while men fucked all day in whore houses when they walked out the door in the morning and told women to go fetch them piles of money? It sounds like you're heavily projecting, because it's women that often expect men to have a job doing something productive and be bread winners. Women often feel loved by gifted material possessions like flowers and chocolates. Women often want to have sex, and then stay home pregnant with children while men are out in the world building it. So the question you should be asking is Do women only care about sex and money, because they sure have made no real effort to take on the hard jobs of building and maintaining civilization and to this day make very little contribution to developing new technology to better mankind.
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You forgot tacos 😂
On a serious note, there are obviously guys that care about more than sex and money, just as there are some girls that don't care for money (although is a minority). Some of us actually want to connect to someone on a deeper level and have some we grow old with. Some of us want that pillar of support that we can rant to or lean on during hard days. Some of us want to be able to share experiences with loved ones and build a history with a girl.
If you're upset about men, it's likely because of the type of guy you seem to be attracted to. Maybe think a little bit more about life, what makes you truly happy, and re-evaluate the traits you look for in a guy. -
LOL. TIRED OF BEING USED? Women use men all the time. I swear I never met a woman who didn't use and abuse a man any way possible, especially for money or power. I'm not talking about myself specifically either, but rather other guys I know or used to know. LOL. You think men abuse women? Lol. As a general rule, Women dont' give a shit about anything except money and power, and they'll fuck anyone (else) to get it.
I'd rather die a virgin than deal with this shit. Being married to a woman in this generation of baby-murdering bitches would be nothing more than an emotional and financial bondage. On average, 50% of women in the United States have had one or more abortions if you count both the legal ones and the illegal ones. you murderers and killing literally 50% of your own offspring.
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No I don't care about sex or money, I just want a girl, who I can get on with it, and have great life together.
The only thing really care about is really is trying to achieve my goals, and get a good career going for myself.
I am sorry that you tired of been used by guys. Lot of people get used and treated by people like dirt. My brother got used by girls for money, he was lucky that he found a a great girl, now on his 4th attempt, that he has settled down with her, and now having baby.
He said to me, which is good advice, there is shitty people in this world, but just have to get on with it, the best way you can, and don't let these people bring you down.
Don't give up, you will meet someone. But when you do meet a good guy, you will appreciate him more.
1.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Not at all no, I want the deepest bond and connection humanly achievable. So far in my last relationship the level we reached was the best thing I ever experienced, I'd love to experience that again with someone special and if possible exceed it.
The right guy will always say no. If he’s a player, then thats the name of the game. You’d probably fall for those types quicker then you can say no I won't lol.. they are players that know how to play those games breaking-down manipulation to a science.
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There is more to relationships than sex and money. Money in my opinion really isn't important and it doesn't define who someone is and sex isn't the holly grail of a relationship. I agree a good sex life is important for relationships and to understand each others sexual needs however this shouldn't be the only thing relationships are about since there are other things that matter more than sex.
It is natural for men to care about sex but to think that men only care about sex simply isn't true
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I care about money, don’t give a shit about sex. Why do I care about money so much? I blame my upbringing in poverty, I cling to every cent I got and do my best to have as much as possible in the bank, as I never want me or my family to go through that again.
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My primary interest is ethics and trying my best to be a man of integrity, being responsible and treating people kindly. I like sex and I need money to pay the bills but most of all my goal is to be able to die a decent man.
I figure the richest man is not one who has the most money and power and status, but the one who can, on his death bed, look bad and not be ashamed of how he treated others.
Sex? Not interested. Money? I despise its very existence. Fast cars and powerful trucks? No... my handle is my all-time favourite car which is anything but fast, I very much prefer the least popular classics and big, modern pickups just scream “redneck” to me. Food? I’m not crazy about eating, usually preferring nice, cold, non-alcoholic drinks. When I do eat I prefer simple things, a favourite being hot dogs with mustard.
Well you give a man sex they give you their love and money it's simple men like money because women like money and most women want a man with money.. Means thought process is simple it's sex then happy go lucky. If a man isn't all romantic or all over you after sex then he doesn't love you just using you for sex
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Some guys do but some guys care about more than just that. The guys that don't just care about that, also care about their families and their partner's well-being as well as other interests such as sports, cars, gaming, fishing, fitness, etc. My boyfriend definitely cares about things more than just sex and money.
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