Depends on the guy, and depends on his friends.
I've never really taken a vacation with just the guys, unless I want to argue that business trips are "vacations," which - believe me - they're not.
If I had some time alone, I would probably go SCUBA diving, get certified as an underwater rescuer or photographer, splurge some serious money on some deep sea underwater photography equipment, and take really amazing pictures. That, or I'd just dive in less than 30 meter depths for a few hours a day, and get the nitrogen out of my system before I flew back home.
Now, if I'm with a group of just guys, I'm basically stuck with idiots the whole time. I suppose it's better than being stuck with someone that's always anxious you're going to die. But, I'd be in the uncomfortable position of pretending I'm totally cool with just drinking socially for 12 hours a day and joining in on the conversation to comment how hot every other girl that passes by is. These are male social bonding rituals that I don't have the patience for anymore, and hence, why I've never really been on a guys only vacation.
I agree with shadowscapes. It all comes down to trust. You have to trust your partner. If you don't trust your partner, you both suffer. For example, I watched Man of Steel with my girlfriend yesterday. She wants to go see it again today, but I'm busy today with other things. So, she called up my brother's friend (a guy, let's call him Henry), to go see Man of Steel again. Now, I know Henry likes her in a sexual way. I also know the only reason she's seeing Man of Steel again is because she thinks Henry Cavil is hot. I think Henry Cavil is hot. But I didn't even give it a second thought when she wanted to go see it with Henry.
Why? Because I trust her. We have a relationship of blind trust. It's its own incentive to not do anything funny, because both people are afraid to destroy, ruin, or lose that relationship of blind trust. Think of it like the marriage between game theory and the endowment effect.
Now, I suppose you could have a relationship of zero trust, or only "token" trust, where people had to "earn" trust or else they were presumed guilty or potentially guilty. In that relationship, nothing is really "lost" by doing anything funny. Plus, there are no real benefits of trust until 50 years down the road. So, people are actually more at risk to do something funny in that relationship dynamic, either because they want to see if they can get away with it, out of frustration of feeling controlled or oppressed, or because of resentment towards the dis-trustfulness of their partner.
All you have it trust in a relationship. Without trust, there's no relationship. Trust is the only thing holding two people together voluntarily (i.e., not by financial necessity). So, it's your choice whether you want to presume you have a relationship, or you want to presume you don't have a relationship.
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I think it comes down to the person. Women cheat just as much when no one is around ( probably more ) But oddly enough, if this were a man posting this, women would be laying into him about he's too insecure, he needs to trust his girlfriend, he's a controlling pig, etc.
Sounds to me like they are just down there having a good time hanging out as buddies and getting some much needed relaxation time.
You are sensitive because you have had guys cheat on your in the past. This is understandable. But I commend you for keeping your cool and letting him go on vacation.
There is no way to know if a guy is going to cheat on your or not, the only thing you can do is trust him. He hasn't done anything to lose your trust yet.
The best thing to do is to communicate with him about your concerns. Talk to him about your past and why you worry. Sounds to me like he really likes you, and so do his buddies which is a really good sign.
Just like women, men need time to unwind and see their friends. Think of it as a girls night out kinda deal. Every guy and his group of friends have their thing. My boyfriend loves to golf, it's his passion. I think it's great he has something he is passionate about. He goes out golfing with his friends all the time, he also likes many other sports.
I enjoy spending time with him, but I know it's important to let him go out and have guy time. That doesn't involve other girls, just spending time with friends. It's probably hard at his age to get some alone time with his buddies as everyone is busy with their life and families.
But I think you are doing a great job to be patient and not go crazy over this. I'm sure he is not cheating on you, and will be eager to see you when he gets home.
I am interested in this question as my Boyfriend goes on trips all the time
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I'll put in these terms. You either trust your man or you don't.
If a man is trustworthy, he could be in another corner of the universe and he still wouldn't cheat.
If a man is not trustworthy, he could cheat within a 5 mile radius whenever he wanted.I think it's just as likely as you or one of your girl friends doing it. So put you and your friends in their position and ask yourself if anyone would cheat. That would be the answer.
As for if your boyfriend will, I have no idea. I don't know him or his feelings about you or how his friends behave in such a situation.Boys trips are about having a laugh and getting laid. Doesn’t matter if you are married, kids, engaged whatever, that kind of behaviour is rife in boys trips
most likely they are just gonna get drunk and talk about hot girls but not actually do anything
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