Do guys “shit test” women?

[Anonymous]

Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

Yes just as much as vice versa

Yes but not as often

Men don’t intentionally shit test women

[Shamalien]

yeah basically all men run the same shit test, put out, get left behind. Ladies, keep yer legs shut if you want respect. Once you’re sure the relationship is going somewhere, like min 3 months, then put out if you want but tbh the girls who wait for marriage are the smartest

[Asker]

Some women go WAY to far on holding back though. I get why in the early stages. But if the guy is total gent and a decent match for him she might just end up friendzoning and hooking up with the first f*ckboy she finds. So this is tricky. .

[Shamalien]

If a girl hooks up AT ALL then they cannot be holding out on a guy. This strategy is for pure or mostly pure women, or at the very least women who have taken a long break

[Asker]

Well the guy needs to know she really does like him and respect him. Having sex with him is usually a big confirmation of that (but not always).

I don’t know about you but I’ve had a couple women tell me they wanted to wait which I initially respected. But the ugly reality is they were using me as a placeholder until something better came along which they gave it up to fast. That was beyond horrible.

[Shamalien]

Yeah I’ve seen that happen. If a woman sleeps around don’t fuck with her at all man. I mean unless you’re gunna have sex fast yeah because with women like that it’s either you or someone else, she’s gettin it somewhere

[Asker]

It’s just an egregious bullshit excuse to friendzone. It was also a major reason I started pushing sex early. Not for gratification but to make a claim.

[Shamalien]

Good women are going to avoid you then. Enjoy the sluts

[Asker]

Well I’ve tried doing the right thing and being a gentlemen in the past. I got burned every time. Every single f’ing time.

I actually slept with all three of my last three long time gfs within 3 dates. None of them were “sluts”.

[Shamalien]

If you enjoy easy women then enjoy man you do you.

[Shamalien]

You can only be a gentleman to a lady so if she’s not a lady I agree

[TroyDT]

I don't play that, but I am sure some dudes do.

[SaoirseS]

Sounds like middle and high school antics.

[Asker]

For the most part it is. But some of these deeper (subconscious) behaviors persist well into adult hood. We might be more subtle/comped about it. But it’s still there.