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It's been said time and time again that it's not easy for most men to approach and flirt with a woman in public, and that even the most attractive confident men only have a 30 to 40% chance, at best, to impress a woman.

A 30 to 40% success rate still means rejection the majority of the time, and unlike in the pre-2000s, women nowadays tend to be a lot meaner and less empathetic about this than they used to (sorry, but it's true; a lot of y'all aren't nice).

Women also tend to not understand why only the most attractive, most ballsy 5% of men out there only hit on them, despite how many women will shout at, harass, curse out, or otherwise be viciously mean/rude to normal, decent men attempting to just get to know them better. (Not men being aggressive, rude, or not taking 'no' for an answer; just regular decent dudes.)

As a girl, are you the type to empathize with and understand just how hard it is for a guy (especially a not-handsome, not-fit, not-tall guy) to muster up the courage to ask a complete stranger to get to know him better and begin a potential relationship with him?

... Or are you the type of woman who will reject a guy loudly and rudely, because he was too short/ugly, wasted your time, or "couldn't see the tiny little wedding ring on your finger while you're holding your purse or phone" or something?

WHAT TYPE OF REJECTER ARE YOU WHEN IT COMES TO GUYS HITTING ON YOU?

Inspired by this question here.

My stepmom and my dad were arguing over some personal issues and I was feeling stressed out. Something about junk food, cigarettes, her family, she yelled very badly at my dad, she said that he and I need to f*** off and leave, etc etc etc. My dad said that I need to tell her I was sorry for what I said, even though I already apologized. My dad accused me of being "smart" with her even though I was literally stating a fact and wasn't saying it in a negative tone. I hate being around people who always think words matter more than tone, action, context, etc. I get influened very easily by these people.

I am on vacation with them but I will be leaving tomorrow to return to my mom's house. My mom found out that I called 911 becaue I am currently on my stepdad's phone bill line and he found out about it and talked to my mom about it. She and my dad told me not to call 911 anymore; luckily the police didn't come.

I feel not just very bad for my dad but very regretful of planning this vacation s**t in the first place. I've gained hella weight, my dad keeps telling me I'm not fat EVEN THOUGH I ACTUALLY AM, no girl f***ing wants to date me even though my dad keeps calling me handsome and telling me not to believe what people on Photofeeler say about me. Every non-bot girl on Tinder and Bumble ignores me like I am a subhuman buttugly doofus.

I am not a Joe Rogan or a Brad Pitt... I am just an average guy with a mathematically intelligent mindset. I have autism, my stepmom literally tried to bring me into her aggressive conversations with my dad, she yelled at my mom over the goddamn phone, and I am so f***ing pissed that my dad would say that *I* offended her.

I told my dad I wouldn't apologize, and when he told me to do so, I called my mom and then the police. I didn't tell my dad or my mom this, but I just wanted to place my stepmom in jail for the way she had been treating my dad.

I've been very passive most of my life, often keeping my differing opinion to myself when in a group setting such as in a classroom, but if someone asked me directly, I'd have little hesitation stating my differing opinion.

For instance, back in high school, a girl was complaining about getting a detention for using her phone during class earlier in the day. I didn't say anything but when she said my name, looked at me and said "right"? As if to ask me to vouch for her seeing as how I was there as well, but to her surprise, I said "well, you've been using your phone in class for quite some time and she's told you multiple times to stop but you continued, so yeah you got a detention for it".

This angered her as expected and seemed to shock her as she's a big figure in the "popular crowd" and likely was used to people affirming her but I threw a curveball she didn't expect.

Over the years, I've become more passive aggressive and about a year ago when a slight change to my medication for anger management, depression and ADHD, I've now become more assertive than passive. I take absolutely no issue inserting my opinion into a discussion when it's contrary to the popular one. Even when there's a good chance someone may get offended by what I say.

While I also take no issue in acknowledging the limitations I have in regards to topics I know little about, like cars and such, in those cases, I make my unfamiliarity clear and delegate to those who are familiar. I also tend to probe others opinions when stated in a general manner, wanting to know what led them to their conclusion.

I'd call this a positive development for me and my girlfriend of 2 years seems to like this development as well. I wouldn't consider myself confident nor self loathing, just realistic and abel to acknowledge that there's nothing special about me.

I am curious how others view this though, do you find it attractive if someone is outspoken and isn't afraid to offend others?