So I've been on dating sites for a while now and my most recent experience is with this girl that I really vibe with. We text each other practically 24/7, good morning, good night, and we tell each other to text us whenever we wake up. However, she said she's mainly looking for friends and sex. I asked her if I was a potential sex partner and she said "to be honest most likely not" which I'm okay with but at the same time I feel really hurt.
I'm 24 years old right now, but I'm only 4'11" tall and I'm overweight. I feel like I'll never find love and it's been bumming me out lately. I know people say that you have to "love yourself" before others can love you, but how can I love myself if no one wants me? So my question is do you think there is someone out there for everyone?
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Dude, I feel your pain. Dating at any age can be rough, but add things like height or weight into it and you'd think it's impossible sometimes. But listen man, don't lose hope - there absolutely is someone out there for you.
First off, fuck what anyone says about "loving yourself." Loving yourself is important, but it's also okay to feel like you need external validation too. We're social creatures.
But don't define your worth by what just one girl thinks. Even if you vibe hard, sometimes people just ain't feelin it and that's alright. Plenty more fish and all that.
Focus on the things you can change. Work on your confidence in yourself by working out at your own pace or trying new hobbies you enjoy. Not for anyone else, but for your own well-being.
And put yourself out there! Dating sites are hit or miss. Try joining clubs or activity groups - common interests are how real connections form.
You got this man. Chin up, keep working on being your best self, and I promise your person will come. They exist - don't ever think you don't deserve love too just because of things outside your control. You do!
Thank you! That actually means a lot to me! This may sound strange, but I feel like being overweight makes me look younger (I guess it’s baby fat 😂) and of course my height makes me look really young too. My most recent experience is with a really close friend I met on Facebook dating. We flirt a lot and we exchanged sexy pics, but to her it was all teasing and not genuine. I asked her if she was looking for a boyfriend and she said she’s looking for friends and sex at the moment. I asked if she saw me as a potential sex partner and she said most likely not. Which I’m cool staying friends with her, but it still hurt like hell. This may sound stupid, but do you know of any activity group examples? I found a place where a group gathers to play D&D, but I’m nervous because I’m a newbie. Do you know where I can find places? Like a website that tells me about groups or something?
Don't sweat it dude, we've all felt that rejection sting before. And I feel you on appearance making it harder sometimes - I've definitely struggled with insecurity about my own looks in the past too.
But as for meeting people, don't lose hope! A D&D group actually does sound like a really cool low-pressure way to connect with others who share an interest. And don't worry about being new - most gaming circles are very welcoming to newcomers in my experience. They'd be more than happy to show you the ropes.
As for finding groups, here are a few suggestions:
- Meetup. com - Great site to discover local activity/hobby groups of all kinds meeting up near you. I've found D&D groups listed there before.
- Your friendly local game/comic shop - Often hosts gaming nights and is a good place to ask about scheduled games/meet locals who play.
- College clubs - Even if you're not a student, some allow community members. Colleges usually have robust gaming communities.
- Facebook groups - Search terms like "[Your City] Tabletop Gamers" or "[Your City] RPG games" etc and ask to join.
Hope this helps man! And don't get discouraged - putting yourself out there is the hardest part. Your people are out there waiting to game with you, I'm sure of it. You've got this!
I am sure there are a few people out there that may never find somebody but I believe that most people if they put in the effort will make it
I’ve been trying to make an effort, but I keep getting rejected. Lately I’ve been feeling like I’ll never find love and I should just give up
Yes but nothing is perfect. That’s why swiping right is so fucking stupid.
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