Did God curse me?

[Anonymous]

I never had a friend or a boyfriend in high school or university, but I tried hard, they always didn't want me. What would you do if you were me? No matter how hard you try, you will never have a friend, you will never have a lover, you will pray to God and he will not answer you. After I have my family, I have 2 options: I will kill myself because I have no one but them, the other option is I will be alone for the rest of my life.

[DishLady]

I don't believe that a divine being made you, put you on this planet and then said, "You know? I'm going to curse this guy."

God always answers. Lug nuts that so many people are, they're just not listening... Additionally, the answer is not necessarily what we'd like it to be.

There's a story I've told before, about the guy expecting to be "saved by God" from a terrible flood. A friend comes in his car to save him and he sends the friend away. A community service vehicle comes to save him and he sends it away. An emergency rescue helicopter comes to save him and he sends it away. He then drowns in the ensuing flood and gets to the Pearly Gates of Heaven, where he's good and angry by the time he gets to the front of the line... and he complains "GOD was supposed to come save me!" The angel calmly tells the guy, "And He tried... He sent your friend... the community service rep... and even an EMS, but you rejected His help all three times and now you're here, still being offered the chance at salvation, but you're complaining."

In my church, there's a line that's repeated over and over again -- BE ATTENTIVE. It means we need to be MINDFUL of all the gifts and opportunities around us so we can be attuned to our purpose and the things God is sharing with us every moment of our lives.

[Asker]

The day the earthquake happened, I said to the girl, God bless you, girl, you believe in me, she said stay away from me, then I said hello to a girl, can I know her name, the girl said to me, I won't make you a lover, don't force me. In high school and university, everyone is together for their own benefit. There are no real friends. I've never had good luck with girls, I've never been in love in my life and I've never had a girlfriend. And I will be alone for the rest of my life. Why should God care about me when he cares about those people? Most men cheat on or beat their girlfriends when they get bored, but girls still have such relationships with those men. But if the girl I love was cold, I would give her the jacket, coat or umbrella I was wearing, so that she wouldn't get cold, and I would never hesitate and I would always be with her. If God is perfect enough to know everything, why doesn't he give me a girlfriend even though he knows the decisions I will make in advance?

[Asker]

Thank you

[Asker]

I really wish there was a person in my life, I would be so happy, who understands me, always thinks about me, loves me for my own existence, not for profit, loves me for who I am, but it is impossible, I am not very rich, but I am good in body structure, my physique is beautiful. I'm handsome, no lie, but still, in this economic period, girls hang out with rich men instead of sitting at home and being bored.

[DishLady]

Again... I'm telling you that you're probably having better luck avoiding the wrong girls atm. If you're meant to have that girl who needs the jacket, God will set her on your path one way or another. If you're NOT meant to have that girl, pay attention to the signs leading you to whatever your path should be.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

You’re 22. You’ve only been an adult for 4 years. There is no set time in anyone’s life where they are supposed to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. Some people don’t get into relationships until their mid-late 20s, some until their 30s and still others in their 40s and beyond. So no, God did not curse you.

[Asker]

I've never been in love, I've never been in a girl's heart

[DaBiggestBird]

He never curses anyone. Curses stem from evil and God did not invent evil. Also real quick, please never harm yourself, especially in a fatal way. I’m pretty sure that is a pretty serious sin. You shouldn’t feel alone. You know you aren’t, right? He is always with us, people just refuse to look and submit. He might’ve answered you already. You must believe to see.

[Nirmroth]

First a girlfriend and now you want a boyfriend?

To find friends you gotta socialize and talk to people even if it might be draining. Trough them you get to know more people and so on. I meet my gfs all trough friends of friends.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Damn dude, get some therapy for all that self-hatred. Of course you’re not going to make friends or lovers by putting those vibes out into the world. Get better, learn to like yourself, and do something that feels worthwhile that doesn’t involve another person. Hobbies are powerful things.

[Asker]

I'm better than before, you don't have to worry

[Danisa]

Seems like God does not want you being some guys mental health project. Get help first, relationship second.

[Anonymous]

No but, you might be cursed by Freddie Kreuger.
The reason you got no answer from god is because there is no such thing!
You have no one but whom?
Why don't you join a monastery? You might find quite a few boyfriend's, there.

[Anonymous]

Most guys never had a boyfriend in high school-perfectly normal

[Asker]

Can we talk privately please?