I'm a man of devout faith and my relationship with Christ is the most important thing to me because it is the only thing which can save my sinful soul. My vigorous love for Christ knows and will accept no bounds. I would do anything for Christ.
Every 3 weekends, I spend 1 weekend with Christ. I spend time in solitude and feel Christ's love enter every part of my body until I know I'm one with him and I feel the release of his joy deep in my soul. Then I go to church that Sunday and spend the rest of the day basking in the insatiable fulfillment of Jesus Christ's acceptance of my soul and I writhe in fits of gratitude as I feel the deluge of his love deep inside me.
But this weekend, my girlfriend and I have our anniversary. I've told her it is my Christ weekend and we can't do anything together other than go to church. But she just doesn't understand. For some strange reason, she is upset. I dont know what to do about her. I feel like she could jeopardize my relationship with Jesus. Fellow believers, is she perhaps not the one for me?
Why does my girlfriend get upset over my relationship with Christ?
I grew up in the church and actively serving God with what he has led me to do.
I honestly believe its the fact that your weekend you spend meeting with Christ lands on your anniversary. To a couple thats a day to reflect since they met and to talk about problems they are facing also come up with solutions and future goals.
She probably was looking forward to that day for awhile. At the same time your relationship with God isn't something that can compromised and it is the only thing that saves our souls but sometimes God is in our interruptions... that meeting with God shouldn't be habitual it shouldn't be I can't celebrate our anniversary because I have to spend time with God... God is in our moments all day long.. he's not just in a day here and there... its not by our works we get to Heaven its by Jesus's finished work on the cross where he died so we can have eternal life with him if we believe. It doesn't end there 3 days later he rose again so that we can live in his redeeming power!
She could have also got upset cause she felt like you were being holier than her. God is very understanding and he will make know to you how to approach it if you ask. Maybe God had that weekend fall on your anniversary because he knew you would honnor it and wanted to meet with your girlfriend as well... just as importantly that we meet with God on our own its also important we meet with him together as a couple where you focus on your guys relationship bringing God glory. After all nothing happens by an accident God knows all that he probably wanted you guys to focus on your relationship with him together. Then after you guys spent time in his presences you both feel a fresh filling of God than ask her how she would like to spend the remainder of your anniversary together?
Another thing that could be going on if she took the vaccine it makes them doubt Gods existence. My man once prayed and read the bible with me worshipped our God... now he doesn't believe at all just after the vaccine a lot of things changed about him. But im been holding on to the Mark 11:24 that whatever I ask for thats in God will believe I jave received it and it will be yours.. Well its not Gods will that anyone should perish. God also showed me our relationship is according to his plan for now that he's not my end destination like I thought. Told me to stay put abd focus on him this is a season of preparation before the test. What the test entails I dont know. Not only with my boyfriend do I see changes in them Spiritually but also my family they all took the vaccine my sister is too busy to discuss Bible topics with me. My parents are listening to questionable teaching that I feel in my spirit is demonic. Wanting me to drink water thats blessed by their pastor ill be healed and prosper. Just something is off.. why the Bible says to test the spirits. And David said in Pslams to taste and see that the Lord is good!
After reading some responses by others and what you did. I think you need ask God to create in you a clean heart! The Bible tells us we will be hated cause of him.
The thing with religion is you can’t force it on to someone , even though you have your faith in God that’s something you should really keep to yourself , it’s ok to speak the word of God and your beliefs when questioned about it but when people try to push their religion on to others it can cause conflict and disagreements , And can turn into a never ending battle, So ask yourself are you pushing your religion and beliefs onto your girlfriend? If so , that is probably why she is upset over your relationship with God, she doesn’t understand why you have your faith in the Lord Some people do not know how to handle religion , , some people weren’t raised in a religious household or grew up knowing God is amazing , so for someone to accept God into their lives they need to accept him within themselves , when someone pushes their religion on to others, most people assume they are crazy , I accepted God as my savior as well from my own experiences and beliefs I wasn’t forced , so I do not push my religion and beliefs on to others , the only time I talk about God is when I am questioned about it and why I believe , when someone wants to know why God is my savior , some people take religion to the full extreme , the Holy Roller kind and sadly those people are looked down upon to people that never accepted God into their lives or experienced the love God has given us. it’s something they have to experience and accept on their own whether we think they are right or wrong it’s not our place to say what they should believe. We can speak the word of God but we can not force it upon someone
This is a difficult situation. I understand both sides. I grew up a Christian. I believe in God even though I’m not an active follower currently. Is she upset also because of you having a Christ weekend? I wasn’t sure by your explanation. But If she is I can see why. Her boyfriend is spending a weekend out of every month not spending time with her. My boyfriend and I have busy schedules and the weekends are when we see each other so I understand the value. But you are justified to have your belief and it is your right. She should respect that. But I do feel that you should try to at least understand her point of view. The Anniversary that is your problem. In case you don’t realize, the anniversary is sacred especially for the woman. That is when it began and how long it has last. (Could you not postpone the Christ weekend until the next weekend or do it the weekend before?) But the anniversary is important. I’m not sure what your schedule is. Is church even on Saturday? But I don’t see anything wrong with having dinner and going to church after. I doubt God really would too. Maybe you could also include her in it? Light candles hold hands and read the Bible and pray together? ? Maybe Do also think of it this way. God loved Love. He created it. He thought the love between a man and woman was the ultimate thing and how beautiful love making can be as well. It sounds like you are a good and Christian man those are rare. Your girlfriend is lucky to have you. And I can understand why she is upset but it is more pain than anger. When you love someone you want to be close to them and around them as often as possible. She possibly can’t understand why you wouldn’t and especially on such a special occasion.
As I said this is difficult. Have you prayed about it? I think God could help? Pray to him and ask him to give you a sign as to what is his will. God knows you care for your girlfriend and want to make her happy but fellowship with him is important too. But God is also a merciful and understanding God. He wants us to follow him and put him first but he also wants us to be happy and experience love which I mentioned he created.
No you got this one wrong. First off you don't need a "Jesus day". It says to OBSERVE the Sabbath, not to work. Only in certain denominations does it say no sex BEFORE worship. Soon as that sermon is done you can do as you like. Are you living a sexless existence with her? If not you've already compromised. And like another said you are marrying Jesus or her? That's basically what clergy do, they basically marry Jesus. The rest of us "fall short" of the calling. Do you understand what that means? Do you understand what His salvation was even about or what it means? Everyone sins for one thing. That doesn't warrant constantly committing sins.
I'm a Christian but I dont even go to Church because it's not required. You need to "gather" but you can literally just pray at a dinner table with family and you've basically done that. I notice with a lot of American Christians, especially the Evangelicals how far away from the message they've gotten for some... bastardized version of the Gospel. It's actually cartoonishly laughable if I'm being honest. You're going to come up short, you're human. You are dating her for what purpose? Have you had sex with her? Have you don't oral or even masturbated? Are you betrothed or married? This is just sad, so sad. You already aren't even doing things according to scripture anyways so what's the deal exactly?
First of all, don't listen to some of the other commenters. They are mostly ignorant but they also do not care at all about giving you advice. I can literally prove the existence of God in a few sentences and no one can refute it. BUT I also personally believe you're ignorant, very ignorant. But I understand. I was deep in gratitude today, while I was also living my life. We don't believe in the same thing by the way if that wasn't clear. And I don't have a sweet hour or weekend to give thanks or love. I don't cease with my gratitude and love. I think what you are doing is great but the reasons why I think are born out of ignorance. But I do have advice that still fits your belief system. *Look at it his way, if you really have gratitude you would not take your girlfriend, which is a gift from God, for granted the way you are. Do you not give thanks for your relationship? I want to say more but you believe in the outer meaning of the Bible while I believe the inner meaning of the Bible which is confirmed by science. Wish I could be of more help. Shame on you girls @julielamar2 @hi_it_is_me123 @tatianamay just to name a few. You girls are better than that. I'm certainly not saying I disagree with you girls but what you girls said was rude and you treated his issue like it was a joke (specifically 2 of you). For him it isn't. Let him believe what he believes and do what he does. 2 of you know you were out of pocket.
As someone whom also embraces God, you are being an idiot. Wheather it's via ignoance, or piousness, I can't tell. She has every right to be upset with you. If you are planning on marrying this woman, she deserves a much higher ranking of importance than you are giving her. You need to fix this, let her know how much of an idiot you were, and do your best to make it up to her this time. Next time, you better get it right. Even God, himself, places more importance on the marriage and relationship of the couple, over even the relationship of the individual and himself. You could have skipped this one day, to spend it with your woman, instead. God would absolutely understand.
This is also something you'd better plan on roughly every seven years, as the date cycles through the week, per annum. If you continue your relationship with her, she may even want to spend your anniversary at destinations, far from your church, too.
Again, God would not mind you missing a day here and there. If you two get married, your relationship and devotion to each other is more important than anything else, including your relationship with God (his own teachings).
Hey dude. I admire your devotion to Christ - it's almost inspirational and I hope to achieve that level of love of God one day. As a Christian myself, I've always thought about stuff like this - generally i prefer a girlfriend that didn't compromise me, and best case scenario, they'd be just as enthusiastic as I am. As others like @GaGirls have rightly pointed out though, this is surface level advice. It may have been a feeling that was building up insider of your girlfriend and missing the anniversary may have been just enough to be understandably annoyed. I don't know the details of your relationship, but before to look into yourself before pointing the finger. Be sure to make your girlfriend feel special and loved outside of church time, because she's not just Christian, she's also human. Best course of action may be to celebrate the anniversary, even if late, to make up for missing it. Continue making her feel loved (slightly different to just showing that you love her). If she fails to respect your priorities, she may not be the best thing for you. Your relationship with God (especially you) sounds special - you don't want to be caught out on Judgment day because you were simping
I'm not an Christian or any religious person but I believe in god. It must be that your girlfriend took it seriously. Doesn't means that she isn't the one for you. Try to make her understand and convince her because it is a very difficult choice as anniversary as well as Christ both are very important. You can surprise her the next day. Otherwise if she is still grumpy then you need to spend time with her because god is very understanding and will support you on your ups and downs and he will forgive you because they way you love him. But girls are really moody but if this all goes to other level then that's toxic. She isn't the one.
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If you're not Christian, you can't get into heaven. You need to be saved.
I am also a child and servant of God. He is literally the very air that I breathe. Apart from Him, I cannot do anything. The word of God Talks about being unequally yoked. You cannot be with someone who doesn’t serve Christ because you will bump heads and disagree. You both will not be satisfied. But when you are with someone who has the same goals as you ( meeting our Father face to face & being in His glory for eternity) then you’ll feel that peace and comfort from the Holy Spirit. You’ll have that woman who’s a warrior by your side. A couple that prays together, stays together. I would never want to be in a relationship where God is not in the midst. That’s very dangerous for you my brother. That’s a stepping stone.
Why do6this weekend have to be your Christ weekend? Honestly you should have planned for that before deciding not to be with your girlfriend on one of the most important days of the year in your relationship. Would you like it if she did something similar on your birthday? It's not like the anniversary took you by surprise. You had to know it was coming and could have adjusted your schedule so your Christ weekend didn't coincide with it. I guess you need to decide whether or not you want to risk your girlfriend, whose love for you is conditional on you respecting her or Christ who will love you regardless. As the embodiment of forgiveness, I am betting he will understand and can fill you with rapture next weekend. In contrast you might be single next weekend if you choose him over your girlfriend on a very special day if the year for you.
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Cause it's the 3rd weekend. Its every 3 weekends. Christ is expecting me and I can't let him down.
He knows you and your life. Your girlfriend is expecting you to respect her enough to recognize that that day is extremely special to her. As I said Christ will love you regardless and forgive you, it's in his nature. The same isn't true of your girlfriend. I guess you have to decide whether being loved by Christ this weekend is enough to not have love of an actual living person every other weekend, but your Christ weekends or not. Personally I would not risk a conditional love to strengthen an unconditional love that will forgive you.
I will tell you what is going to happen now, your girlfriend is gonna dump your ass. You better spend time with her on your anniversary. Who do you wanna marry? Your girlfriend or Jesus?
@gagirls umm are you kidding me? You do realize that there are many more comments worse than mine, right? At least, i was a lot more civil than many others. This guy is a troll. Lots of those on GaG
Maybe you could include her more into your love for Christ, share your solitude with her? As God created us to be two joined as one. Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matthew 12:11-12 He said to them, “Which one of you who has a sheep, if it falls into a pit on the Sabbath, will not take hold of it and lift it out? Of how much more value is a man than a sheep! So it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath.”
@EmmaMary Scripture. How are you an uber mod when you intentionally provoke and mock those of faith on here? Shouldn't your roll on here to be open towards everyone and create an environment for everyone to speak? I thought mods were intended to be the arbiter of that?
I sincerely hope that you are not suggesting for one moment the Mods. of any level, are not entitled to have a personal opinion, and a voice of free speech.
@EmmaMary Oh of course you're entitled to free speech and opinions. I'm suggesting you to pay attention on how you convey your free speech and opinions. It's partial, insulting, and puts other people down. I think the objective on this website is to encourage people to express their individuality, rather than put it down and become inflammatory when it doesn't coincide with your own beliefs. It's ironic that you're a mod... non the less an uber mod.
@PrettyPriya It's a funny pun, but when it coincides with what Emma Mary originally said which was taken down, it's not as funny. Not sure if you saw the original response. Honestly, somebody quotes scripture on here, and he's ridiculed and mocked by all the mods who are supposed to be the arbiter of keeping the peace on here? Kind of ridiculous
Now how am I supposed to see what has been taken down? I only try to inject humour where I can.
I follow EXACTLY the guidelines G@G has given me. No more, no less. I am not here to arbitrate nor keep peace. My function is to remove and report content against site rules.
You can check the FAQ and select “Moderators” from the drop down menu. If there is something I have missed in my duties, please bring it to my attention.
However, I’m guessing you are not happy simply because you disagree with someone, not because myself, or any other moderator, has failed in their duty.
@PrettyPriya Then that's fair, you didn't see it. Your pun was funny and harmless then. It's innocent and made me laugh. You can make your assumption. I'm not unhappy that someone disagrees with me. I enjoy intellectual debate. I'm a former infantry Marine, and can handle insults. What I don't like is to see people who completely disassociate their humanity through an online avatar and put others down intentionally for no other reason than to put them down. That's bullying. There are no social ramifications to being an asshole online, so people run with it when they feel as if they lack social power in their real life. Deliberately saying "Just what the fuck is this BULLSHIT?" and "Fucking hell!! Why not just fuck off, join a Monastery and become a fucking Monk." is a prime example of what I'm saying. Do you agree with that? This isn't a problem on just GAG, but rather the internet itself. I think people are really shitty to each other online. Just because this man has a difference in religious theology, doesn't mean he should be deliberately put down by other who don't agree with his life choices.
A couple of thigs caught my attention here. First I am wondering if you are truly saved? I ask because I know for me I want others to be saved too. This also goes for the relationship I have with Jesus Christ. And I am also wondering why you would only go to church with your girlfriend on the day you spend with Jesus? Jesus ate with sinners, taught sinners of the kingdom of God. Do you not think Jesus might want you to share your happiness you find in Him with her? Why would you not want her to feel the same joy that you feel when with Jesus? Does Jesus not have enough love for all? Is she not worthy? Don't answer because that is not your call to make. On the cross Jesus found everyone worthy because He took everyone's sins upon Himself so that they all might believe in Him and be saved. Are you trying to be selfish and keep Jesus's love and joy to yourself? Maybe you are not the one for her?
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I go to church every week. I said the only thing I can do WITH HER THAT DAY is go to church. I am saved. My soul is going to heaven.
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Do n2nd Corinthians 6:14 - "Do not be mismatched with unbelievers; for what do righteousness and lawlessness share together, or what does light have in common with darkness?" You should not even be with an unbeliever if you are a genuine Christian. You can see that you both will have many conflicts.
If she was a believer she would not be upset with you communing with the Lord and would probably be sharing that. Exactly what is your church affiliation?
I don't know why she'd hate it - You sound so passionate about it I couldn't but laugh - Especially when reading your replies that shit was hilarious😂😂😂 - You're either a troll that gave me a laugh or a character that could accidentally work a room by himself without even knowing he did
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I do work very efficiently in the mail room. Sometimes I only notice how hard it is when it's hot.
I doubt you will even make a girl truly happy the way you are. I would have dumped you ages ago. Not that you are a bad person, just that you put your beliefs first. Most girls want to be number one in a relationship.
You admitted you are an unbeliever who will burn for the rest of eternity in the infernal flames of Hell, so then how do you know what god knows if you dont believe in god?
I got you. Dont mess with intelligence far superior to your own. You'll think twice before you open your halitosed aperture again.
Jessica I think the asker has forgotten how we all fall short of Gods glory! I apologize for his outrageous behavior towards you and so many others! Hugs!
I wouldn't say a vote of confidence I say its a vote of understanding you can't love what you have not experienced.
he's gotten some hateful remarks so I understand his responses at the same time he should have given it to God not automatically say your going to hell. He has no right to say that. Its not Gods will that anyone perishes but he has allowed us to make our own decisions on what to believe. All you have to do is believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved. Its a free gift to all!
Some people get caught up in their own performances and that takes away from Gods glory God is in the interruptions.
I knew he would get hate but I didn't expect him to give hate too.. but he's human he's not perfect either and I might be holding him from too high of a standard cause some people are only around believers so when they encounter people who dont think the same they get ugly which we are all made in Gods image and he loves you Jessica. Cause I commented and prayed about his situation then I read the guys comments. Then I read the female comments kinda in amazement.
Who would want to follow the god he is presenting by his actions? No one! A soft answer turns away wrath.
Jesus loves you Jessica I posted the comment about him praying to God to create in him a clean heart and God told me to find Jessica and let my love be known to her!
Dont thank me thank God I am just like a pipe willing to be used by him. I think of myself like a water pipe.. the pipe is useless without the water.. the water is a part of the fulfillment for all creation to survive! To God be the glory! I am far from perfect but God is the only one thats perfect.
Hopefully you see how special you are, how special each and every person is to God!
I think you’re missing the point. You have 121 weekends during each year, and the anniversary day that comes along once a year and she wants to do something - and you can’t be the least bit flexible? And you don’t understand why she’s upset? Relationships are about understanding, and give and take. Conflict in your routine is inevitable if you stay in any kind of relationship. If you marry and have a child, are you going to remain so rigid in your routine that you willingly miss milestones in your child’s upbringing in favor of your devotion weekend? You’ll only get one chance to see your child grow up. Deal with it now, or deal with it later.
It means something to her, which is the point you’re missing. You might seek counsel from your clergy as to how to resolve this. I don’t think any of us here can reach you.
If believing in stuff like that makes your life better, more power to you and all the people that believe in various religions and the like. I am guessing she is either not religious or not as religious as you. Though even 3 weeks is extreme and, unless you find someone that shares that kind of thinking, going to cause you issues in any long term relationship or marriage. You can't do that kind of thing when you have kids either. Believing is one thing, but I think you are going to extremes.
She is in a relationship with you. Not a relationship with you and your love of Christ. So I can understand why she would be angry. Because you are pretty much treating her like a third wheel. If you are that devoted to Christ becoming a priest and forsaking relationships outside of the church could be a good idea.
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