Why do guys think all girls are just after money?

Question

For me it was never a priority, I wanted the love first. I even put with bad conditions and abusive behavior with a guy who isn't super rich...

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I don't think MOST men think that ALL girls are this way, but you have to agree that money ranks VERY highly for MOST women.

Here's an example:
As part of a study to understand how men and women ranked each other, they discovered that, based on looks alone, women rated the vast majority of men as "below average" in attractiveness. Essentially, women rated guys who were an 8/10 to be "average" and only 9s and 10s to be "above average" - 7s and below were "below average."

This was so strange that they tested a number of different groups of women, and they tested even more groups with different sets of male pictures, and consistently, women rated most men below average.

So, they tried another experiment. They used the same sets of pictures, but this time, they added occupations and salaries next to the pictures. Men with higher salaries were rated as much as 4 points higher than the same men were when no salary information was provided, and those men were rated an average of 2.6 points higher.
Clearly, to MOST women, men's money is a top-3 factor in that man's attractiveness as a partner. Of course there are always going to be exceptions, and saying that money is a big factor doesn't meant that money is the ONLY factor, but it also can't be denied that it's important.

Finally, Tinder and Instagram have completed a trend that began 25 years ago with "reality TV" shows showing off wealthy lifestyles, until we are today, when girls from all over the country can connect with wealthy men, and as long as that girl is young, hot, and willing to have casual sex, she can share that man's upscale lifestyle for a weekend, or sometimes a week or two at a time. And lots of girls are doing this, and some of them do ONLY this, moving from rich guy to rich guy, being flown around on private jets, sailed around on yachts, taken to parties in LA and NYC and Atlanta and Miami, and often on upscale shopping trips. And for every girl who is doing this full time successfully, there are 100-500 other girls who WANT to do it full time but can't quite pull it off. Some of them get one of these rich guys for a night or a weekend once or twice, and a lot of them never do, but they're all willing to trade sex for money and that IG lifestyle they dream about.

And while they are still definitely the exception, the fact that there are so many of them now, and they are so visible thanks to social media, that even "normal" girls are starting to think that if a man doesn't make "at least 6 figures" then he shouldn't even talk to her. This is a problem that has gotten MUCH worse in the last 10 years specifically because of social media, and it means that a lot of normal girls - girls who are a 5 or 6 out of 10, won't even look at a guy who is a 6 or 7, because they think that being with a 9 is "settling" and they're holding out for a 10.

Again, even if you asked those guys - the ones being ignored - if it's ALL women, they'd say "no - but it's a LOT of them!" And that's really the problem. Also, let's be clear: even the girls who manage to live that lifestyle virtually full-time still aren't getting actual RELATIONSHIPS with those men - it's a simple "sugar daddy" money-for-sex exchange - but it makes those girls think that they can get the same kinds of wealthy guys for a real relationship, and therefore normal guys are beneath them.

magiusX26 · Accepted Answer

because traditionally most of what women asked about 1st thing into dating has revolved around his finances. what kind of car he drives, does he own a home, how much he makes a year, etc. it comes off giving the wtong feeking to us. then the same women swear its not about money. (usually 1st date really) lets not forget the teaditional "he pays for 1st up to all dates" part either.

how would women react if guys started off with things like; "do you shave it, how often, do you play with it often, have you experimented with your backdoor, what size bra" and other such sex related questions? then swear up and down he is trying to learn her personality. gives you the feeling all he'll ever be into you for is sex right? mind you i would agree that thus line of questions leavez littke possibility of him caring to actually know her outside of sex, there are those rarer guys who are not doing what these questions come across as.

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

From my experience, most guys who believe that are either on GAG or have surrounded themselves with women who don't work.

Sakiyamoon · Accepted Answer

Lol I've never been with a guy who had money, what's that like?

TravisOfOregon · Answer

Toxic masculinity. Our society pushes us to be emotionally unavailable and ambitious. Men often conflate their worth with their wallet, women often conflate their worth with their appearance.

It's true that some women only want a wallet, and some men only want an appearance, but I think men are more prone to projecting their insecurities on women, hence why a good chunk of men seem to think their wallet is the only thing women look for.

We think that emotional availability is not manly but a large pocketbook, large muscles, and large dick are manly. Therefore, she must be looking for those things, right?

Except that I've seen women date a pauper trans man who wasn't all that buff. So clearly pocketbook, muscles, and dick aren't the requirements we think they are.

Nikki6t6 · Answer

I don’t think most men think like this. If the thought is lingering, I believe it’s assessed on a case by case basis. Ultimately, until you get to know someone their true tendencies don’t surface.

Wether it’s the news or social media seldom do we see the good intentions of others. It’s as if we are infatuated with outlandish, extreme stories that truly are mute in our daily lives. Just the other day… my Facebook was inundated with page upon page of exposing gold digging women which is exactly my point.

These purported gold diggers in reality make up only a small percentage of the actual good women among us. But again, we never see stories covering this realm… because quite frankly it’s normal. As we all know, normal everyday occurrences don’t draw attention like drama does.

Anonymous · Answer

Because if you ask women what they want in a man almost all of them will list status and or money in one way or another, though it will often be veiled with some sort of euphemism, like 'ambition' or 'drive' as a person with these qualities will almost certainly also be stacking paper.

Men on the other hand almost never talk about women in terms of their material assests.

So simply put, they say it because its true.

reea23 · Answer

I am also not after money but their is actually reason some ppls if you don't have money then you can't eat it true where guys sense girl are after money not them. Not their fault though I can understand.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Go on YouTube and watch a little of  "The School of Affluence" channel.  And read the countless comments from women who agree with that broad.

slatyb · Answer

I don't think that. The guys who do are a waste of time.

Andres77 · Answer

Not all guys think that. It might just be guys that don't want to be in a relationship that are looking for things to complain about.

WowwGirl · Answer

Only broke or bitter used up already men think that dear.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Where I live it seems like that's the most important thing, not love or someone that really cares about you.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Well, I just asked would a girl date without any benefits of that sort being involved, and the only answers were 'no' So that is why

Yaharro · Answer

No they are also after looks , body, big D and popularity

roy_ricky09 · Answer

That isn't true always. And all Guys dont think that ways

zagor · Answer

I don't. A lot of the girls I've dated made more than me, and I make decent $.

Better_off_here · Answer

some men just have not met the right woman it seems.

hbbdotcom · Answer

It makes sense why women do it though. Its a natural response to a biological need.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't need to be super rich for a woman to take your stuff

loves2learn · Answer

Guys who think that are jaded.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because there are so many women who are.

Azrael02 · Answer

You may be one of the good ones then.

Still-alive · Answer

Incels and mgtow propaganda

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Because of experience

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Because it's true

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