Am I a bad person for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because he is still married and he is going through a divorce settlement/process?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always told myself and other guys beforehand when I start dating. That I’m not interested in dating recently divorced fathers. Because there is so much drama and baggage with that. I’ve tried breaking it off with this guy, but he always begs me to stay. While buying me gifts and offering money to me. I’m not a gold digger and money does not interest me. So I’ve rejected his offers and gifts. Because his wife is already trying to get money from him through the divorce. His parents are still trying to convince him to fix his marriage. I understand he is going through a lot and I think it’s best I’m not in his life to burden him and me watching him go through this.

Am I making the right choice here?
What should I do?

[Guy13]

He does not sound like one that meets your basic standards although you are trying to cloak it in reason. He's not stupid and understands rebound scenarios... Do what you think is best... you are there.

[Zozzita]

You are making the right choice 100%. It’s not your job to stick with him and his baggage. And like you said, you told him from the start you weren't interested. He needs to accept that and get his own shit together before he starts dating women.

[Hush97]

Being offered money and gifts sounds like he’s trying to buy you and cheapens what you think you had. If you were looking for a clean slate, I think you should let him go. Especially if you got your own kids.

[midnightmoon05]

Are they still living together?

[Asker]

No he went living back with his parents and sometimes visits his son on the weekends

[midnightmoon05]

You are not a bad person.

If you stay, you are not being good to yourself. This is not about selfish. This is about your happiness. If he can’t give you the love you deserve, you have to think about your next step and this is what you are doing now.
Yes - get out of that drama.