What is the most important thing in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I've been in two at this point, there was a girl I was with for 6 months in 2020 but she had her mom tell me she passed away and months later when I was talking with who is now my girlfriend, I was given answers by her new boyfriend at the time when I begged him to say something.

She ended up messaging me but offered no explanation and the only apology i got was "I'm moving in with him in a year, sorry". While it sucks that it ended that way, I'm glad she didn't die cause the last thing I did before that stunt was pulled was ask her why she didn't tell me about the late text she got from who's now her current boyfriend at the time. Yeah, that sucked and I wish I'd been with my current girlfriend from the start.

Me and her are still together and going strong. We talk every single day and say "I love you" every day. She's been there for me like nobody else has and I've done the same for her and will continue to.

I've grown so happy with her that I question the way I described finding her, I said trying to find someone was like being on a planet made out of trash and fecal matter knowing that for the entire planet, there's one microscopic diamond there but the rest is literal shit and I had to dig until I found it.

Of course it was all worth it as I now experience love which is something I thought for a long time, I'd never experience in my life and it's wonderful. I'd never want to be with anyone else but I did question if describing so many people as trash and fecal matter in my analogy was too harsh.

However, as soon as I started watching loyalty tests, yeah I'm thinking I was right on the money there, pun intended. You name it and girls + guys did it in those tests, it's sad that people are so horrible to eachother nowadays.

What do you value most in a relationship? The most important things for me are affection, support, gotta at least be cute, nice, genuine, introverted and loyal. Money is a factor but not a big one for me

Money

Loyalty

Looks

Support

Similar mindset

[Man-O-Metal]

Mindset/beliefs. I’m a Christian conservative. If we don’t have the same views, problems will occur immediately. The last thing I want to do is work to keep a relationship together when we have the emotional connection and feelings for each other, but not the same outlooks on life.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

I would say the same thing if I saw this a few days earlier. My previous relationship had Loyalty, Looks and Support. But guess what it was missing, Mindset. That ultimately was the thing that broke us down, if we didn't have that, the rest didn't matter at all.

[Ehjoh1]

I think loyalty is the most important thing because my parents barely have anything in common and my dad's atheist while my mother is religious, they come from very different countries and yet they love each other and stay together because they are LOYAL to each other. Otherwise they would've divorced already.

[jengeorge26]

How can you know? You can’t ask after they die?
very strange, but I think that I know what you are thinking.
Some young people want to have sex, or maybe a relationship before they die…I had thoughts like that before my first sexual encounter.

[mermaidcancermoon]

emotional connection and compatibility are most important.

[TenderFantasy]

I can't believe support wasn't the number one answer on here lol. So you're telling me that as long as you guys have similar interests (pokemon, rap, boba tea, tennis, etc.) lol you're willing to stick it out with them even if they mentally or physically abuse you and or cheat on you? Lol you guys are crazy!

Not to mention immature.

[Table4YTwo]

Mindset is the most important thing you can have the most loyal piece of shit partner and it will not work out.

but if you have someone with your same grindset who understands your way of doing things then you found someone who you can trust much more.

Loyalty is a big factor but you can have a loyal as fuck gold digger, or a loyal as fuck dead weight partner

[icantpickausername]

This wasn’t an option of yours, but trust. I think true love is a very comfortable feeling, once that lust and infatuation feeling dies down and you’re with someone you can be yourself with. I think true love is calm and peaceful. And I don’t think you can experience that unless yoy trust that person to not intentionally hurt you.

[icantpickausername]

you*

[Anonymous]

I actually think its respect. Someone who respects their relationship would never cheat, would honor their time, would protect them, would show up when they said they would, would call when they said they would, and on down the line. If you don't respect someone, you don't do any of that.

[DivineZero]

Under no circumstances do you beg someone who's shown a disregard for you in any way. I'm glad your a good person keep it up and don't let anyone take it from you and/or alter you. 😁

[Cowboy6666]

Trust, loyalty, mutual understanding, few common things or hobbies... Those are very important things... Other things matters too but they aren't that much basic.

[Bubbles16]

If the guy I dated didn't support my dreams and passions I'd leave him

[jengeorge26]

I’d probably leave him too

[mwey3]

there are many important things in a relationship. for me, the main ones are loyalty, trust, partnership, companionship, affection, something far from superficiality and interest (as much interest in money as looks and status)

[dragoblack]

Treating the relationship like best friends with romantic benefits along with honesty and communication

[msc545]

The only things women value men for are sperm and money.

[Wsx2wsx2ws]

B, E, D and also BED.

[MCheetah]

Option D, followed by E.

[dreamstar72]

I rather choose three out of five

[Iron_Man]

Good communication and loyalty

[007kingifrit]

1. chemistry
2. values
3. goals

[Spikey_uwu]

Communication

[SeekingVirginWife]

真是个蠢货。

[Jamie05rhs]

Loyalty.

[clampfan101]

Love, of course.

[Likes2drive]

Loyalty and trust

[driven159]

trust and love