Do you believe the philosophy that ALL world's standard birthing, parenting, and schooling practices cause mommy and daddy issues in 100% of us?

[There_Is_Rehab]

In other words, it is impossible to live healthy in this world without actively doing shadow work?

Sounds intuitive

No, i believe the medicsl community estimating 40% to have issues

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And that 100% ALL intrusive thoughts are hars proof you have mommy and daddy issues?

[strateguy632]

that is too extreme. but my parents hitting me gave me issues. parents need to be creative with punishments and only punish fairly!

[There_Is_Rehab]

Thank you. We are all raised under trauna based mind control one way or another.

[strateguy632]

you don't distinguish degrees of trauma? parents who defended a child vs. ignore vs. attack?

[Strong_Feelings]

Nope. All the same. If your body never got the memo "now we are safe" you will reenact the situation no matter how hard you try to avoid it.

I think hitting is much a distraction we need to forget about. It is all about the emotion.

I just remembered that possibly i had my pants pulled as a kid, i do not remember it, but the act of it happening is floating to mind. Oh shit, it happened to a friend. I was the oldest kid so nobody dared touching me there but a dude was pulled, fell, and had his dick exposed.

Even in a grade 1 gym change room. That's it. That's trauma. Me seeing it traumatized me too, i fear it will happen to me.

No, it is not about "hurt his feelings". Fuck that. We easily move on.

But. Till this day his body is probably always ready "if someone grabs my waistband, rip their face off"

It creates postural imbalances because the muscles expect it to happen any moment.

He needs to cry about it if he hasn't. I should too. It might be also why i conveniently sunbathed my dick and neighbors saw it - trauma reenactment. Yes i am serious, this is not insane theory but widespread psychology. My shadow-self tricked me with "health benefits" to sunbathe all because i saw someone else be dick-show embarrassed, i grew paranoid it will happen (without knowing i am paranoid, of course) i am theorizing for your clarity but it does happen in real life.

And if he knows it will happen again? Then don't cry about it. Stay alert. Crying is merely signaling to the nervous system that it's over. But it risks you creating it when you wait and wait and the threat never shows up.

[Strong_Feelings]

Many patriarchal families punish kids for begging for mom to come. In other words, an additional trauma on top. And definitely ensuring you haven't cried it all out and permanent tension. I hear you, man. Just ensure you never ever force a cry. Only cry if a memory causes you to.

But again i am not isolating conservatives. The other side is toxic positivity, punishing anger, forcing you to act empathetic even if your body has no need for it.

Well, in either case it is a shadow-self thing, shadow self loves trauma, it is sadistic.

Only humble people can heal. Yes even you agape you need to cry about being S. A. ed. i just got tears thinking about it happening to you. You should cry and cry, and even puke if necessary. Until you forget them. If you don't, it will manifest as sadism in you or physical illness. Both of which never disappear and cost infinitely more than grieving trembling and screaming for a few hours.

[LC75LC71]

What you say bout my momma? Really it's quite narrow headed to group an entire world based on data that most likely researched properly. Not all strippers have daddy issues..

[DishLady]

No. Mommy/Daddy issues come from either trauma or an emotional disorder.

[jshm2]

LOL, what you babbling about?