How long should phone calls be if he isn’t a texter and we don’t see each other much often (1 once a week or every 2 weeks)?

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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 5 going on 6 months. We are very much in love and this is my first relationship but not his first. He mentioned to me since the beginning he isn’t much of a texter but to always call him and he will answer. He works a 9 to 5 and i won’t disturb him during his working hours at all with calls or texts. I call him after work and sometimes he is very exhausted and is often in not a great mood to talk much but he still picks up the phone. He is kind of an ambivert he has his days where he is on either extremes. I was just wondering how long should this calls last sometimes i have hour long calls and sometimes just 5 mins a day worth of phone time with no texts except for a good morning. Is this healthy? Please help me with telling me what is normal and healthy since this is my first relationship 🥺

SueShe · Accepted Answer

There is no specific or ideal length of time for any telephone conversation. It all depends on that person.

I abhor long phone conversations and I make it a point not to waste the time with small talk. I go straight to the point and usually my phone conversations are over in 5 minutes.

However, I fail to understand why a number of people stay on the phone for hours and end up falling asleep because there is no more topic of conversation. That is ridiculous and instead of being quality time, it is only a waste of time spent on the phone just for the sake to say that one spent hours talking.

If you are satisfied with 5 minutes, then it is a good start. As soon as you have to start digging for topics to talk, then it is time to end the call.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I have messages disabled on my phone, so someone who knows how to talk is a huge bonus. Communication is becoming a lost art these days. Make the most of it.

averageJosh · Accepted Answer

If I'm in love with someone, they can text me anytime--they can call me anytime. They take priority as they are where my heart is at. That first of the day text saying "good" morning" or "I miss you" or "I need you (sexually) for this...") is a great start to the day. That random text throughout the day letting me know she's thinking of me or me to her is also a great added "touch." Now, texting is fine and good but after a day or two I need to hear her voice--as she does mine. If not a video call the phone call will do and there is no time, sick, tired, broken--that either of us would be too busy or not yearn for that call.

Jdodkfndosn · Accepted Answer

I have assume this is a LDR. If its not, you need to leave. If it is, then decide if you aren't getting your needs met and if you are not, don't waste your own time. Focus your time and energy in someone who values it

Avicenna · Answer

However long you mutually want them to be. But if pressed for a number, I’d say at least 15 minutes

jaskin777 · Answer

It could be very long or a short time etc

In_Trance · Answer

as long as you both want them to be

Anonymous · Answer

Just talk, it doesn’t matter

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