What can she do to officially end the affair and ensure that I feel comfortable it is over and done with so that I can start to rebuild my trust in her. Also, this other person is married and his wife has no idea, in fact his wife is inviting us to a birthday dinner in a week or so.
So far I've considered having her delete all social media, or grant me full access to it as well as her phone.. At this point I cannot trust her, I think I need to leave.