My concern is always manipulative behavior and/or to be objectified. He will do such wonderful things like play with my hair and buy me chocolate when I’m on my period; or sometimes asks me to do something other than sex (my sex drive is higher than his) because he wants to enjoy our time in different ways, like playing a game, watching a movie, going out for a walk (sometimes I could imagine he is tired or worse, trying to build up my tension). He texts me good morning and good night everyday, and tells me this is his most stable relationship. We’ve only known each other for a little over 4 months and dated a little over 2 months, so the relationship is very young. He has mentioned that he sees himself marrying me. Where I’m at emotionally, I would too! He is a great and active listener, and will redirect plans if I don’t want to do them, but I can’t help but wonder, am I just a good lay? I have my own self esteem issues I’m trying to work through. He isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. When we discussed engagement within the year, and I pushed it back, he became upset at first. He later accepted it. He is like this when things don’t turn out how he wants. He doesn’t yell or use rude words, but his tone communicates it all. I’ll admit I’m no bed of roses either! I tend to flee (because anger never felt safe for me to express) when I become upset and he chases after me to talk. However, we always come back to talk and hug it out.
Guys, He said, “men will go great lengths for good sex. How do I know when a man truly loves me vs playing me until he gets what he wants?
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