How to deal with trauma?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone! I’m having a hard time talking to my prom date. It’s not just him every time I’m romantically involved with a guy I feel awkward and I want it to end. When I was 3/4 I was best friends with my dad we were inseparable! My dad is heavily religious and he’s a Jehovah's witness. When I was around 7 years old I didn’t want to go to that church every time I’d refuse he’d beat me with a metal spatula multiple times. I would sometimes go to bed hungry too. Now that I’m 17 he oversexualizes the hell out of me! I wore a skirt and he told me “I shouldn’t be going to school looking sexy.” He’d call me pretty sometimes, when I was younger he’d walk on me changing my clothes. He won’t even let me go to the college want to go to because I’m going to get kidnapped. Every time I tell my mom she defends him! I remember I was in a rush and my pants fell and parts of my butt were showing and he yelled at my mom because he saw my lace panties. She yelled at me saying I'm disgusting and I told her that I see his buttcrack all the time in his pajamas and she replied it doesn’t matter he’s your father and he’s the adult of the house. I find it so hard to talk to guys I like, and my prom date is becoming more distant because I’m not talking to him and I’m not opening up. I feel hopeless right now.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Trauma is hard to deal with, especially when you are under 18, and your parents caused the trauma, but you still live with them. That is difficult.


I always suggest therapy, because therapy can help you deal with the trauma and be able to cope with it in a healthy way, and being able to open up about it.


I know it can be difficult to talk and open up about trauma, but you don’t always have to tell all the details. What is your prom date asking? Do you have to open up to him? Are you able to tell him just the surface level of details, such as, “my dad doesn't treat me very well,” and tell him that you can open up later on when you feel comfortable?

[Asker]

My parents don’t believe in therapy. My brothers were problematic children I think it’s because their mom died and my mom mistreated them badly severely. Now they’re struggling one of them is absolutely insane.

[WhitneySnow]

You need to get out of that house