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Just a thought because my last ex was fat actually. I know there's a stigma with that word, but I'm just telling it like it is and describing him.

Do you think most people end up with their same size of a partner? I don't like that to be honest with you because it's not like they can HELP their body type! (Nor can I for that matter and I'd be the skinny one in the relationship). How much a person weighs and their body shape is a lot based on genetics and lifestyle! One you can control yes, but the other you can't! Also, I think age is and health is a big factor as well!.. Your thoughts?

Plus, I've seen "different shaped couples" work out so..

The actor John Goodman (from Rossanne fame), his real life wife was, I wouldn't say skinny, but definitely not fat. She just started gaining weight after having children and aging, but when she was younger, she wasn't his body shape!

My ex's brother is also skinny but his wife is more of normal shape.

I also had another ex who had a friend who was dating this fat chick. It was like a ball and stick I would say to myself lol. Sorry yeah, that was mean. I learned my lesson lol. It's just that she wasn't always nice lol and so I guess I gave her that nickname in my head to make up for it lol. .. And the dude was skinner than normal, that's why.

Update: Just like being racist, it's not like you can always control your body shape! and people can change shape once they get older, get sick, situation, socio-economic changes, etc!

29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.

TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?