I didn't want to write this question and I guess that's why I'm going Anonymous this time but relationships are not perfect and ours is not an exception.
Me and my husband had a disagreement and he's been avoiding me. Doesn't sleep in the same bed and doesn't acknowledge my presence. He claims I lied to him about my past and that me and my male friend had an affair in the past with each other which we didn't. He called me a liar and doesn't see any other reason for me to lie other than we've slept together. Which I repeat again I did not sleep with my friend and never hooked up our relationship was never romantic.
He started giving me the silent treatment and turned his back on me. He went on a work trip and didn't even say a proper goodbye to me. I guess he won't talk to me while he's away. I'm hurt. This is the man I married and love deeply. While I want to allow him space to regroup his thoughts I don't want him to think I don't care for him and I want us to solve this issue. I was thinking of writing him a letter. What should I do? I'm feeling like sh*t.
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So what gave him this idea? Did he just invent it? You've given us very little context here but honestly I've seen such posts before and generally there is enough information available after digging a but to support the husband's viewpoint.
could you and your friend be exhibiting behaviors consistent with an affair?
never! my friend is married too and they live in a different country now. me and my husband met them once for dinner and when he lived here we wouldn’t meet often and when we did it was either in the presence of his wife or my husband. we were never attracted to each other in the first place. my husband thinks the way we met doesn’t make any sense to him. to me it’s a misunderstanding
That still doesn't explain and honestly seems like your sidestepping. Your husband has either seen, heard or experienced something to give him this idea.
Yes he could be just projecting his own guilt but his reaction is a bit extreme.
I can guarantee you he did not see anything because nothing ever happened between me and my friend. Is the silent treatment really the best thing to deal with this situation?
personally, no. But we have very limited information and none of his side of the story. I am betting his version won't match yours.
Either he's dumb or he's projecting. Get counseling, I guess