Do you think society is becoming more promiscuous and less focused on finding a good healthy relationship?

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah

No

[mandyfire98]

I think with so many relationships that turned into loveless marriages qnd divorces I think the younger generations are seeing that and taking a step back and saying "ok, maybe this societal pressure to get married and as quick as possible isn't always good and maybe we need to slow down and be more selective and stop getting with people out of pressure or into relationships out of desperation.

I don't know if promiscuity is rising but I think you do see people nowadays having maybe one friend with benefits instead of jumping straight into a full on relationship. I think the younger generation are more likely to be guarded and hesitant to go into a relationship. Also dating has tirned into online dating and it's a nightmare. It's a superficial flawed setup from the start.

Much easier and safer to just have a person you know really well of the same or opposite sex that you trust but not necessarily are in love with to hang out with and be a fuck buddy with. A literal friend with benefits. That's the mindset usually. Not that relationships are completely written off by everyone. But it's not as prevalent these days because of online dating ruining a lot and my generation just honestly not being as social as other generations were. Easier to just hangout than go on dates. Dating can be awful at times. On both sides.

[Danny_dan92]

I just have this view cause I see cheating or sleeping around to being a lot more common now.

[mandyfire98]

It also probably depends on the environment as far as hooking up. Like it's been pretty common for a while in environments like college for instance. People were always going to the bars and clubs and house parties on the weekends and getting drunk and hooking up. University life was known for cultivating that atmosphere.

Outside of college I don't know personally how common it is in public. I don't really hit the clubs or bars much anymore. I'm also not single either and I've never used a dating app in my life. So it could be more common.

[Danny_dan92]

If I was to swipe on 10 girls right now on tinder most of them would be much younger. In their early 20’s most of those would legit have down that they just want to “have fun” then a few of them will be older girls. Most of those would have “still figuring it out” and maybe one will have “looking for relationship”

[mandyfire98]

Honestly I always heard dating apps were mainly used by people who just wanted to hookup. I had guy friends in college who were on it for that purpose. So that might fall under the environment that cultivates hookups. I've always heard it's a tool for fuck boys.

[Danny_dan92]

Yes and no 😅

[mandyfire98]

Only what I've heard about them. Like I said I've never used them.

[Danny_dan92]

Literally all of my relationships where from dating apps. 3 from tinder, one from bumble.

Tinder has always been known as a hookup app, however given it’s popularity everyone used it. Slowly but surely the app changed…. A lot.

Some ways really bad, other ways good.

I personally just preferred finding girls to take out and date for a few reasons.

[mandyfire98]

So you use it now to just date and have fun or to find a relationship?

[Danny_dan92]

When I was sexually active and actively dating.

I found the app useful because it’s convenient. I’m a very shy guy in public and keep to myself, I don’t drink alcohol so the typical bar and club setting was never for me.

Then with dating apps you could get to know the person a little bit before you meet up, personally this made first in person interactions easier because right away I felt more relaxed and comfortable with the girls. The conversations where more “lively” due to knowing common interests.

[mandyfire98]

Are you still sexually active and dating?

[Danny_dan92]

I’m celibate. I have been for almost a year now

[mandyfire98]

I gotcha.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s fucken weird. I get satisfaction just flirting and maybe exchanging nudes with girls for a couple days and then poof. I ghost them. Never bother to take them out and go through all the other stuff.

Maybe I’m getting old. Maybe I realized that I was playing Russian roulette and it’s not worth it.

[mandyfire98]

You don't feel bad ghosting?

[Danny_dan92]

Sometimes yeah 😂 cause sometimes the girls legitimately wanted to do more than just flirt and exchange nudes.

From what I understand it is more common for men to get upset when girls ghost us but there are some girls that do the same

[mandyfire98]

I would think anybody would be upset if they were ghosted. It can be a blow to your pride and confidence. Guys get more upset over it?

[Danny_dan92]

Lol well then I guess most girls think like me then. Where flirting and exchanging nudes is more than enough.

Yeah cause I’ve seen girls expose dudes going off on them and being desperate several times on social media. To be fair I used to be this way when I was younger.

[mandyfire98]

I know guy's tend to lash out more after being rejected and ghosting is a form of rejection. So I definitely see your point.

[Danny_dan92]

I always tell girls that question why this happens…. It’s a method of coping what just happened. Me? If it happens to me now I literally think “pff doesn’t matter. There’s billions of girls in the world. Another will take her place”

[mandyfire98]

You've got the best way to look at it. Emotionally mature for sure.

[mandyfire98]

Poet didn't know it

[Danny_dan92]

I only have the perspective because I once did the same, and analyzing it retrospectively I know why I did it. Not saying it’s correct either, which that explains why I shifted my mindset about it.

[SecretsofKB]

Humans have always been this way. It is just more acceptable for people to be open about their extracurricular activities. There is also media and social media to quickly distribute this information.

Back in the "good ol' days" where there were different values, people just tired harder to hide it from the public eye.

[Danny_dan92]

Technology definitely exacerbated it

[SecretsofKB]

I don't think it exacerbated it. I just think it more readily showed people that people in other places of the world do the same things they do.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah but as human beings we tend to copy and follow each other.

So when we see people clearly showing themselves on the internet that clearly hints they want sex even though they don’t explicitly say it. We tend to follow

[SecretsofKB]

True, but these are still things people have been doing long before the internet

[Danny_dan92]

Well yeah lol like magazines. Playboy just to name an example

[Lionman95]

I would say yes. In my experience one night stands, friends with benefits and people having affairs is getting less of a problem. In the past talking about sex in public was a taboo, now it´s not a big deal. The same goes for cheating on each other, it´s a big deal for the person that got cheated on but not for the rest of society.

Generally speaking I would say people are now in the position to put a focus on sex because due to public welfare one doesn´t need children and a family from a financial stand point. 50 years back it was harder for people to get along when they were divorced or single because they had no one that took care for them when they were old.

[NathanDavis]

looking at G@G it might seem that way...

in real life though, at least my experience... things are pretty much the same

[Danny_dan92]

Hey man, completely off topic. Do you happen to work in aerospace?

[SecretsofKB]

GaG always seems to show the extremes

[NathanDavis]

@Danny_dan92 nope... pretty grounded, I would say

@SecretsofKB the extremes... and then a bit off the cliff, sometimes, lol...

[Danny_dan92]

I was about to say man, the profile picture reminds me of the James Webb

[NathanDavis]

it is a "selfie" of it, yes..

but I'm not lucky enough to have been working over there, lol

[Danny_dan92]

Lol nah. There’s google images of it. The pattern in the picture is the same “honeycomb” design of the main core of the telescope

[NathanDavis]

I know... lol

it is an actual selfie... from the alignment of the mirrors (calibration) of the NIRCam

[BarryLiverstone]

No because finding someone to have a relationship with isn’t the goal, it’s a benchmark. The facts are people change every three years so changing together and putting in the work is key. People are just as into newness and change as they ever were. The only thing we are seeing recently is the ability to better shine a spotlight on laziness and exceptions.

[IslaTheWitch]

Of course not. But some losers want us to think that way.

[Danny_dan92]

What?

[IslaTheWitch]

You need to ask more specific question :D

[Danny_dan92]

Are people more interested in having sex with multiple partners or be in a committed relationship?

[IslaTheWitch]

I answered. I disagree with your theory. I think most people are focused on finding good long-term relationship.

[Danny_dan92]

Ahh ok. Maybe we live in different countries

[IslaTheWitch]

Maybe we look at life differently

[Danny_dan92]

😂 agreed

[Hannajenky]

I read that young people are actually avoiding intimate relationships

[Danny_dan92]

Oh yeah?

[AngryCarl]

I don't know if we're more promiscuous or just more isolated. For whatever reason we won't have enough productive adults to support the ageing population.

[CoolCatMar1]

Yes but i wish it wasn't like this.

[Danny_dan92]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Well, seeing as how every week there's an article about how people are having LESS sex, I think it's safe to say they aren't becoming MORE promiscuous.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yeah, straight monogamous relationships that turn into long time marriages are becoming rare

[OddBeMe]

More promiscuous than the counterculture love fest? Nah.

[jahaims]

Duh.