My question is really simple: Do you think she's into me? Here's some context:
This is a difficult situation for me as the girl's boyfriend is a neighbor. This girl is always telling me personal stuff, like problems with her boyfriend (because he doesn't help or talk to her at all), and inviting me to do things with her without including her boyfriend because he doesn't want to do anything, like going for a walk, working out, bike trips, etcetera. Two or three times she had sent me memes via Facebook or Instagram regarding finding a person with characteristics she kind of likes? (Here I'm assuming).
She often asks for my opinion on different topics she discusses with me, like anything work-related, personal stuff-related, etc.
She often gives me little touches, like a pinch on my hip or a little slap over my belly (when we are working out, for example). Here I have to clarify that she is not a huggy person, AT ALL, she is very shy and doesn't seem comfortable expressing her feelings.
Last week we were walking to the gym, and she randomly asked for our age difference (we were talking about a totally different topic, and she interrupted whatever I was saying to ask that, like in an anxious way). She went like: Sooo, you are older than me by 12 or 13 years. I just replied that no (she thought I was older) and specified that I was 32, she is 23 almost 24. That question kind of got me confused.
It almost seems like she is doing all these things she likes to do with me because her boyfriend doesn't treat her very well. He doesn't support her at all, including work and with personal stuff.
Another thing I have noticed is that she doesn't behave the same way when we are together with her boyfriend as when we are alone, she seems happier, or more relaxed, I should say. Furthermore, she always finds a way to contact me, via WhatsApp or whatever, but always tries to stay in contact with me during the week.
Excuse me for my English; I am not a native speaker. Thanks in advance.
What Girls Said
Even is she was flirting with you, which she is not, you should not play her game. She is in a relationship even if it is not the best one according to your account.
Do not attempt anything with this girl and I would suggest that you distance yourself from her because you don't want to be seen as a homewrecker or a person that jeopardizes relationships.
She may find private topics to talk with you but you should not be so personal as to reveal everything.
Also, the big issue here is that there is almost a 10 years gap between you and her. Best is to keep your fingers off, mainly because she is your neighbor. You don't want to risk problems with her boyfriend.
Limit your contacts to a strict minimum and never take the initiative with her.
Her boyfriend is his neighbour
Thanks for the correction. However, it does not change anything to the problem. Actually, it makes it worse because if the boyfriend finds out, he may react more impulsively.
Im guessing, he got to know the girl because she was always round her bfs house
@Monalisa77 Most likely yes.
@Monalisa77 Correct.
Thanks for your opinion. That's what I'm trying to do but she always finds reasons to get together. Like I said in another response to this post, I'm trying to put this into words to get a clearer picture. Sometimes words are not enough to understand the situation, she definitely acts odd when she is around me. Maybe a chat with her to clear things up regarding this situation?
A neutral chat is always good but make sure you are not pushing things and that you take your distance.
Exactly, I don't want no trouble.
From what you told, it sounds like she is trying to fill the emptiness she feels in her relationship with you. It would not be very wise to let her use you like that, if she really liked you and realized that she was in a toxic relationship, she would have already left her boyfriend. Their relationship is none of your business, even if you have feelings for her, I suggest you remember that she has a boyfriend and keep your distance. If she has real feelings, she should have taken action.
It could be, I thought about this as well. She might be using me while she keeps the relationship with her boyfriend, which would be very sad for both ends. I would only say that is not always easy to get out of toxic relationships, specially for a woman. Thanks for your opinion.
You don't really call that flirting, do you?
Hello. Is really difficult for me to put into words her attitude towards me. I'm just trying the best I can to explain the situation. But definitely her behaviour towards me is not normal when we are together. Sometimes you have to ''see it'' to understand and that's why I came here, to try and have a little help regarding this.