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I saw this happen a lot when I was younger. Admittedly I would sometimes get jealous/frustrated when an attractive woman choose a lesser attractive man over me just because he was “really funny”. And these men were also mediocre at other aspects in their lives (work, hobbies, etc.). Some of them were bums and/or scum bags.

Then I got older/mature and I shifted my position to “well I have to give credit where credit’s due”. If I saw an average looking guy pull a hot woman then I had a “good for you man” attitude. If I saw an attractive woman date some abusive asshole then I had “well you are going to get what you signed up for” attitude as well. And when these women got burned I refused to give them a shoulder to cry if they had the nerve to come crying to me about it.

But now I believe men are being judged more harshly by women on their looks more then ever before. Our digitized society has pushed it with social media and dating apps. But they some of them are just as judgmental as guys used to be (or worse). The only exception would be if the guy has money and/or fame.

I had this happen a few moths ago. I had 4-5 prior conservations with this young woman. She never mentioned being in a relationship at any point (I was listening carefully for that). I very cautious with her because I didn’t know her age but I was guessing she was in her mid 20s and I was 40 at the time

I finally gathered up my courage and asked her one day if “she would like to get breakfast”. She smiled and said “thank you but I have boyfriend”. I apologized and said I didn’t know and said I wouldn’t ask again. I was disappointed but also relieved that she smiled because the last thing I wanted to come off as was an “old creep”.

But later I came to believe she was lying. I guess I get why. It’s the best way to spare a man’s feelings and also prevent him from keeping trying. But I really don’t like being lied to. Rather her say “thank you Joey but tbh I am just not interested in you that way.”

Okay ladies, say there is this guy who is young, respectful, loving, caring, honest, sweet, affectionate, smart, and decent honest good man who is a smooth talkin kind of guy and has the mindset of the loves perception of what it is supposed to be and perceived to be as “True Love” to have a long lasting relationship with you for eternity for marriage to love you, protect you, honor you, respect you, care for your thoughts and feelings, and only desires a relationship with you.

Now to get in depth of a smooth talkin guy, he tends to come with the most unique words to say that would knock you off your feet and stands out on his own as a rarest of his own breed and kind apart from his peers his own age than the typical guy approach women like “damn, you sexy or you look good type shit, can I get your instagram or number” or what’s good shawty, you got a man… if you do have a man, he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t care and say I’ll take you from him or whatever, you know dudes like that I seen on YouTube who are young dudes in their early 20s or 19 whatever talking like that when a girl clearly is taken and not interested at all.

But this guy I’m speaking of wouldn’t talk or approach a woman like that, he tends to ask how a lady is doing, what is her name, compliment her genuinely, and wants to get to know her genuinely for who she is and learn about her as a person if only she’d be willing or gains an interest in allowing him to in exchange of her wanting to get to know him as well. He wants to know her for who she is inside and not for her body or appearance. He is the kind of guy who prefer the old school kind of love when he holds the door for his lady, write her love letters, bring her favorites flowers or roses 🌹, and having a picnic 🧺 with her in the park.