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For the past couple of months I've been having some friendly contact with a guy. Although he sometimes seems to be keeping his distance, he is contrarily the one to keep the conversation going and shows interest in my life. Even after the parking lot has gone empty, we often still remain a little while longer to talk.

Last night, we were hanging out at the gym and while I was talking to him, he suddenly grabbed onto the punching bag hanging beside us, and started dry-humping it. It caught me off guard, and he could clearly see the surprise on my face. We laughed about it then he jokingly mentioned he could see the surprise in my eyes.

Right afterwards, while we were still in our conversation, he started taking off his shirt, then changed into different clothes. Although I have seen more men changing while in conversation, it was very odd to me he'd do this right after he had his little... moment with the punching bag.

When we left, he mentioned he thought of me as an odd person. Then joked about being odd himself. Asked for my age and was surprised to learn I was younger than he'd imagined.

Thing is, what surprised me most by these acts and interactions is that this man is in a relationship and I do not have the sense that he is in any way interested or attracted to me. Would it be an extreme level of comfort or should I be a little more concerned? Lol.

So I (26 F) have this friend, let’s call her Dana (27F), who’s overall cool to hang with, however she tends to body shame every moment she gets. She’s overweight and super tall ( about 6’2) while I’m short (5’0) and in shape due to me actively competing in sports. In particularly, she comments about my chest size, often calling me flat, (I don’t think I am, I’m a 34 C) and saying that I’m super skinny (again I don’t think so because I lift weights). I told her several times her comments bother me and she would stop for a while but it would kick back up. That brings us to this past weekend. We were all hanging out at a party and we were having fun. Her husband was there and he’s no one really likes him. He mentioned to me how good I looked and considered messing around with me. I walked away annoyed because not only is he gross, but I don’t mess around with my friend’s SO. Later on that night we were all playing drunk taboo and the word on the card was surf board. My team didn’t get the word and as we were laughing at our competitiveness, Dana took the opportunity to say “you should’ve mentioned (my) chest, since she’s flat as board.” I got pissed off with her trying to embarrass me and I responded “instead of constantly body shaming me, take your fat ass to the gym and maybe you want to get to my size, since your man talks about how good I look and is dtf.” She looked shocked, started crying and left the party. The friend group is divided. Half of them laughed and says Dana deserved it because she talks a lot of shit while others say I shouldn’t have mentioned the comment about her man. So AITA?