Can you help this late bloomer with finally dating a guy.. ?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone ,,
I have not been in the app long so I don’t know how to use it properly haha
Also sorry about my bad English I’m not an American !

So I’m 31, my personality according to people is very shy , introvert and lonely. I can’t say I’m a lonely person but I do enjoy my time alone.
I have also never had a boyfriend even now at 31 !!! 😩 I know to some it’s crazy but that was honestly my choice for some reasons I was never interested to anyone. There was a time I was when I was 27 but my parents passed away so suddenly in a car accident. So I dropped it again. Since 27 until now 31 years flew by and I can say I’m finally seeing some hope and light. I’m staring to feel happy. Also graduated college and worked made some money.

Back to the main topic
Your girl met a guy 🥺☺️ it was a sudden meeting close to where I live. Then we started messaging and talking been 1 month now. Last week he told me he is interested to get to know me more and asked to be his girlfriend. I said yes, I finally like someone the way how I want them to be and act etc. he is a nice guy. Also he is 37 older then me and I like that.
However , damn I’m so ashamed.
I have never dated , should I tell him this. I don’t even known how to kiss let alone other things.. I feel too anxious. Is this normal? Do you think If I tell him the truth he might not like this?
What do you think I should do!! I mean I’m not 25 virgin I’m a dinosaur 31 years old ugh..
I’m very shy around him 🥺 because of this reason.
My close friend says he probably noticed !! And that there is nothing wrong with it

[Berethor]

Guys tend to prefer good girls over hos for a serious relationship, so you don't need to worry.

[Asker]

Thank you being nice! I am dating a 37 years old and a comment user who’s 44 just called a 31 years old oldie ! Haha I know I am a dinosaur no need to reinforce it 😅 so your comment makes me feel better ! Arigatou ~~ ^^

[Asker]

I am a happy person and open to life but I think what made my life hard in my 20s is losing my parents in car accident. And I and to care if my 3 younger so young sibling.

[Asker]

I had to take care *

[Berethor]

It's unfortunate that your parents died so soon. You dating two men? it don't sounds good.

[Asker]

Oh no no sorry my mistake. A user here at gag at my post you can see his comment not another men. I am dating 1 haha

[Berethor]

Then it's fine, so he is 6 years older than you? it's okay he is not old enough to be your dad. :)

[d3n0939]

You don't have to tell him. Try to make this work, at least get in the bed with him.

[Asker]

Hi , thank you for your comment. I was honestly thinking this. But I might seem awkward in what to do next so I think he might notice. So I will see how it goes.. my concern is that guys now days don’t really want virgins. I understand why. But I just didn’t want to be in a random relationship just so I have an experience at least.. I couldn’t do it. I have to like the guy smh

[d3n0939]

That is why I am telling you. Try to give him a hint, he will get it. Wear fitting clothes while you are with him.

[d3n0939]

Fell free to follow me if you need any help with this. I would be happy to help

[jshm2]

You're a virgin and an old one at that. But your problem is more your lack of social skills - which you are trying to hide behind the title of "introvert".

You're in the mix now though, so have to learn fast, else end up knocked up, and knocked out your savings.

Not saying he's after your money and pussy and nothing else, but you do give off desperate vibes. That's what's kept you relationship free all these years. Sadly, that vibe attracts love predators and you're at the age most scammers target.

[Asker]

Thank you for commenting. I’m sorry giving you such vibes. Your comment is helpful. I have to say that I’m not rich at all.. maybe my relationship social skills might look weird to international people since I’m from a different patriarchal country such as japan for example. I can say me not having a boyfriend so far is not due to social skills. I get along very well with other people and at my job. I have also refused dating myself. But I can see what you mean. Makes sense

[Avicenna]

Just be honest with him about your lack of experience. I very much doubt a guy would lose interest because of that.

[Anonymous]

a woman who reached 31 without having a boyfriend? shocking, but for a guy, not shocking

[Asker]

Thank you for your comment

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Guys mostly never dump a virgin

[Anonymous]

Something you don't expect to happen to women