How did you recover from religious trauma?

[Alwayreckles93]

This month I am still recovering from religious trauma. From some Christians point of view you might say I ended up in the wrong house. For one I still believe in God and I don't think God is going to hate me for wearing pants and make up or decorating my house for each and every holiday season. This morning I went on a walk on my neighborhood I saw a lake beautiful trees and to be honest I felt more peace and the presence of the Lord even more then I ever did in a church building. I am just wondering how you or if you meet someone who went threw a religious trauma?

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I used the tighing to help people. I will go to target ask the cashier what is their favorite soda and I get it for them. Pastor is wealthy enough and I am not sure why pastor demanded I pay 50%of my salary to him and his wife.

[ohsheeT]

First of all don't go back to those people because they used you

Just because a; . Pastor your priest. Tells you you have to give money that's wrong first of all and to be a Christian you do not have to give tithing... When you were born you were given a gift that gift is choice you get to choose who you want to be in life by the things you say and do..

That doesn't mean you need to follow your pastor or priest just because they say something it's one of the reasons why I quit going to church because they told me if I did not do something I would go to hell well that's not the way I see it just because you read something like that and you got that message from whatever it is you read doesn't mean I get the same message so anyway but forget that recover by not going back to those people they are one of the reasons why I don't go to church because I hate people like them I guarantee it they do not help people with that money they help only themselves...

You have to do what's right for you so whatever it might be I don't know but think about it before you do it do it because you can or you want to or you're there in that moment not because somebody tells you to..

Sorry I didn't even read your whole question I apologize

[Alwayreckles93]

I really appreciate your advice. You made very good 👌 excellent advice best ever. Yes you are 💯 correct as I have no idea where that money is going. At first I felt sad but you are correct I can love the Lord at home follow the rules God's command It is not necessary to attended a church building to be considered a Christian. Pastors or priests I noticed what they do is put fair on people.

[Alwayreckles93]

No worries it's ok. Your advice truly help me a lot. You made my day 😊 thank you again.

[ohsheeT]

Thank you you're very welcome

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally hear you sis, leaving a toxic faith situation can be so tough to recover from mentally and emotionally. But it sounds like you're taking all the right steps!

Focusing on your own personal relationship with God outside of church politics is really important for healing. Nature is such a great place to connect with the Divine too - way better than stuffy old buildings sometimes, right? And showing love to strangers with little acts of kindness is so Jesus-like. You seem to have the right perspective.

As for that pastor demanding your salary, yikes girl! I'd be questioning a lot too in that case. You do NOT owe some preacher dude your money like that, especially one rolling in wealth already. Sounds like you're well shut of that mess now.

Just take it day by day - surround yourself with people who love YOU, not their idea of who you should be. And trust that God has your back through it all. In time all that trauma junk will fade and you'll be stronger for having walked through the fire. You've got this sis!

[OlderAndWiser]

The only religious "trauma" I ever had was the sudden epiphany that God created me and he loves me.

[razelove]

Unless you were a part of Ruby Ridge or something I think you'll be OK finding a new church that's more mainstream, less evangelical, and taking things a little less seriously.

I will say that the ones that do tithing pay a whole lot of money for specialty work. I remember getting paid like 10 grand cash for what was just a couple short days of lighting work with pretty much no overhead. They aren't getting taxed so they don't have to worry about write offs.

[strateguy632]

Wear pants? Christian ladies can wear jeans n pants.

Pastor in update sounds greedy. And tithe is one in tenth, and for honoring god like operating the temple church not pastor pocket.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I never had any personally, but I’m glad you no longer believe in the strange things that you used to believe

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you. I want to apologize for the way I acted last year to your beliefs. I am really sorry. You always been a great friend of mine here. You and exterminator.

[WhiteBoyChill]

No worries, I had my time periods of radicalization as well on this site. Haha

[LiamJHayden]

The church is the people who truly belong to Jesus, not the building. And many such buildings have people in charge who are completely legalistic, much like the Pharisees of Jesus's day, issuing edicts that God did not command.

[LiamJHayden]

You recover by avoiding those who preach a "different Gospel" and/or add onto the commands of Jesus and by finding those who follow the real Gospel.

[blueonblack22]

Just because Judas exists it doesn’t change the fact that Christ is Lord.

[Vanny20]

@blueonblack22 So true, Jesus is Lord forever and ever

[blueonblack22]

@Vanny20 👍👍👍✝️✝️✝️

[Vanny20]

Peace be onto you

[DrPepper12]

The pastor is a scam. Make your own communion with God. No intermediary needed. I went opposite, after 9 years of Catholic indoctrination I am now an atheist.

[Ladsin2]

I just grew up. I deconverted around 18 and was quite angry and bitter for a while. Now I'm significantly more open to rejoining religious tradition even if I don't believe.

[SweetJoyGirl]

So, do you still truly believe? 🤔

[Anonymous]

Do what God wants

[eagle1951]

never had any