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My girlfriend is really close with her sister, but I'd wager they haven't gotten as close as we have, if you catch my drift.

So while one is clearly more intimate, which one takes precedence? We also spend every waking moment together and have for the past 3 years, while she sees her family only occassionally. Yeah, there's a blood tie, but she admits that her family is really rude and demeaning and she doesn't like spending too much time with them.

For my situation, her sister is extremely rude and just plain mean, so I don't want to spend time with her. Girlfriend is upset that I don't want to see her sister.

But, they are still family. And while we could break up, family is more reliable, sometimes.

I have decided to minimize my time around her family as much as possible, as they are a net-negative to my life. But, I fully support her spending whatever time she wants with them. I'm just wondering how much leeway I should have to bitch about it in the event it damages our relationship. Freedom of choice, sure, but none of us get to decide freedom of outcome resulting from our actions. Does family obviously come first? Or does your romantic partner of 3 years?

It's often that you'll hear people say to "never settle" when it comes to dating. People also criticize others for being too picky--like telling a friend that they're pushing away great people over a long checklist of qualifications.

So my question to you is: what should we do? should we settle for someone who doesn't meet our original expectation for a boyfriend/girfriend/spouse, or should we wait it out and hope for that special someone that we've always imagined to come along?

Just as some thoughts:

Merits to settling include: making it easier to get into a nice relationship. Giving an ordinarily overlooked persona a chance, and breaking the trend of leaving "average" people alone and dsingle, in favor of clamoring after the people that everyone else already likes.

Merits to never settling include preventing a relationship with a dissatisfying partner, avoiding regrets in your relationship, and being absolutely certain that your choice of partner was the best.

So what do you think?

Also, listen to Bo Burnham's song about it when you get the chance. You'll laugh. It's called "Lower Your Expectations."