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29F, I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years. I’m under the impression that I want a relationship as I install apps on and off. I’m at the point where I get drained when they’re installed & when I’m not in the mood to reply to messages or swipe on profiles, I end up actually using it every other day or every couple of days. When I’m at the point where I notice I’m not getting as many matches or likes after a couple of months, that’s when I delete & likely going on hiatus. I think deep down I must want something other than validation right? I like men but I haven’t been in a ltr yet, I saw someone for a few months jn my early twenties & haven’t seen someone since bc I refuse to settle. I get interest from guys but it only seems to be on dating apps which I take with a grain of salt, I’m told I’m cute/attractive but never get noticed by guys I like in person (as in actually approached). I’m always told I haven’t found the right person & this may hold truth, I’m reserved & not affectionate/don’t have a sex drive really but feel like that could possibly change if I meet someone. I just worry I’ll feel regret as I’m getting old & still haven’t been in a ltr, I don’t want kids but open to marriage

A few of the songs of his romantic playlist:

- I wanna be yours (arctic monkeys)
- no 1 party anthem (arctic monkeys) - baby I’m yours (arctic monkeys). - stuck on the Puzzle (Alex Turner) - whistle for the choir (fratellis) - half drunk under a full moon (fratellis) - slow dancing in a burning room (John Mayer)

i think some of the songs are so cheesy that they are cringe worthy and I highly doubt that he feels like that about any woman let alone a girl he has spoken to once. Why would he make such a playlist for me? Do men really think we are that dumb?

I know I will NOT go back to my ex yet he said that the only reason he wanted to have sex with me was b/c he loved me. I thought men don't consider having sex when in love. Especially early on so what he said confused me b/c I was always taught that if a man loves you he won't have sex with you. I know he will think about it but may not wan't you to think that that is all he wants. He will wait as long as it takes even until marriage and definitely won't do anything sexual early on. But he said basically the opposite. So is there any truth to what my ex said or all lies. Only men that were or are in love answer please.