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Guy meets a girl who is on the brink of divorce. She has a teenage daughter. She lives in another country.
Guy and girl travel once every couple of months to see each other.
After six months of knowing each other, guy plans to leave everything and move to be with her.
He gives himself a year to take care of everything.
Do you think he will move and they will be able to stay together?

P. S. Her child and husband are not ok with the divorce.

The risks:

• Everyone at your workplace might find out
• You might develop feelings for him
• He or you might lose your job
• He might catch feelings for you, and if you leave him he might sabotage you
• He will talk about your intimacy with other males at work, exposing you sexually
• You as a woman, will be called every degrading name in the book
• If relationship develops, he will cheat due to him being attractive
• Other females will feel jealousy or envy and try to sabotage you and steal him from you because again (he’s hot)

Pros:

• You will receive sexual satisfaction, and your sexual goals will be met.
• Your ego will be lifted momentarily because you smashed the hottest man in town.
• there's a tiny chance this individual could potentially become your future husband, soul-mate, and father to your children.
• You will be under the delusion of being in love during the time that you enjoy his presence and his attention
• It will be such an amazing experience for a while , and can completely obliterate any boredom in your life and/or depression.
• Smashing the Hot Guy at work. Could be a once in your lifetime experience. Never again to occur.

WHAT SO YOU CHOSE, YES OR NO.

So my (28f) best friend (28f) just gave birth to her first & possibly only child (yay!!!). She had a high risk pregnancy & she had a very difficult L&D, where she lost a lot of blood & thankfully she pulled through with medical intervention. Baby also had to had to have immediate medical intervention after the birth for a common issue with newborns. Baby had to be taken to Rainbows in the city about 40min away from the hospital she gave birth at.

She only wanted 2 people in the room with her, her husband (28m) & her mom (53f). Her husband left to go with the baby & her mom stayed with her for the first day. My friend got transferred to Rainbows to be with her baby & to continue the postpartum monitoring. Her husband had to leave their child to go with my friend because her mom didn't want to go with her during transport.

My friend's texting me about how she's alone in the hospital room, because the dad needs to be with the baby, that's in another wing, to talk to the doctors. I asked about her parents & she responded that they didn't want to come all the way out there.

I told her my toddler was sick, normal congestion/runny nose/cough for the season, & I didn't want to bring those germs to her or her newborn, or I would be there with her. She said it was okay & her husband is going back & forth between the wings to be with both of them.

I talked to my mom about my friend being left alone & she about lost it. She couldn't believe that her mom just left her alone in a hospital & wouldn't stay with her after she almost died. It doesn't help that my friend's mom told my mom that she wasn't excited about the baby until about a week before the baby was here.

My family took shifts with me while I was in the hospital during my postpartum monitoring & I had the easiest & fastest L&D! So it really broke my mom's heart that my friend's mom left her alone after she needed intervention.

So would you leave your child alone after giving birth? Even if they almost died?

I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.