
What is the most important thing that guys should understand about a girl?


He can this really be answered? It will depend on the person you want to know about. People like the feeling of being able to refer to a list hit you really can't know a person- especially really important things about a person- without knowing that person.
I can tell you an important thing about _me_
I like to be asked questions over having incorrect assumptions made. It’s much easier to just give the right info in the first place than to unpack and reconstruct wring info after the fact.
I don’t expect anyone to magically understand me if they have never spent time getting to know me. So there is no pressure to know stuff. I’m not sure why people seem to think you’re supposed to. It’s self defeating.
Very true. Women are not all alike. Each is an individual. Comparing my current girlfriend to my ex-wife, there are more things that are different than that are alike, so you have to get to know the individual woman and not rely on some general stereotypes.
@CallMeDave
Yes, I agree lol 😊
I need emotional security. I can often be very out of touch with my feelings, which can cause them to all explode at once, like I can get very frustrated about something irrational. My current boyfriend is amazing, so logical, so calm, so perfect.
So yeah, women as whole, we tend to overthink things and can be indecisive. For example, recently I was faced with a choice between two guys, and one got really angry with me because I was so frustrated that I got a headache and felt like I was going to cry. Yeah... didn't pick him. I thing some of us a more prone to overthinking than others. I try not to do it, but my mum is a sucker for this one. She got an email confirmation for a hotel in Barcelona, and she was like 'why's he going to barcelona' 'is he meeting someone there' 'is he cheating on me' and then after a month my dad surprised her with the trip for her birthday, and still has no clue about what happened.
I'm also very attention seeking. I don't think it's the worst quality, but like whenever my boyfriend's on the phone I'll like crawl into his lap because give me attention pls. I need my hair stroked and my butt patted and I need kisses.
@sageevalentine There's nothing wrong with that. That just means you want to cuddle. It's completely natural. I find it kind of humorous, though, because dogs and cats do the same thing.
That girls are mostly indecisive and unpredictable because our decisions and reaction are often influenced by emotions we feel in that particular moment... so we are kind of victims of our emotions.
It's so hard to keep up with that one minute you love it we are teasing and playing and bam The smallest comment or something that is truly playing your crying and and pissed off and we have to figure out what we did and try to comfort you damn I love women but help us out a little
Yeah 😏 I don't think there is anything you can really do about it or to make it better. But if a woman is going through this phase only thing guy can do to is invalide her feelings and support her rather than telling her she is acting irrational and to calm down. But it eventually passes by itself. Jhon Gray compared women with waves and it can't be more accurate...
You should work on reading woman emotions so you could tell if she is in right mood. And I wouldn't take for granted everything she say or does, because it might feel right to her in that moment and the next day she can find it extreme and could regret it.
Patience is the key 😌 a great deal of it...
@Physics-Man
It looks like five girls admitted so far 😏 ... maybe its not same for all... thats just my perspective.
@B-ry46912
been there many times lol
Your irrelevant comment sometimes can be just the catalyst or trigger for something that was building for a while... I don't think any of us really know what are we exactly crying about 😏
I once burst crying because my brother changed tv program I was watching... was it really because of TV program? I don't think so
Women remember everything. Everything. Why you ask? Well it's simple. Women thousands of years ago were the Gathers. We obviously were the hunters.
They would have to walk miles to gather food for the village but most of all remember how they got there and how to get back so that they may get more food at a later time and date.
This has been hardwired in their brains and is now just a freaky superpower.
So when your buddies say dude she remembers every conversation we ever had for the last 2 years. Well that is why.
Interesting!
*Gatherers*
@Unit1 Hunters didn't have to go far to kill something. Women had to walk miles until they found something that wasn't poisonous. And also remember which bushes were and were not deadly.
Same goes with Men who today are super afraid of approaching a woman. Goes back to thousands of years ago where if you approached the wrong woman in the village you might get your head chopped off. Our brains however are now hardwired for the same fear which no longer exists but somehow men are still afraid and most don't understand why their palms get sweaty and their heartbeat rises.
It's not because she is pretty. LOL.
Gynophobia still holds true today for reasons such as white knights defending women even when she's the perpetrator. Or a woman might have a white knight at her disposal/utility and with her pointing to anyone the white knight would mindlessly beat up whoever she pointed at, be it a threat to her or not.
So yeah. In a way women can be dangerous because of the powers behind her in society (government + white knights).
Still. today we have farm animals locked up and acres growing food. Yet women possess their sixth sense of biological tracking (very likely related to their emotional drives and feelings). Meanwhile we have logical tinkering abilities and reasoning as our sixth sense.
Thanks for the MHO
Your very welcome
That no-one understands them not even themselves
I'm starting to believe many women are mentally challenged.
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She is not like other girls and never should you assume without truly getting to know her. That s how you lose out on the girl you want.
Another is there is no such thing as the friendzone. Just because she wants to be friends it doesn't mean she is not attracted to you or consider you dating material for her. She just may not be ready right now. Unless it is proven by what she said is she will not date you or a friend, don't hurt her. She WILL remember you and how you treated her. And talk about it bitterly to a new romance. Don't be that guy. Just be a gentleman and walk away peacefully and mutually.
No such thing as the friend zone? Very interesting. Okay
@Jamie05rhs There is none. Your FRIENDS. And your lover should also be your best friend. I would not be with a person who is only interested in me to get into my pants. A person who truly loves you is not going to put sex first. ever. They put your needs ahead of theirs. Hence why you only date friends who you are compatible.
Did you mean "you're"?
Also, you only date friends? So someone has to be a friend first before you date them? Or are you saying you would only date someone who is a friend who is also compatible?
@Jamie05rhs
"Also, you only date friends?"YES. No strangers if I was to date. I never dated for those reasons.
"So someone has to be a friend first before you date them?" That's right. Because I need to feel SAFE and trust who I am with. I will not be with somebody who knows nothing about me or has such an interest.
" Or are you saying you would only date someone who is a friend who is also compatible?" Of ocurse, I will only date a person who is compatible with me. I do not do what others do. I don't believe in premarital sex or doing anything sexual before marriage. I don't believe in abortion, or doing anything ungodly. And as a Christian woman, I have t protect myself even more. I'm tired of being hurt by guys because they curse me to be by myself because 'no guy is ever going to want to date you, marry you, have sex with you or see you as a potential mother'. I think I have every right to have my standards and make sure the person I wanted held the same standards.
Who said those things to you? 😡
@Jamie05rhs Uh, guys over the years since I was 9? Why so angry? It's in the past, I don't really care anymore. I'm celibate now and by myself. I am happy with my choices. Better to be under God's protection than to lose myself in something I don't even want.
Sorry; it was righteous indignation. I don't like it when people are mean to others.
@Jamie05rhs You weren't being righteous for the sake of it. Its called morals. Its good to be righteous. Just not self-righteous. A huge difference.
Thanks for the compliment. :)
@Jamie05rhs You're Welcome. :)
I think its two things
1. Girls want you to tell them how you feel and not keep things hidden
2. Girls want to know that you care how they feel and feel bad when they feel bad
A lot of woman will date a guy that is broke or ugly if he offers her supreme emotional support that she can't get from others
Shait, I'm screwed with "1." I don't like making my problems someone elses, especially if they can't be helped. But I have been told this before.
@Scottydoesntknow - Telling someone your problems and passing on your problems are two completely different things. Kinda like a therapist. You'd only be confiding.
... we're not that complicated. Well most of us aren't. Just be loyal to us, treat us right, feed us, give us the occasional bit of attention and care, and make sure we're comfortable and happy.
That's it- you would think that's easy enough but apparently not, lol
*buys a tamagotchi
Says everyone he got a girlfriend : D
^Lolol
@Cynicaldreamer I thought y'all were supposed to be the ones feeding us. (JK lol)
@Jamie05rhs LOL! I like someone to feed me too, I'm too lazy to cook
@OrangeBoy2 Hey, at least virtual pets are easier to take care of- assuming you can keep it alive (I swear I always killed mine, LOL)
@Cynicaldreamer I feel the same way. But I think if we cooked together it would be easier. Teamwork always helps.
Mine lived 56 days. Was my record... I actually cried after he died...
Or was a she? I never knew...
I'm ok with getting a girlfriend if she doesn't poop the floor
@OrangeBoy2 56 days? Man that is impressive! I think the longest one I had lived a week? Poor thing never had a chance with me as a kid, haha.
I think everyone should get a virtual pet before entering a relationship... for fun of course!
If you can take care of it and keep it alive for a while, a relationship with a guy or girl should be a cakewalk!
Specially because we spend our entirelly life learning.
The best to do is to chill, to be open about everything, and enjoy and share the pleasures of life with another person.
@Cynicaldreamer I agree!
When we complain to you about our day and other stuff, what we really want is a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. We just want you to show some attention to us.
We are not looking for you to provide a 5-pg solution to solve our problems, nor for you to tell us that we are doing it wrongly, and compare us to other people.
Whilst pmsing, it really is hormones... I could watch a dog food commercial and start crying because the dog was too cute. I could have had an amazing day but because I kicked my toe I could murder someone... i could have just had dinner and still eat an entire cake on my own...
It's not that we want to be that way. But every now and again it's just a really bad period that throws our emotions all over the show and as much as we dont want to be emotional or angry or hungry, we just are and we have 0 control over it...
Is it acceptable to hide until it's over? Or would thar incur more wrath?
Let's explain it this way, when a man gets kicked in the balls does he just hide it until it's over? Or does he fall down in pain clutching his balls? It's the same with hormones, you can't hide it and the pain is literally blood vessels ripping down your fallopian tubes, it hurts unbelievably bad!
Haha yes that's what I meant.
That if you play nice and be their puppy, they will 99.9% of the time lead you on hence gaining their ego boost. Whatever you do, DO NOT put women on a pedestal. I was reading a take the other day and this guy was saying how he grinded the gym in order to get a perfect body just for women. It would have been good if he did it for him self. But he did for others which disgusts me. So if a women told him to hang him self, he would probably do it LOL. People need to understand that women are just like us. Stop putting them on a pedestal and being their slave. That guy was just an embarrassment to us males. What’s worse is that these beta males have yet to go extinct LMFAO.
1 He should always listen 2 a girl. They like guys who listen 2 what they have 2 say. 2 Always try 2 put them first. Making sure they are took care of. 3 another is always show compasion and understanding. 4 One thing never 2 do is make them cry. Along with never call them fat. 5 remember a girl should always come first.
That any girl is just another human more, and like any human each person is different, have different necessities, express emotions differently have different hobbies and skills and different ways to understand the world.
You can't hide anything from us. WE KNOW EVERYTHING, we just pretend we don't.
And it hurts when you think we don't, it insults our 6th sense.
So you should tell us that in the very beginning. Otherwise we will never know.
@Jamie05rhs There, I told you, now you know. :)
Okay, so you're saying EVERY woman has that sense?
@Jamie05rhs There's no proof, scientifically speaking. But I truly do believe that every female has that sense. Males have it too but it's more developed in females, I think because biologically we are made to be more aware of our surroundings so we could chose best mate and better protect our children. You heard of a phrase "female intuition" right? Well while male's intuition is mostly based on facts, female's is based on "that sense". Can't really explain it. It's there, we feel it, we know, but we can't really rationalize it so we often ignore it. It is an unexplored thing for us too.
Interesting. So you all are like an alien race with a higher form of intelligence. Like supernatural beings.
This is mind-blowing stuff.
@Jamie05rhs Who knows, maybe it's a totally useless thing to have, maybe not. But that's not the point; the point is that it makes a mess in us when "facts" and "that sense" don't match, and it bursts into weird emotions. Sometimes it goes away, but usually it sticks. So we start looking for clues and signs that will beat facts and explain that sense for us.
Wow. Very interesting. Thanks for sharing this.
Nice
I wonder if women in the TSA can sense terrorists. That would be a good benefit.
Just remember that when a woman asks you something personal, she's not looking for an answer - she's looking for a confirmation and giving you an opportunity to be honest. So there's really no other way then to be honest, for both your sakes. Even if she's wrong, intuition never is, it just means that the problem is somewhere else and needs to be investigated and communicated, she's basically asking you for help.
Okay. That was a good article, by the way.
We are really not as complicated as guys think we are
Lmao, yeah right
😅🤷♀️
@Miss_Savanna_Dry
The vast majority of women don't know what they want in terms of a partner, they say one thing than I see them doing another; how do you explain that? Seems pretty complicated to me.
@Miss_Savanna_Dry
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All women know what they want and it’s very easy to define. We are easy to please if you treat us well and lovingly.
Not quick to judge or classify us if it’s not what you are not used to whilst growing up.
That means grow up guys you can’t hide behind the apron strings of your mothers and judge your romantic relationships on those parameters.
That like attracts like. If I like you, it's because you have certain qualities that I admire which I likely have in myself. I'm fit, smart (I've had my IQ tested), into my career and I enjoy going out. If you're much smarter than me, you'll likely get bored with me fast. If you're really social and outgoing, my introverted nature will be a turn-off. If you're overweight, I'm not going to be into you. Just find someone similar to yourself.
That she is exclusively attracted to only a 100% emotionally stable man. Meaning, that any man who cries even once, even after years, or expresses that he does not have control of a situation, is then far less attractive if not completely unattractive.
That not all girls are perfectly shaven/have a smooth, perfect and curvy body. We live in a society where we don't know how to make our own reality and we just follow others instead, by this I mean some follow TV stars or celebs.
Protect us, make us feel safe. But for the love of god dont suffocate us and threaten everybody that looks in my direction!! Hype me up and make me feel important.
Well I know it's almost impossible but. Her feelings. That's the most important
We are really just like you but our culture formed yours and our opinion of us making it seem like we are different. Also you need to give women oral.
That they are lying to men about what they want in a man.
They don't think the same way we do! You think you know what is in their head because you know what you would be thinking under those circumstances, but they are not thinking the same thing at all!
We just crave affection and value communication. Sometimes just listening and showing compassion is enough to make us feel better.
yea afection is true i like it too but the problem is that most guys dont like talking too much or listening about something that is "useless information" for us
example if u are my girlfriend - yes im interrested in your life because you are part of my so i be part of yours too and i got no problems with that
but
if u are not my girlfriend and u talk to me about your boss at work thats pissing u off or some other bullshit information - im like "what the fuck can u shut up" - in my mind - or if u text me something like this - i just won't reply to u
We will be total brats for the most part but at the end of the day we still like you.
Sort of,:)
Just remember we're in charge and do as your told
Please
and feminists like you is what makes the world toxic.
Nope, nobody is in charge except nature and the universe.
hahah, HAHAHAH! This is why I'm going to be single for a very, very long time...
Man is in charge of relationship.
Simple truth.
That is quite the fetish you have there! LOL
Compliance isn't optional
Yes Mistress! LOL
@purplepoppy You are hilarious! xD
That she can bring him happiness & chaos in the same time.
Listen, have compassion about her feelings. Inside every woman is a wild woman that cannot be tamed. Trust her and allow her to Express her authentic self with no jusgement.
That every month our hormones get unbalanced for a couple of days and it makes us do things that are not in our character.
Speak for yourself
Can you elaborate?
Not everyone acts out of character
That your question is flawed, not all girls are the same
Our need for small romantic actions that is meaningful to her
Don't call me by the nickname that I've always hated
Forget logic! It's not a female thing.
Feelings! It's all about feelings and emotions!
Utterly agree, in my experiences.
I don't get why girls thumbed you down, it's the truth for the great majority of them.
@Physics-Man the truth hurts. Look again: There's no logic involved at all. Only feelings and emotions.
Perhaps a disclaimer would have helped.
Mood swings at that specific time of the month lol!
@AJC997 No, don't believe people who tell you that
@orangecherry
Do you feel okay?
@AJC997 hmmm well yes sometimes.
@AJC997 thank you!
@AJC997 inspired by a friend.. I couldn't come up with a better screen name actually lol!
They love it when you have your own life, are doing your own thing, creating your own world but still take time to invite her into that world.
Don’t judge her on trivial issues and don’t complain if you are intelligent enough.
@bailey11 SO truuuuuee
That we shouldn't be judged, nor our worth measured, by the way we look.
yes they should
@SeaSprayBreeze
You women tend to do the same to men you, dumb hypocrite.
@SeaSprayBreeze You can tell when you've said something true and intelligent (but something guys don't want to hear). You get a lot of down votes from guys and guys come out with all kinds of insults. ;)
And generally speaking, a lot more guys judge a woman by how she looks than women judge a guy by how he looks.
@bailey11 Thank you for all that 🙂👍
Guys she never said that she did that!
That their emotions equals feelings. But, their feelings do not equal emotions.
That (a lot of) women don't like to be called girls. (A lot of) men protest when they're called boys. Why should women have to put up with being referred to as a child.
That they are hard to understand but are very simple at the same time 😊
That some girls are beyond mysterious that it is best to just accept it that way and wonder less or it will just give you a headache acting suspicious or curious in anyway
We are feminine. And I for one, value my mystique n being equally being open. Anyone who refuses to even accept this, can kiss my arse. To all others, welcome! Lol 😎🖤♥️💜☺️☺️♥️
What does that mean?
It means exactly what it says sweetheart. Women are complex or simple n we are so often both too on vary degrees. I welcome those are open-minded n non judgmental n like fun in their life, whether that's, staying in, being a nerd or a geek, or loving a good football match or climbing mountains or rock stars who live to excess etc etc. To all female or sexist racist n fascist pigs n oppressors n want us to live a life of repressed puritanical hypocrisyn tell women what they can or cannot do just coz they are men, they can kiss my arse hun. In a nutshell lol. 😁😎🙂😉♥️☺️☺️♥️☺️🖤🖤🖤💜☺️♥️♥️💜
Hope this helps sweetie
Make me feel safe and loved dont be mean to everyone
They are self conscious. Don’t body shame. It’s rude and bad manners.
Don't lie. Talk about what you feel.
Happy forever.
That they aren't any more special than anybody else, don't put em on a pedestal
^Good point.
When we're nice to guys, it doesn't mean we want to have sex with them.
doesnt' it tho? I mean you DID say thank you when I rung up your groceries.
That they can get pregnant. Prepare for the consequences and know that it can happen. If it does, do right by them.
That she's a woman and her feeling change every second.
If we're mad about something that doesn't seem to make sense, it's because we think a particular act is part of an overall attitude.
Very interesting.
The most important thing to understand that each is a unique individual.
That she is never your girl, it's just your turn. She will leave you the moment she senses a bigger better deal on the horizon. Bitches ain't loyal. Pump and dump, but don't get emotionally attached.
@bailey11 Give up the white knighting. It won't get you laid. You have a lot to learn.
We want your opinion, but we are going do whatever we want to do.
Then why ask, if it won't do anything or affect your decision
Never let a woman lead. You should always be the leader.
There’s no such thing as 50/50. It always becomes 80/20 or something. Don’t be a sucker
How to make her happy and make her cum multiple times when riding my cock
That's she's right and on the odd occasion she isn't right it was because you made a mistake
We are emotional by nature. Be patient with us♥️❣️
i feel like all girls are different but as for me... that im sensitive. :(
I am a sensitive person as well
That they don't know that actions have consequences
We are not all the same.
Women have the power ;)
In the kitchen
@SpunkNugget hahaha sure, good joke ;)
If you call me fat I will murder you
If you're not fat, you shouldn't worry about it. If a guy says you're fat, then it's time to hit the gym.
@Physics-Man If you say something that you know is going to be hurtful, it's time for you to learn how to be a decent guy and not a dick.
@bailey11
You know nothing about me.
@bailey11
You know nothing about me, but I won't judge you.
Contrary to what they say they are shit at communication and are incapable of the compassion they themselves demand.
We are very emotional beings
@orangecherry
I understand very well how emotional you girls truly are, just don't bring your feelings into arguments and debates, where logic, reason, and facts should rule, such as those concerning the topics of gun control, abortion, and illegal immigration.
So are a lot of guys, even if we won't admit it. But we try to come across as strong, macho but we're possibly the biggest "babies" of 'em all. The problem is, we use our emotional "weakness" to lash out at others, especially women, so women don't want to have anything to do with us. We can't blame women for feeling that way.
Be understanding of our emotions
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