Boyfriend going on stagdo abroad next year, do most men cheat?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is going on a stag do abroad next year, either to Las Vegas or somewhere similar.. he's going to be the best man.

I don't want to make it about me but I'm extremely worried already and I think about it everyday, I have bpd and anxiety disorder so something like this can set me off.. not only that but the stag who is getting married, in my opinion has been disrespectful towards his fiance, not cheated and he is nice but I've heard him say very disrespectful stuff, even about one of my best friends sexually.. I also know he's going to want strippers which means my boyfriend will have no choice in that matter so I'll have to put up with it and I'm worried if they will be in the hotel room etc.

My boyfriend is a good guy, but I'm worried mixed with certain people or vibes, drinking, drugs and strip clubs that he may cheat on me.

I'll be going on holiday too at the time to try and put my mind off of it, but how the f*** do I stop worrying about it. Do most men really cheat on stag do's?

[Guy13]

Sounds like you are giving him a green light. Have you two spoken about it ⁉️

[Asker]

What do you mean by me giving him a green light? And no not really

[Guy13]

Have you two discussed it seriously ⁉️

[boggboss]

It honestly sounds like u don't trust him or think he will cheat which males me wonder why u are even with him how can u say he is a good guy but think he will cheat

[Asker]

Because I have bpd, people with BPD really struggle with trust and abandonment issues. I also have been through a lot in past relationships

[boggboss]

But see I get that but fundamentally on the most basic level a relationship won't last without trust no matter the reason as u not trusting him essentially means u are saying he will cheat so even if he is a loyle guy whats the point of him staying with u or being loyal when u already think the worst and I get u might be this way because of your mental illness and your past but its pointless being with someone if u are not ready to trust have u tried therapy

[DermalPunch]

My boyfriend would be my ex if he went. I also have a bit of this type if anxiety. Couldn't even date a guy who had friends like that.

[KrakenAttackin]

Most men do not want more than one woman. If he is really into you he will not cheat. BPD might make you hard to be around, if so you might drive him to another woman.

[In_Trance]

People cheat if you give them reason to cheat

[Asker]

Nah men cheat because they can't control what is in their pants sometimes.

[Asker]

Or they think theyll get away with it

[In_Trance]

You're wrong

[Asker]

But so many guys have good girls and still cheat?

[In_Trance]

Clearly they're not that good for each other

[Anonymous]

i really don't give a shit about your problem

[NatalieIshereO]

Some do