What would the Christian response be to a mentally ill glutton who wants to be your best friend?

[jennifer_bloom]

In 2018 and 2019 I had 3 mentally ill people who were constantly harassing me and trying to force me to be their friend and later one of the girls boyfriends started trash talking me cause I gossiped about her

[razelove]

Well, you can be an acquaintance with anyone, but friendship takes longer to get to, more effort as well. You can't force someone to be your friend either, so your other three examples are confusing. How mentally ill are you talking, like depression, bipolar, or yells at trees?

[jennifer_bloom]

Like their choices in life are so bizarre and usual they must be mentally ill, one person borrowed $10,000 to bribe a guy into being her friend when she made minimum wage at a part time job and another told me she wanted to date me and believed I was leading her on and she had a fiancé and the third guy would ghost me in every conversation he ever started with me but spend 2 years trying to date me cause I was the only girl who did not ghost him and block his number and discard him like trailer trash.

[razelove]

Oh, it just sounds like they've become too immersed in social media and are living out a fantasy story where they really have 500 friends to bail them out or something. I figure it's fine to use people like that, or go to public places with them like bars, parks, or coffee shops, but having dealt with both drug addicts and histrionics, I find drug addicts more trustworthy.

At least you just know not to leave them alone with nice stuff or tell them when you're going out of town, you never know what the narcissists will do. That one girl is going to be paying interest with her body for so long for that 10k... Yeah, be a friend at a distance, don't get sucked into their pace, only meet at public places, should be fine. At least it'll be entertaining to watch them spin out of control.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yeah I’m glad she does not know where I live cause she is unstable.

[Jabberjaw]

Where does it say in the Bible you're supposed to be everyone's friend?

[Adronicus]

I can tell you what the "christian" response was for me going to church. I'll never go to another one again. Pastor looks right at me & says "Satan could be among us even now" while he was staring right at me. I chose a spot no one was at.

I looked around before I left & there were around 15 different females all sitting around me. When I left I noticed around 9 guys staring hard at me from their vehicles, every single one dropped their gaze when I looked at them. Was one of the most pathetic things I've ever experienced..

[smileydrb]

First off, what does religion have to do with how you handle people? If these people are that much trouble, why would you even consider these people in your life? Seems you maybe attracting these people into your life. For me , hi and bye is the thing you should doing to these types of people, unless you like the attention.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If they want to be your friend but live their life so differently than you, I would say it's a sign God sent those people to you so you could learn something.

I would say the Christian thing to so is to hang out with them and don't preach to them but listen to them. Soon it will become clear why they're in your life.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Based on what you're telling me, establish boundaries with them. If they repeatedly dishonor those boundaries, consider restraining orders. And get a shotgun, just in case a piece of paper isn't enough to stop them.

[Tantrasutra]

Consider boundaries.

You can love everyone.

But not all can have equal access.

Be polite, courteous, but find some boundaries and say no. It is honest and appropriate.

[Hulk30]

Well I'm not religious and I think religious people don't understand the difference between religion and spirituality which in reality has nothin to do with intimacy with God but ya can't get mad if ya wanna engage in bullyin like gossipin if your spiritual karma is havin trash talked about you in return so to me fuck Christian responses it's really about Godly treatment if ya claim to follow God

[jennifer_bloom]

I bad mouthed her but everything I said was true - I did not lie

[Anonymous]

I originally thought literally mentally ill people which may be difficult. But if they aren’t mentally ill then you could just ignore them or something.

[TacosRAwesome]

The response is What would Jesus do? You can try helping them but need to keep a safe distance.

[Subarugirl]

To not gossip... anyway isn't the correct answer to any question about how a Christian should act be, do what Jesus did...

[jennifer_bloom]

Jesus gossiped about the pharisees

[Subarugirl]

Matthew 12:36-37 “ I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”

Last I checked there was no mention of Jesus gossiping in the bible.

[jennifer_bloom]

Jesus talked to his disciples about the sins of the pharisees and how they were fake in their behaviours

[Subarugirl]

You mean Jesus was preaching to his disciples about the corruption of the leaders in the synagogue? That's not gossip... gossip is casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.

[jennifer_bloom]

Everything I said was true - I did not lie or speculate

[Subarugirl]

but it was casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, and you yourself called it gossip

[jennifer_bloom]

I was trying to defend myself when a guy said I had no right to say they people she socialized with are bad so I explained why they were bad, they convinced her to take $10,000 in borrowed money from a loan shark to give to a guy she wanted to date when she worked part time at a minimum wage job.

[Subarugirl]

yeah... that's gossiping.

[Subarugirl]

and was/is none of your business. Unless you were suspecting abuse, in which case you should have reported it to the proper authorities.

[jennifer_bloom]

She made it my business when she harassed me and forced me to be her friend against my will

[Subarugirl]

How did she force you? We’re you black mailed? Did she threaten you? Manipulate you? Since when does two wrongs equal a right? Didn’t Jesus say to turn the other cheek? To love those who wrong you?

[jennifer_bloom]

She would constantly text me and try to get me to talk to her

[Subarugirl]

You don’t have a block option lol j your phone?

[Subarugirl]

*on your phone

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t block people unless they are predatory or violent

[Subarugirl]

Okay but you still chose to gossip ….

[jennifer_bloom]

I talk about the things that bother me which is also what Jesus did

[Subarugirl]

There is a difference between confiding to someone about some thing you’re going through versus gossiping…. You said you were gossiping.. are you now saying that you weren’t?

[jennifer_bloom]

I was just complaining about a badly behaved person that I knew was intentionally misbehaving

[Subarugirl]

I mean you said you gossiped, now you’re trying to justify it. You could just repent for doing something the Bible clearly is wrong

[FunkyMonkee]

Suffer, bitch! I'm too GOOD to try to help YOU in ANY way!!

[Blueeyes81]

Turn the other cheek and love they neighbor as thyself. Also I'd look in the mirror and wonder if I'm a christian or just one in appearance.

[Vendela]

Uhm...

[Anonymous]

You're a Christian?

[ODC2112]

Love your enemy