Husband said he’s over it wants a divorce?

[Anonymous]

So I have mental issues to start off to say that my husband is over how I go about them and wants a divorce? I get mad yell and say ugly things to him I also get pretty aggressive and can get physically. Yesterday I had a episode about girls on a ad on tv and it escalated to me getting violent. I know it’s ridiculous. Today his brother was asking a lot of questions about finances and where the money is going my husband responded and then I said it’s not of ur business. I got mad at my husband then I said come to the room I got mad started yelling then he said he wants to not talk and I got aggressive. Rn he’s been for 2 hours saying he wants a divorce and he’s over it he’s giving me to many chances. But I’m still here and he’s not really doing anything like online divorce or saying it he’s done this before multiple times but this time feels fr… I said I wanted to prove myself he’s said I’m not stopping u but also mixies it with it won’t change my mind … couple min later he wants to play a game I keep him from playing then he’s started to be nice cause I said I love you ge said I love you.. so I’m not sure if he is serious or just over my bad behavior

[Jacobbbb]

Regardless you need to change your behavior and make him feel like he's actually loved. Apologize, stop being aggressive, especially physical, and start being nicer. Have a deep conversation with him if you haven't already or at least have some time apart (no I don't mean a divorce I mean take a vacation or something). Anything that helps

[Asker]

Thank you that’s really kind advice ! I know ur right I don’t know why it’s hard for me to not be so aggressive but I definitely don’t want to push him away

[Plinko]

Whether he's serious or not, only he can know.

But, he should be.

[Asker]

Why should he be

[Plinko]

Because you hit him.

[Asker]

I understand that sometimes it’s really hard for me to control my anger and it’s not acceptable

[Asker]

I’m getting therapy

[Plinko]

In my opinion, you should be alone until you've solved that issue.

The thought of hitting someone you love should horrify you.

[Asker]

It truly does and I feel horrible I think u are actually right. I don’t understand why he’s so forgiving I definitely shouldn’t lay my hands on anyone no matter what

[Plinko]

Look, at the end of the day, I don't want to see people divorce. I want to see them get better and grow with each other. I want that for you also.

I feel a bit of remorse coming at you so fiercely, but hearing about someone hitting the person they're supposed to love, fills me with a sick feeling.

[sw1916]

He probably isn’t done with you until he becomes emotionless about you. People who are done for real don’t show emotion and are cold about going about things. With that said, you need to check your behavior or you will end up driving him away.

[FunkyMonkee]

No idea. What's "fr"?