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I’m no more than an 8/10. So my girlfriend doesn’t want me for my appearance. Only for my personality.

She is a stunning lady that’s for sure. But sometimes it hurts when I think she probably checks out other dudes that are 9s+ when I’m not there. Because that’s what women really want, they are so picky.

She’s just settling for me. That kills

A recent take by The Atlantic mentions how Russian trolls have been spending the last 8 years trying to make Americans believe each other to be unpesuadable , on both sides, and to push both sides to be unpersuadable. Obviously this was a roaring success but I wonder if it is reversible. The problem is, I think, the misalignment of priorities.

Like the Trans thing. It's not that I can't be persuaded that there are only two genders: it's more that I don't see why it matters next to rich people robbing us for trillions of dollars. I don't think I can be persuaded to think settling the gender question is more important than rich people robbing us for trillions. But is the reverse possible? If right wingers already knew they are being robbed by rich people, could they be persuaded to believe that's more important than gender definitions? Or, perhaps, it might be more important to ask if rich people don't already know they are being robbed by rich people, could they be persuaded of this fact or would they put up walls to deny it as something something free market?

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Like when you see those hot girls dating less attractive men. What are they doing?

So I’m 29 and I have never dated anyone before, I have also never been in a relationship obviously. I’m asking this because I get the feeling that if I start dating now, most of the girls in my age group will have settling down in mind when they’re looking for a partner, it seems like the fun phase of dating is over after your early 20’s and most wanna get more serious and settle down after that, but am I wrong. I have the fear that I’m gonna come across a lot of girls who want to settle down, something I’m not even close to being ready for since I’ve never dated and it won’t work out. To be fair, I also wouldn’t want to date someone who’s looking to settle down just like she probably wouldn’t be interested in dating a guy who isn’t ready for that. Do you think this will be an issue?

It's often that you'll hear people say to "never settle" when it comes to dating. People also criticize others for being too picky--like telling a friend that they're pushing away great people over a long checklist of qualifications.

So my question to you is: what should we do? should we settle for someone who doesn't meet our original expectation for a boyfriend/girfriend/spouse, or should we wait it out and hope for that special someone that we've always imagined to come along?

Just as some thoughts:

Merits to settling include: making it easier to get into a nice relationship. Giving an ordinarily overlooked persona a chance, and breaking the trend of leaving "average" people alone and dsingle, in favor of clamoring after the people that everyone else already likes.

Merits to never settling include preventing a relationship with a dissatisfying partner, avoiding regrets in your relationship, and being absolutely certain that your choice of partner was the best.

So what do you think?

Also, listen to Bo Burnham's song about it when you get the chance. You'll laugh. It's called "Lower Your Expectations."