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He was interviewing my alongside the 2 senior managers of the team and was supposed to mentor me and show me around on my first day at work since I was assigned to his project. I felt like I sucked during the interview since the senior manager seemed to not like me but received an offer the next day. I assume it was because I was the only applicant for the role.

When I arrived on my first day I saw him making a phone call in the lobby but not acknowledging me. Later the senior manager welcomed me and showed me the office where he was not to be found even though he was supposed to show me around. Later I found out that his coworker would mentor me instead of him and he never made an effort to talk to me, not even work related issues. Even other coworkers mentioned that he barely spoke to me so I’m not imagining it.

Does that indicate that he thinks I’m incompetent and therefore doesn’t want to be associated with me? Or does he think I would just be a bother because I don’t come off intelligent enough for him? Or does he just find me unpleasant or physically unattractive? He is married but I know that he has an affair with his coworker and he is quite sociable so it’s not like he is afraid of metoo.

I've read this infidelity story before. I'll refer the names as Jane and Tom.

Jane was 19 and Tom was 20 at the time. They've been dating for 8 months or so when she got caught cheating. She cheated with Tom's good friend. Both got caught falling alseep in Tom's house, on his couch in a compromised position with the TV still running, an empty bottle of rum and empty snack bags. They had already finished the deed when Tom arrived. His friend was only in boxers and she dressed up with jeans but only had bra. Alcohol was involved and the cheating went on for nearly 3 months.

Tom somehow forgives that, reconciles and still marries her 5 years later. Jane changed for the better though, by her own admission never cheated again. Then 15 years into their marriage (and 20 years since her cheating took place) and with 3 kids, Tom begins coming home drunk and cheats for other reasons; midlife crisis. Tom briefly fell in love with the other woman, stole some of his wife's money to spend it on his affair, secretly gave his wife's meals to the other woman and was thinking about setting up a trip to France just to be with her for a bit, away from responsiblities, away from the kids, out of reality. Their ages by then are 39 and 40.