What’s your wisest take you can give in terms of relationships?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I believe no two people are 100% compatible so you have to really work to be in a relationship with somebody. You can’t expect a 100% perfect fit so there’s nothing wrong with settling and you should actually be more willing to settle given the fact that no two people are 100% perfect for each other.
That’s the reason why the notebook is my favorite movie of all time. It basically shows many things but proves my point.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Understand and prioritize 'solving' or compromising on frequently recurring problems. Couples who dismiss these 'trivial' problems are the ones who don't last, not because the issue is a large one, but because they are dismissing their partners desires daily. It doesn't matter who does it, it matters on whether or not the couple agrees on the arrangement and division of these routine chores/problems.

If you can't reciprocate procuring, providing, and cleaning up meals for your partner on the regular, you're asking for pent up resentment unless one strongly prefers being the full time cook.

Same thing, if you can't budget, demonstrate fiscal responsibility, or pay your partner back in a reasonable time frame, you're asking for problems unless your partner doesn't ever care about being paid back (everyone does eventually).

Of course, some disagreements are stupid, like 'how to' load a dishwasher because if they're doing it, it's not worth complaining about. At the same time, if it's they NEVER load the dishwasher, then that says a lot about how they value their time over yours, unless that's one of the things you agreed upon.

Same things over topics like sex, Quality time (planning dates), alone time, planning vacations, texting back, and family obligations to name a few. It doesn't matter how 'trivial' it is, if it comes up frequently, it's important.

[Amy10223]

Number one--be your true self. Don't change for anyone, unless it's for your own good- and you want to--or because the other person has influenced you and made you realize certain things about yourself. We all learn from one another on how to be a better person. Two, understand you can't change the other person and mold them into what you want them to be. Three-don''t allow hills to turn into mountains if you feel the relationship is worth it. No one is perfect and as you say, no relationship is 100% perfect. Learn to accept the differences that make each union interesting and perfect in its own way.

[Amy10223]

Thanks for the MHG

[Guy13]

Consciously, live Ephesians 5 as there are directions for BOTH girls and guys. The underpinnings of Marriage/Couple Counseling is from there. It’s difficult to care for another’s Self more than your own, Self…. directions are helpful 😎

[FilmGuy93]

Here's one that I'm quite proud of; you don't need to have a whole life plan to know that you value someone and to express it. Take that shit seriously in this moment. There isn't a single person who can't have relationships.

[VanguardTitan]

I think I'm the exception to your last line 😂😂

[FilmGuy93]

@VanguardTitan even you, lol. Even you

[VanguardTitan]

Experience tells me otherwise 🤣
But I appreciate your faith in me

[MoniqueTLC]

Relationships are hard work. Both individuals in a relationship need to actively work on keeping the attraction and chemistry alive. Effort and open and honest communication goes a really long way.

Partners need to be conscious with one another, and understand each others differences. Support is a big one, as well as being able to stay autonomous in a relationship is massive if you want it to be successful.

I could go on!

[Anonymous]

I dont like the word "settle", but I do think that there are core things each person needs from a relationship. As long as those needs are met, much of the rest doesn't matter so much

[MCheetah]

If you have to try really hard early on, then it's not meant to last and it's best to save each other a lot of time.

[sheikalana]

Be patient. Give space to each other. Open communication.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Time to repent your sins

[MementoMori_]

DON'T DO IT!

[Anonymous]

Don't bother