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I've been very passive most of my life, often keeping my differing opinion to myself when in a group setting such as in a classroom, but if someone asked me directly, I'd have little hesitation stating my differing opinion.

For instance, back in high school, a girl was complaining about getting a detention for using her phone during class earlier in the day. I didn't say anything but when she said my name, looked at me and said "right"? As if to ask me to vouch for her seeing as how I was there as well, but to her surprise, I said "well, you've been using your phone in class for quite some time and she's told you multiple times to stop but you continued, so yeah you got a detention for it".

This angered her as expected and seemed to shock her as she's a big figure in the "popular crowd" and likely was used to people affirming her but I threw a curveball she didn't expect.

Over the years, I've become more passive aggressive and about a year ago when a slight change to my medication for anger management, depression and ADHD, I've now become more assertive than passive. I take absolutely no issue inserting my opinion into a discussion when it's contrary to the popular one. Even when there's a good chance someone may get offended by what I say.

While I also take no issue in acknowledging the limitations I have in regards to topics I know little about, like cars and such, in those cases, I make my unfamiliarity clear and delegate to those who are familiar. I also tend to probe others opinions when stated in a general manner, wanting to know what led them to their conclusion.

I'd call this a positive development for me and my girlfriend of 2 years seems to like this development as well. I wouldn't consider myself confident nor self loathing, just realistic and abel to acknowledge that there's nothing special about me.

I am curious how others view this though, do you find it attractive if someone is outspoken and isn't afraid to offend others?

I've been in two at this point, there was a girl I was with for 6 months in 2020 but she had her mom tell me she passed away and months later when I was talking with who is now my girlfriend, I was given answers by her new boyfriend at the time when I begged him to say something.

She ended up messaging me but offered no explanation and the only apology i got was "I'm moving in with him in a year, sorry". While it sucks that it ended that way, I'm glad she didn't die cause the last thing I did before that stunt was pulled was ask her why she didn't tell me about the late text she got from who's now her current boyfriend at the time. Yeah, that sucked and I wish I'd been with my current girlfriend from the start.

Me and her are still together and going strong. We talk every single day and say "I love you" every day. She's been there for me like nobody else has and I've done the same for her and will continue to.

I've grown so happy with her that I question the way I described finding her, I said trying to find someone was like being on a planet made out of trash and fecal matter knowing that for the entire planet, there's one microscopic diamond there but the rest is literal shit and I had to dig until I found it.

Of course it was all worth it as I now experience love which is something I thought for a long time, I'd never experience in my life and it's wonderful. I'd never want to be with anyone else but I did question if describing so many people as trash and fecal matter in my analogy was too harsh.

However, as soon as I started watching loyalty tests, yeah I'm thinking I was right on the money there, pun intended. You name it and girls + guys did it in those tests, it's sad that people are so horrible to eachother nowadays.

What do you value most in a relationship? The most important things for me are affection, support, gotta at least be cute, nice, genuine, introverted and loyal. Money is a factor but not a big one for me

My parents and I moved to Texas from Connecticut in 2018 and we're now able to see family much more regularly. I've grown tired of it though as there's no chemistry between me and them most of the time. My cousin and her husband and kids, I have good chemistry with and we can talk for hours. But my immediate family, all they want to do is sit and listen to horrible music from the 70s and get hammered drunk.

It's also a 90 minute drive to get to where they live and when I arrive, it's like I'm a ghost, they just want me there for the sake of being there. Then after an hour or so, I leave to go back before they get drunk so I won't have to deal with that. There's a ranch as well that we go to but it's 4 hours away and they do the same thing there. Sometimes they let me and my cousin's husband shoot guns on the range and my uncle even took me hunting 4 times in the past 4 years I've been here.

It's very pretty there but then coworkers soon show up and start getting drunk, then it all goes downhill from there. I work 55 hours per week in a job at my uncle's construction company but i don't make much and rent is literally 4× what it was in 2019 and continuing to increase well beyond what my job will allow me to afford. I'm taking steps to start a career in LE and I'll be able to slowly but surely transition into my own home by then.

The juice isn't worth the squeeze, if you can even call it that since I don't find enjoyment in spending time with them sitting down. I often go to the bathroom but after doing so, I go to my car and leave and nobody really notices. I didn't go to the ranch for Christmas or Easter. The only person I really want in my life right now is my girlfriend, I've even gone as far as muting all messages besides her. A medication change in late 2021 has made me much more assertive and ready to stand my ground and not let them manipulate me into doing something I don't want to do.

Do you like family gatherings?