I’m confused if my ex boyfriend was a real narcissist? He was very manipulative, gaslighted me , was very unstable in his dedications , had a sense of entitlement ( he could do something to me but if I dared to it to him it would be a massive issue ) lots of hypocrisy. He could never take accountability for his mistakes it would somehow be my fault? He would blame me if I was ever sad or emotional around him.. he would never comfort me and actually mock me if I was sad. I felt he was extremely self centred and the relationship revolved around him and his plans and ideas. I had to be on board with everything or esle I didn’t love him. He often gave me silent treatments to get his way. What confuses me is that he didn’t do the love bomb, devalue and discard cycle the way most narcissists are described? Towards the end of our relationship it got very strenuous with lots of fights … he went and found himself a girlfriend he had behind my back for 4 months. When I found out she was already brainwashed that I was the abusive manipulative one , so when I reached out to her she blocked me straight away. He got very angry at me and blamed me when I found out about her and blocked me everywhere. He didn’t even call me or meet me in person to explain he just blamed me and was extremely cold like he never cared about me. A week later he unblocked me and fooled me into giving him a chance which I begged him for at that stage. He broke it off with the other girl very harshly and came back to me for two days before dumping me and blocking me again. His last “ discard “ wasn’t aggressive though? He actually wrote me an email saying he found someone else and she makes him very happy and he makes her very happy and that he hopes I find happiness and he’s sorry for the past 6 years and that he is continuing his life without me and then I was blocked everywhere on everything.. I’m confused how he can go from dumping me harshly to dumping me more nicely within a week?
Was my ex boyfriend really a narcissist? Will he try and come back again in the future?
