I don't know. Maybe, I hope so. There's so many people in this world. So many ways to be raised or see the world, to experience it. Maybe the right person for me is the last one I expect. Sometimes, people who I expect to be the right person is so far from that, it's scary.
If you really think about it. We're all so different, I'm sure there is someone out there who would be absolutely perfect. But what are the chances that we will find eachother? Or that our first impression will develop into a relationship or that some other life event won't interfere?
In a way I think it's a waste of time to think like that. One day, if we keep searching and working on ourselves, we'll find someone who makes us happy and we can do the same for them. Maybe they're not perfect, but who is? Doesn't that already feel like you're getting away with something? To just be really close to someone who loves you? Maybe that's all we should be searching for. Now when you think about things like that, all of a sudden it feels like you have so many possibilities.
Yes. When I first met the woman that would eventually be my wife, I thought she was the most beautiful person I'd ever seen. I learned from dating her that she was even smarter than she was beautiful. I lost her to cancer after only 21 years together. However, I've attempted to find another like her and have failed thus far. SHE was my soulmate.
No. I've accepted I'm probably going to be single the rest of my life and I'm okay with that!
Let's be realistic here folks: if there was someone out there for everyone, why do some people go their whole lives alone, never find true love, or can't manage to get a date?
Yes, there are various factors that can make finding someone more difficult: from location, to your personality. But even then, some people are still screwed when it comes to dating and love! You can be the nicest person, have a good career, good looks, and STILL get screwed over trying to find "the one."
Why do you think so many people wind up settling? The person they're with isn't necessarily the right one for him or her. They were just willing to be with said person and rather than risk being alone, they learned to love them.
Yeah, not ideal.
So I've learned just to enjoy life and not stress over it.
For the people that are looking for the perfect person, perfect relationship, fairytale... NoFor those that aren't so superficial as to cast people aside because they don't fit a certain mold or standard, and just get to know them as a person and love them for "who" they are not "what" they are.. Yes
Meh. Maybe. Not everyone is going to find someone for the long haul, whether it is there own fault or not. I never have. My only requirement is that my partner and I connect on an emotional, intellectual, and physical level. She doesn't have to be a genius or a model. Just intelligent, attractive to me, and someone I develop an emotional bond with. Both the love of the person and the love of a lover. I don't think that is too much to ask.
No. It's based on factors beyond our control. People will tell me to do A, B and C and then women might love me. For example, they'll tell me to exercise. I've been consistently working out since I was 11 years old, and if I take my shirt off, people know. Meanwhile, other men don't have to do shit. They don't have to exercise, have hobbies, have a good job or even treat people that well. They just skate on by and jump from relationship to relationship. I know two men who are convicted for murder and attempted murder who both have multiple women waiting on them for ya know, 15-20 years. If you've got "it", there's nothing you can do to lose it, and if you don't well... you can buy a cat.
Maybe, but I don't really care if I don't find anyone to be with.
I've been in my fair share of relationships and I can already telling that I'm probably gonna be more happy if I live life as a bachelor.
I don't believe in soulmates or anything like that. You just find someone you like out of many and just choose to be with them. Until you end up wanting to be with someone else, probably.
There are probably a lot of people out here that you would find to be a perfect match for you, it just all depends ir you're just a desirable human being for anyone to be with.
I don't think it's hard to find anyone to be with if you have the means to actually find someone and to make sure you're not some undesirable person.
Yes it took me almost 40yrs to find her though lol. Well actually I met her when I was 21 for a brief moment while I was in the batting cage and she approached me with a friend to ask where the change machine was (which was an excuse to talk to me) but when I got out the cage I never could find her again. Everybody knows about soulmates, which doesn't have to be a significant other, it can be a family member, friend, or pet. Twinsouls on the other hand are someone who matches your energy vibration and there is only one person on Earth that matches you and they are strictly romantic partners. However, it is a pure spiritual relationship and if you aren't willing to heal yourselves and work towards enlightenment, the 2 of you will implode. It may take weeks or years to come to the point of reunion but this connection is so strong you will always feel them telepathically for the rest of your life.
I do, but I feel like you need to (metaphorically of course) fight for their affection and earn it through hard work and determination. Prove to them that you are loyal to them and deserve to be with them. when the time comes they will want to be with you since you were by their side during the best and worst times.
Then again some people enjoy being single due to the lack of pressure a relationship offers or because they have been through too many bad relationships. Either way, you have to put in the effort for love: very little in life magically falls into place for you!
No. Some people are lucky enough to find someone that has all the characteristics and chemistry (similar interests, views, communication, sense of humor, etc) while many others are not and struggle their entire lives to find that partner.
Language barriers are also a thing and even if you travel to another country, if you can't communicate with people as well as people of their native tongue it's hard to find someone patient enough to try with you. So in that sense, you are limited to finding partners that speak your language well, unless you they're patient, which means you're limited to your own country and other countries that speak your language in a sense.
No. Women universally aren't attracted to short, overweight, dark men who look like me. Not to mention, I hate ego and bragging about myself, and women also aren't attracted to humility. They like massive egos; confident men; swagger; braggadocio.
Also, the type of woman I want either isn't living on this world, or isn't single, or isn't single AND wants nothing to do with me. Not because I think so; because that's just how women are, as I just explained above.
I would LOVE to have a partner, but the type of loving caring woman I want doesn't exist, or if she does, she would want to have nothing to do with someone who looks like me and isn't tall. I've made my peace with the fact that this is how the world works and that people suck. That's why it's best to focus on myself and possibly helping my students, because true love is a fairy tale, and "unicorns" don't exist among real women.
You're honestly right most woman are like that they want guys with ego and rich and tall (not me) but this is the world you can't get what you want but you can build yourself up to be happy
No, no I truly don’t believe that. I have had very bad luck with relationships. I’m already in my early 40’s and feel it’s too late for me. A lot of men seem interested, but I am in a weird situation with my ex boyfriend and until I know more, my dating life is on hiatus. But no, I don’t think there’s anyone out there for me. I used to think that, until my ex husband filed for a divorce I had no idea was coming. I should just give up on trying to find someone to spend my life with. I don’t want to end up alone. I want someone to love and for someone to love me. But I just don’t see it anymore.
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I’d like to believe it to be true, but the more the Internet divides people in their politics, interests, etc. etc. etc... the way we all view the world... the less I feel like there’s a girl out there that has much of anything in common with me... much less be attracted to me, and I be attracted to her...
It ain’t happening. Unless I do something really substantial with my life where people view me as some kind of commodity, I don’t see it happening. People are so ADD now, it’s all about jumping to the next hottest thing, and attractive women have countless options. I’m just not in demand...
Not really. There's just people, and it's mostly just deciding to make it work or not with who they generally are. There's quite a few I could work well with even if we don't always match in everything now and forever as long as we're alive. Basically, just settle and accept the other one for who they are.
Romantically, no. It seems like I won’t ever be in a relationship since I always get ghosted or the “pick me” boys. Platonically, yes. My best friends are very important people in my life who I see as family so they’re pretty special.
Its all written in ones destiny, I am saying this based on my personal life. The ones I loved never loved me back the same way. I gave up along time now if it has to happen it will or else end up being alone for the rest of my life, I am 29 and never found anyone want me the same way I wanted someone.
Nope. On one hand you have murderers and rapists, who by that logic, would have some unfortunate soul destined to be their love. On the other hand, you also have children that die very young from bone cancer, who by this logic have someone meant for them that is now denied to them. Plus the many thousands of people each year who die alone.. yeah. It’s nonsense.
I don’t think there’s someone specific Their may be many people that you could build that love and bond with but after preferences and stuff come in that makes finding those people a bit harder
I used to believe it. But as times keeps going, I'm not quite sure.
Because I think you will only end up with people that's more or less similar with you.
For example if u're rich and elite people. You will most likely also end up with rich and elite people as your couple. Most of the case are like that though not all of them.
sorry but know. look at the basic numbers or ratio of people and it should become obvious. then add in things like asexuality, childhood morbidity, medical/mental conditions that prevent dating and statistics prove that some people do not have any counterpart.
For girls and women it’s easier because you’re the ones getting courted. Girls today can be pickier and I’m not even hating girls for that. We all have our own preference. My gripe is I have a sense of style, I can fight, I have book smarts and street smarts, I stay in shape, decent looking, got my masters, got into law school l, I can make others laugh, I can cook good food, I try to be sympathetic, patient and I don’t believe in cheating/adultery/drugs/or partying. If that’s still not good enough for girls then fuck it I give up. What pisses me off is when I see beautiful girls dealing with guys or men who abuse them physically or mentally, or girls who do drugs, or girls feeling the need to dress in a promiscuous way. Whatever it is what’s the point I’m already in my 30s and still a virgin. If mediocre over weight white guys can get girlfriend’s then there is a clear imbalance.
I'm seeking a girl who says: "I like to limit my phone usage only to necessities, don't have social media, prefer to focus as much as possible only on what's around me in the present moment, and minimize distractions"... I've come to believe, while there's arguably a winning lottery ticket out there, I'm about as likely to find it as I am this "someone".
Just realistic. When I go on trains, in waiting areas, nearly anywhere, and notice nearly nobody seeks to just enjoy (take in) their surroundings, but instead must be stimulated by digital devices in nearly every free moment, it reminds me few have a genuine interest to just enjoy the moment anymore,
Possibly, but I'm leaning more towards "no" with each day that passes. At this point, I sincerely believe that I'm either totally repulsive to anyone I'm actually attracted to or just so average that I'm not even worth a first glance let alone a second.
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