Do I leave him or?

[Anonymous]

I’m obese, yes I get that I am. I got married 3 weeks ago, and my husband and I got on the topic of me staying at home if we ever had kids. He told me since I was “obese” that I wouldn’t have that luxury, since food would be more expensive and that I tend to “eat a lot” more than an average sized woman. He said that we’d both have to have income, that he wouldn’t be able to support me.

That comment really hurt me, like why did he have to bring up my weight like that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Your husband is being a massive jerk. Marriage is about supporting each other, not tearing each other down. A few thoughts:

- Calling your weight - something you're sensitive about - a "luxury" is so out of line, especially so soon after marrying. Uncalled for.

- Having kids is a team effort. Implying you can't contribute around the house is BS and insulting. Lots of successful stay-at-home parents of all sizes.

- Comments on what/how much someone eats is just rude. That's between you and your doctor, not for him to police.

- Marriage is supposed to make you feel loved for who you are. That comment shows he doesn't respect or accept your body. Major red flag.

You deserve so much better than someone who puts you down. If I were you, I'd have a serious talk and lay down how unacceptable that is. If he's not willing to majorly change, you gotta consider leaving - you don't need that garbage in your life bringing you down. You seem like a good girl - don't settle for less than you're worth!

[Vikkrram]

I am really sorry to read what he said. It's inappropriate to say that but look everything can be solved by talking. You both are starting stage of your marriage so calm down and yes your husband needs to understand that never ever say anything to anyone that hurts them even in a joke.

[AmeerX]

🤔 do people actually say something like that?