Has anyone dated or has been in a relationship and was depressed or had self-esteem issues?

[Anonymous]

Been battling depression over the past two years and anxiety pretty much my whole life, but I've been going to therapy for over a year, and I've felt better overall. I've even managed to go back to school after 8 years this past semester, but I still feel down from time to time.

I just got back in touch with an old high school friend, and we've been texting regularly, and I even met up with her once before. I wouldn't mind dating her if she's open to the idea but honestly, I'm not sure how she sees me. I've never been in a relationship before, and with what I'm going through mentally I'm just not sure it's a good idea. At the same time, I wonder if I'll ever be "ready" if that makes sense. What do y'all think?

I guess I was just curious if people had this experience and if it is something you can battle through. If you have any stories to tell regarding something like this, I'd love to hear it if you're comfortable sharing.

[bededazzle]

yeah. it’s tough. it’s kind of like there’s never a good time to be in a relationship. it’s been a while since i’ve been with anyone, but i personally see it as a matter of just trying to not have it affect the other person as much as possible, but if you’re depressive, chances are your partner may be an empath, and it’s going to affect them. but you know, she’s an adult and can decide what she can handle. some people can handle it ok. anyhow, i think you should go for it. i truly hope your depression goes away, but if it is recurring, there will never be a “good “ time and you have to experience relationships to learn how to manage them with depression. but yeah man. go for it. she might even cheer you up :)

[exitseven]

I dated somebody for a while one winter. We met at a New Years party. I was goung to s shitty commuter college and working a crappy part time job. I t was not going very well. Going out with this girl was the only nice thing I had in my miserable life. After 4 or 5 months she dumped me and went back to her old boyfriend. I was devastated and it took me a long time to get over it. Looking back I realize it was probably my fault because I was really mired in my crappy circumstances. I was very depressed and was not much fun to be around. I dont blame her for dumping me.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[LazerBean]

I briefly talked to a guy with chronic depression. It wasn't for me, but it was mutual. He went on to date a great girl that he is now married to.

[Nikki1989]

I had depression for a couple of years, but I talked myself out of it.